Due May 2011?

[Purplebuns]

Just got back from the docs, however we have known a few days.. Anyone else around? :)

So sorry Purple dont know what to say except please look after yourself x

Mummywilliams please let us know how you get on.

So sorry to log on tonight and read your sad news purple. :( There are no words. Please be kind to yourself.

Mummywilliams how are you?

Purplebuns - so sorry to hear your sad news. I have spent the last few days reading the thread before I joined and had my Fx'ed for you.

mummywilliams - wishing you all the luck in the world at the hospital.

It's tough, isn't it?! Amazing how everyone talks about how painful giving birth is, but no-one about this bit... So sorry for Purplebuns - so difficult having got this far :(

Been a difficult day with ms again - pants! But every day suffered is another day towards the 12 weeks - keep your chins up, girlies!

Just about coping largely thanks to Pretzels, Sea Bands and frequent naps... Roll on November!

Having called the Out of Hours doctors, I was sent to the hospital for an appointment with the Out of Hours doctor. I was the first and only patient there, but many followed after me. I overhead a conversation the receptionist was having, which was basically saying that a doctor was not going to be there until 11pm. How disgusting is that?

Anyway, it turns out that there would be no doctor as said, until 11pm and that I would not be offered a scan at all over the weekend as there is nobody there to do it??????? How rubbish is that?

So we enquired as to whether my next nearest hospital would be able to do a scan (which is Addenbrookes) a world renowned hospital. And no, its the same situation there, nobody to do it!!!!!!!!

So we have come away none the wiser. I have had no more blood. I have no pain. So I am going to try and believe that it was something to do with the vaginal scan from yesterday until I know for sure on Monday when I will be able to have a scan.

Does the world think that being pregnant stops just because it is the bloody weekend? Sorry for rant, its because I am extremely panicked.

xxx

Purplebuns very sorry to hear your news, please make sure you get some rest and hugs and surround yourself with good things. Best wishes for the future.

Oh, mummywilliams, I really hope you manage to get some rest this weekend and that it all blows over and turns out to have just been an aggravated cervix. We have had quite enough unlucky mums on this thread.
We'll all be sending you strong and sticky thoughts. x

purplebuns, I am so sorry. x

Oh lovely purple I am so, so sorry. It must be so hard having come this far. I hope you get the support you need. It's hard to know what to say, but want you to know we're thinking of you and are sad for you.

Yes meet my midwife on Thursday and she was lovely!!! I could not have asked for a better experience to be honest, she had my full medical notes and think she must have spoke to the nurse as she was aware of my previous medical issues and the battle with my weight and depression issues.
I hope all of you who have yet to meet your midwives are as lucky. I do feel more reassured now and ready for what's to come and the choices I get to make.

The cold on the other hand has taken over and I feel dreadful as think a chest infection which I am prone to is starting to settle in!! Boo!!

MummyWilliams what a fabulous health service the UK has... NOT.

Your panic is completely understandable. Fx you stay pain free and can hang on until Monday when you can get some answers. Do you have an appointment on Monday or do you have to go through the whole rigmarole again?

Hi, I am due on the 18th May 2011.!!
It is my first and a BIG shock!!! I'll be 8 weeks on Wednesday, still no morning sickness!!?? Am i normal???

Hi! All

Managed to get some rest last night. No more blood to report, phew!

Still feel uneasy but hoping to be reassured tomorrow.

It's wet, rainy & generally very miserable here. So going to have a 'lazy' day. Well as 'lazy' as it can get with a 9 & 7 year old.

xxx

I dont know if my body is trying to get me ready for early baby mornings because I seam to be waking up alot earlier than normal and without an alarm which is unknown for me!
My DH used to joke that I needed an alarm to get up in time for lunch on a Sunday!

But this morning I was up and 8.30 and finding with the morning sickness if I dont eat early enough I feel rough all day.

Im glad its better today for you MummyWiliams and tomorrow they can give you some reasurance.

mummywilliams that's unbelievable! It think that's worth a letter to people high up...! However, it sounds as if things have settled down. I've read so much already and it's very common to have bleeding, especially if you've just been 'fiddled' with. I'm distressed because I was told by my doctor I am high risk due to my age and to have everything early, ie, 8 weeks, but the first scan is not until 12 - they really are rubbish. Am almost tempted to go private, but it would break the bank...

Just found out that the government's 'maternity grant' of £190 is begin stopped in January. Sign of the times. Was looking forward to not feeling guilty about spending money on a cot!

Cold + morning sickness = utter misery!

sesamesmith I think I am the same age as you (39) I've not been told anything like that. If this LO goes the distance, will be due a month before my 40th - that will be the bestest present ever.

Maybe if you were mid 40's then yes maybe. I think your Doc is talking out of his you know what!!!

