feb babies - it's time to glow and grow :)

[angels1]

Hello all,

I just realised I put the 1000'th message on our last thread (uh oh, I think that's the limit), so in my at not realising I'd reached the limit, thought I'd better start a new thread if anyone finds it.

me too prof.mine is in two weeks and ill be nearly 21 its probably just us it probably makes no difference.
I am not seeing obs until 36 wks either and i wanted to know when my c section would be scheduled as i know they do it a week early but prob have theatre dates. DH is trying to fill out his pat leave form and we wanted it to start on the day as only 2 wks and the police are such arses re leave etc.

Hello ladies, thanks for all your best wishes!! Such a huge relief to say the least and its good to know slightly earlier than normnal that everything is ok. Its suddenly become very real for us both!!!

We had to find out the sex! I needed to be in control of something!!!

Its interesting what you say about the name of the scan Deliaskis we felt the same way about it last time, in hindsight we felt we should have realised that something could go wrong from the name of the scan! I sound so negative and its dreadful I'm sorry, I think its the medical industry being very blunt about what its for!!

40 wks i have 3 boys then a girl and people actually asked me if i was disappointed when i had ds 3.Bloody cheek of it.Also when i had dd of course i was pleased(didnt find out before)and i ahd a suspiciously large amount of flowers and vistors as if id finally done the right thing. My boys are ace and now they are grown have me in fits of laughter. Eldest has just gone in the army on monday(sob sob)
I feel very worried that everyone is buying stuff i have nothing and wasnt going to bother until about 30 wks. Is that ok?Am moving rooms about tho.have to find out the sex as pink carpet in the babies room so need to change if a boy.Was told at the nt scan it was a girl but too early to rely on that.
I caused a real stir at school today with my big belly. I was on my bike so hard to tell till i got off then the stares started.One woman said"your mad"how rude. I looked her in the eye and said"i think its fantastic"people can be so negative.I m not having it tho.

ledkr I can't believe how nosy/rude people can be in general when it comes to pregnancy/children. I always remember some stranger came over to my mum when my sister was a baby (she's 10 yrs younger than me) and said 'is it the same father?' (it is btw!) - I couldn't imagine people being so blunt before! I haven't got any 'when's it due?' type comments from anyone yet, but I think that's as I still just look fat. And don't panic about not getting anything - I haven't actually brought anything whatsoever, just been gratefully accepting offers of second hand stuff (which I haven't yet physically got anyway).

did you see my post re weight?I thought id be brave re disclosing weight etc to try and help you find some perspective.
People always asume my ds and dd are from different dads co 12 yr age gap and i always cut them dead by saying it was due to my CANCER that usually suits them up.
At school i have probably ruffled a few feathers as i am in that age group where women are saying a sad tata to their child bearing yrs ( i know cos i was feelig it 18 wks ago haha) and now im making them doubt what to do cos if she can do it could i?
I am having all my grand sons stuff so dont realy need to buy a lot might look at the pushchair you said tho. I need a pram cos dd at school over the field and want baby to sleep in pram so i can nip across to get her without waking it/her.This will be in my size 10 jeans, full make up and hunter wellies i predict....NOT!

or shuts them up :o

Angels how you doing today? I told one of the school mums yesterday I was pregnant, and she gave me a look that said "seriously can you not control yourself" Its my 3rd, am not that old, and whilst I love dh he certainly is resistable!!

I feel that my bump is really big today, think that my body is throwing in the towel and just admitting it can't be arsed holding anything in !!

It amazes me the things people come out with I've been fairly lucky so far but when we painted the baby room blue before DD was born, everyone thought we would be disappointed because we were hoping for a boy and that we would redecorate. These comments soon stopped why I replied that an under-the-sea theme nursery would look pretty crap with pink walls

no ledkr I'm sure I didn't find your post with your weight on - where did you put it? Have I missed it on here? I'm not sure I'm brave enough to disclose my mammouth weight - I'm sure it trumps all of yours

hello wigglesrock we're not back at school until next week (joys of the private system!) so still trying to get enough energy to feel I can cope. Tbh I'm really worried about it - I've managed short trips out yesterday/monday for an hour or so but it's made me shattered in the evenings (when my ms gets bad again from the tiredness I think) and today so not really been able to do anything. Just about managed to walk to the local shop to buy some chocolate (not for me I hasten to add while you all think I'm a pig anyway, for DH as I made him his favourite today - millionnaires shortbread. First time he's had home baking in 3 months so sure he'll be pleased). I've got a killer headache today and feeling quite dizzy/faint and my body is just feeling so knackered I'm struggling to walk around the house. I still question how on earth I can cope with teaching at the minute but I don't want to miss beginning of term. How did you find it?

angels am still being really sick, had really hoped it would start to tail off, my sickness also gets worse in evening, especially if I have worked during the day or done something unusual. Took dd2 swimming this morning, am sure I will pay for it this evening!!

My dd1 is back to school so I am getting a little more rest although work is looking unappealing, I work 3 days a week and dread them although strangely work is the place I have been least sick. Was feeling really sorry for myself at beginning of week when I realised I had been sick 3-4 times a day for the past 11 weeks!! but am more positive now I am feeling bubs move. Also am finishing work before Christmas so just keep telling myself it's not that far away.

I remember feeling really worried, upset, insecure when expecting dd1, think it was because everything was unknown and had more time to think, barely have time to remember I'm pregnant with 2 dds being so wonderful but very demanding

Am sending happy thought to you girls who are stressed and/or feeling sick. It really is no joke, there is no respite and nothing you can take so I have every sympathy for you.

I cant believe people can be so presumptious - why is any more than two kids seens as a 'mistake/accident' ?? Someone asked me at a local garden centre if they had the same father! They arent even 2 years apart, she was a charity collector and THATs what she comes out with in a 2 min conversation!!! Astounding. I wish I had said 'Who knows' or 'probably not' or 'we are waiting for the paternity test as things have been a bit up in the air since the swingers party we went to'

someone at school just said congratulations. Miracle eh?
wriggles i am feeling pukey in the evenings after my dinner and i had no ms early on.I am feeling very well actually touch wood been on my bike here and there all day and off to park now with dd its gorgeous here btw.
I am dreading work and considering finishing asap which i have never done before.
I am an adoption sw and i hate it,worked in child protection before which i loved but got transfered as department cuts etc.To cap it all my office is moving in Oct and will add extra half hr to my journey(at the mo its about 2 mins)this will be on top of already 8-9 hr days and my childcare ends at 5.30. I feel gutted and just dont know what to do. May ring personel and ask them for a transfer but dont know if they will. I noticed on my contract it says place of work is my curremt workplace so i dont know if this will help me. I just cant face it we will not even have our own desks and pcs and so much paperwork to complete.
angelsthose pushchairs are lush..cant find them for 100 though but stil reasonable.Love the pink spotty one for a girl..quick wish..:o

40weeks maybe it's the same mad old nosy person who asked my mum all those years ago and you at the garden centre... We do live quite close to each other (and if it's polhill garden centre you refer to wouldn't suprise me at how rude people can be there - I had the delight pleasure joy poor luck to work in the cafe there when I was at school.)

ledkr can you see citizens advice bureau about your office moving? They might be able to give you some legal pointers.

Gosh my head is killling. I've had to resort to lying in bed again. This pregnancy thing really is no joke

PS Ledkr for some advice post on Employment issues board on MN, I have used it and got some really good advice.

Hello all!

ledkr hope you get some helpful advice from CAB. My work is moving office the month I am due so I'm a bit worried that it'll be all change when I go back, thats a long way away the the moment though!

angels funny you should mention talking to the bump, only last night I started talking to my bump for the first time, felt a bit silly but was home alone so that was ok

I can't believe the rude comments people have had about their pregnancy! For gods sake, if you don't have anything nice to say and all that.

Finally, I have my 2nd midwife appt tomorrow - I am both excited and scared, I am a worrier and thinking the worse ie what if she can't find the heartbeat etc. So am going to think positive!

thanks ladies i will look.i do need some advice tho.
angelsi have been ok on the headache front since my cold went.My gp did finally relent and let me have some codene which helped no end. It maybe worth a visit before you are back at school. I cannot imagine working with it cos they are so painfull.
Just been to the park with mate and dds it was so lovely we had a flask and doughnuts and got onto telling funny sex stories as you do. Were in absolute hysterics and the girls wondered what was wrong. I forgot how nice it is to talk and think about something and not pregnancy. We have made a date to go on a boozy night out when baby is about 8 wks old. Do you think that wishfull thinking. I thought i would wear one of those big body shapers which Gok uses. From ankle to neck and ill look fab.haha

Congratulations lulabel on your wedding. Hope you all stop feeling sick soon. Fortunately people in America often have large families so most comments here have been positive. I want to find out the sex this time as I want to know which clothes to keep and which to give away/sell! I have been convinced all along it's a girl so we'll have to see if I'm right. I don't think we'll tell anyone in RL what it's going to be, just in case the sonographer is wrong. Have a good evening!