So sorry Purple big big hugs

Very sorry to hear your news Purplebuns.

Very much hope you are feeling ok at the moment MummyWilliams and no more bleeding.

I have been lurking rather than posting - this board is going so much quicker than the antenatal thread I was on with my DD!

I have had my booking in appointment and was rather annoyed that my midwife didn't seem able to explain clearly what my choices are regarding the various tests you can have (I'm in a different town than I was with DD). DH was there too and he couldn't make sense of what she was saying either! I seem to be able to have the NT scan at c.12 weeks and the quadruple test seems to exist here, but she just couldn't explain whether you get that if your NT scan shows a higher risk, or if you can just choose to have the quadruple test instead of the NT scan, or vice versa, or what. Grrr! I am not filled with confidence in her.

Welcome new people, and Prestonbub - no sickness / feeling sick is normal (I didn't have any with DD) - I seem to feel nauseous some days and not others with this bean (which I hope is normal too!). Have been having lunchtime naps at the same time as my DD, which is very nice, as am feeling rather tired. Otherwise feel relatively ok...

On the Health in Pregnancy grant - just found out that you can still get it if you reach the 25th week of your pregnancy before Jan 1st 2011, which rather rules us out! See here.

purplebuns I am so sorry to hear your news. I hope that you are being looked after in rl and are taking it easy xx

mummyw hope you are ok too. I think we must be in v similar places as I have a choice between the hospital beginning with H and addenbrookes! I am v sorry you have had such a rubbish experience over the weekend, although I think from other people I know it is par for the course tbh. Am currently struggling to work out which of the two to go for - had DD at the Rosie but although care was good the birth experience wasn't and so am trying to work out whether it might be better to go for a slightly less busy hospital and different place in an attempt to make me more relaxed... homebirth prob not an option because of suspected Gestational Diabetes :(

sorry not had much time to be around but been trying to read. Hello to everyone else, hope those struggling with sickness and nausea are doing ok - I am more or less eating every hour to try and stave it off - not good when porky like me!!

loopy I'm ok, no more bleeding.

runningmonkey I had both children at H, can honestly say that I cannot fault them once you are past 12 weeks. Things have changed alot there also, they have a MLU which when I had to give birth to my son (my recent 2nd trimester loss) I had to walk through and it looks very, very nice. However, I am elective section usually. The post-natal ward is very nice too. I struggled with breast feeding my first born, and they really helped, in fact I would've given up if they hadn't helped. The staff are mostly helpful if you need them there, but not in your face if you just want to get on with things yourself. I've no experience of the Rosie.

Another rant be warned. I duly waited for my call from the EPAU this morning, to which I missed as I was dealing with DC getting ready for school etc. However, she left a message to say that she could bring my appointment forward from 15th to the 8th (this Friday). I was not happy at all. As far as she is concerned I am bleeding, as I have not been able to tell them otherwise. And she is happy to leave me like that for the whole week - how disgusting is that????

Anyway told DP, and he immediately got in touch with someone connected to my Consultant. She asked him to call the sonographer direct, to which he did. I hope all of this is making sense. She basically told DP that they don't usually scan within a week of each scan. So he said, but my partner has had a small bleed on Saturday etc etc - you all know the rest. She said well, you know, if I could I would scan you everyday, but everyone would want the same etc etc - usual spiel. She then said and I quote "well if we scan you this time, then if she has another bleed, she will want scanning again" - how crazy is that? What is an EPAU for?

Anyway cut out alot of tooing and froing (sorry if thats not how you spell that) I ended up having to call her back. She said the same things to me, she said seeing as you are so panicked can you come in today at 2pm, but and I quote again "this is a one off and on the understanding that if it happens again, we can't scan you". I am so hacked off

Thats like saying "well we treat your ingrowing toenail this time, but if it comes back, well then thats that"!!!! Or i'll give you this pain relief for your headache this time, but next time well you can forget it.

Upshot of it all is I have a scan today at 2pm. And partner is putting in a hefty complaint tomorrow.

Rant over - sorry. Feels better to get it out.

Hope everyone is ok today.

xxx

purplebuns so very sorry to hear what you've been through. Hope you are getting lots of rest and support from your family.

MummyW are you OK? how was the scan?

good to see you!

Had a lovely weekend staying with close friends who really looked after me, esp. after I told them The News.

Had blood tests on Fri and booked in for 20 week scan the week before Christmas, which seems sooo far away just now. Still only 2.5 weeks to go till the first one, am counting the days - just want to see that little heartbeat and get the nuchal result, am being positive in accordance with new resolution not to drown myself in worry about pg. Have more than enough other stuff to fret about in the meantime.

MummyW sorry x-post - that's AWFUL and no wonder you are . Hope all goes OK this pm.