Got my blood results today, 1 in 30403 chance of downs or spina bifida. I know that doesn't mean all clear but it puts my mind at rest now I have the results

yes, bras, went to the pub this afternoon (to celebrate the beginning of a new (unemployed/ doing supply) term, and had to take it off in the pub toilets, could not stand the bloody thing!
My next mw app is on Monday, I also want to hear the hearbeat!
Thanks Tarlia, I have been feeling a lot better after deciding what it was and thinking about what i could do.
Xx

Were definitely going to find out, partly because were curious but also because I am SO irritated with the older members of my family telling me how terrible I am for even considering finding it out. It's not the "proper" thing apparently. Bah.

Morning all,

Have just found this new thread, although i think it's probably quite old by now, it's just i've not been on MN much.

I've got plenty to add to the inappropriate things people say comments, mostly it's been "oh... was it planned?" after we've told them. I hadn't realised what a big deal getting married was first as i'm sure married couples don't get asked that, especially not with the first baby. DP and I have been together 8 years, so it's surely not really a surprise! I've really wanted to say 'no we're just really irresponsible and didn;t bother with contraception as obviously cos we're not married we're not havign sex!' But can't quite bring myself to say it...

My mum also commented that she'd have preferred it if we'd got married first, but then seemed to feel she could justify it by saying "well at least when you get back from Botswana you can get married". She seems to think it's solely a convenience issue that's stopping us, not a conscious choice... my sister reckons she's suffering with Catholic guilt.

Sorry rant over! My DP's mother has been great though, she's really excited for us and is coming out to visit in Nov, and keeps sending me emails asking how i am etc - v sweet!

Re bras, yes totally with everyone on the itchyness and ill fittingness. I bought myself some new ones the other week, and already think they're too small. I'm normally a 34D but got 36E as they fitted in the shop, but they're digging in a bit already! I'm coming back to UK in a couple of weeks so going to go to Bravissimo then. Does anyone have any advice though about when they'll stop growing? Not sure what size i should go for and how much bigger i'm going to get!

The weather here has suddenly changed and within about 2 weeks spring has sprung and it's getting hot again. I'm going to try and buy summer maternity clothes when i'm back, hoping i can find some end of summer sales...

Anyway, hope everyone else is feeling well, and enjoying the start of their bumps - i just look a bit fat like i've eaten a big lunch!

I'll make an effort to keep up with this thread - the other one was hard work as it moved so quickly!

canoe now you come to say it I've been asked if it was planned, and I'm married, AND it's our first! The only thing I can think is it's as we only got married in March so maybe they think it's very quick (little do they know I already had a mc last year which was also planned - the pg not the mc obv!). Have been wondering how you've been doing in botswana and glad all generally well. On the bra issue - I was always led to believe they get their biggest just after birth with all the milk etc - not sure on that though, just what I think I've read.

Think I'm officially driving DH insane - after 2 nights of asking him to get me various foods when I felt too ill to make/cook them, I had a terrible nightmare about my baby dying last night and woke up feeling terribly scared and upset....and hungry, and only veggie bacon on toast and a glass of milk would do, but I felt too bad to do it myself, so woke him up at about 4am to ask him. I feel so guilty at being such a terrible wife at the minute, it's no wonder he's grumpy all the time - he's doing pretty much all of the cleaning, most of his cooking (I usually make home cooked meals), getting food/drink for me when I feel bad and putting up with all of my moans with little complaint. Think it's starting to wear thin now as it's been so long. Still, I keep telling him his annoyance is nothing to the horribleness I'm living with... sigh.

DH and I have been married nearly 6 years, this is our 2nd DC and people have been asking if it was planned. There's no escape!

canoe I think I got my maternity bras at around 6 or 7 months, my boobs didn't get much bigger after that although they were pretty large when my milk came in. I can't afford to spend loads on bras (and they do cost loads!) so I left it fairly late.

angels1 It'll be good practice for your DH for when the baby is born

Hello all,
I posted yesterday but must have gone into a black hole in cyberspace. Anyway, was complaining about bras...

Really feeling for you angels1, but in any case, just think how horrid being a teenager is, so those kids really have nothing against you (if you teach secondary, if not, then what do they know? well, actually that applies in both cases).

Re maternity clothes, I remember a few years ago thinking how much choice there was in maternity wear, even nice things... And now I can't find anything!

A question, have you all got antenatal classes sorted out? I have second appoinment with mw on Monday, is there anything else I should deff. be asking?

Thanks and have a nice day.