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May Babies 2006

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hockeymum · 22/08/2005 12:35

I thought I'd start a due May 2006 club even though its very early in the month for it.

My stats are

ME: 31
DH: 30
DD: 3 next week!
Next DB due: May 1st (4 weeks pregnant today!)

Just been to the docs to get it all confirmed and seeing the midwife tomorrow. Look forward to more of you joining me as the month progresses!

Actually, I expect to have an elective section after an emergency one with DD so db will probably be born at the end of April. But like the idea of a May thread nonetheless!

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runtus · 15/11/2005 16:17

Hi Mula, you'll have to keep us all updated on your progress so we can see the diffs in having one to two!

mula · 15/11/2005 16:37

Thanks everyone. I'm feeling surprisingly well. Haven't had any morning sickness at all which according to a very surprised gynaecologist is a little bit unusual as apparently it's a lot worse with twins so i seem to have escaped all that - so far anyway. Very tired but i supposed i had better get used to that.

tortoiseshell · 15/11/2005 22:17

Wow! Exciting - good luck Mula!!!!

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hockeymum · 16/11/2005 08:04

Well Done Mula! How exciting! Do keep us informed of how it all goes with 2 inside! Feel very proud of yourself and gt lots of rest. Well Done

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runtus · 16/11/2005 09:38

Anyone else finding they are getting a bit jittery, now the initial sickness and tiredness has pretty much stopped I can't help to feel a bit worried I'm not feeling 'pregnant' anymore??

I know I am being daft but I really can't wait till the scan on Friday just for reassurance everything is ok.

Anyone else feel that way?

cori · 16/11/2005 19:36

Hi,
I have had a worrying few days, had some spotting on Sunday, and had convinced myself that I didnt look or feel pregnant any more, and couldnt feel any movement etc. I had my weekly scan today and all is well. Baby is growing well, am 15+6 but scan puts me at 16+4. I am now over my second major hurdle of this pregnancy,as am past the point where I miscarried last time. I have also had my DS risk as 1:700, am very surprised at this because for my age alone, it is 1:350.
Feel quite relieved.

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hockeymum · 17/11/2005 08:19

Cori, so pleased to hear your latest update. I had been wondering how you were as I know this is a difficult time for you. I'm really glad you have got further with this pregnancy and are able to enjoy looking at the scans and seeing your lovely baby every week. Once you get past the 20 week scan time I am sure you will feel more and more relaxed as time goes on.

Runtus (and others) yes, isn't it weird how we moan about feeling so sick and weird and then when we feel better for a few days it just worries us that we don't feel pregnant anymore. I was at the ice hockey with dh last week and I said to him that for the first time in this whole pregnancy I just did not feel at all pregnant. It was a totally alien concept to me having been so ill and therefore so aware of the pregnancy. But, I'm learning to love this not feeling too bad stage - long may it last!

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HandbagAddiction · 17/11/2005 11:57

Cori - so glad to hear your update and that things are looking very positive for you! Welcome also to Mula and congratulations on the twins!?

Had my 12 week scan on Monday and pleased to be able to report that all is OK. Nuchal measurement is also good so the Downs Risk is low - something like 1 in 853. Not convinced I'm starting to feel any better yet...still knackered and very sick if I haven't eaten enough at frequent intervals during the day - although also convinced that my tiredness is being caused by catching up after my three day trip to New york last week. Nothing to get too excited about though - work related and only one hour spare for Bloomingdales / Banana Republic shopping!

So, hope everyone else is OK and keeping their babies safe and warm.....!

Enid · 17/11/2005 12:01

have appt with midwife today to dither about birth choices

hopefully she will pick up heartbeat (my fave bit of pg)

cori · 17/11/2005 19:50

I told DS today. He said 'I knew there was a baby in your tummy, Mummy'

Feel a bit nervous about telling him though, wont make a big deal of it, only talk about if he mentions it first. I will buy some one those first experiences books after 20 week scan.

Mandymoo · 17/11/2005 20:56

Hi - havent posted on here for ages but been lurking! Had blood tests yesterday and midwife rang me today to say that my downs screening has come back high at 1:150. Got to go to hospital tomorrow and talk to somone. Head all over the place but i guess i'll just wait and see what they say tomorrow. Hope all you guys are ok XX

cori · 17/11/2005 21:07

Good luck Mandymoo.
I had the same risk with DS 1:150, was offered an amnio but refused. He is fine.

Mandymoo · 17/11/2005 21:09

thanks Cori - i'm mad with myself for having the test in the first place as i never had it first time round. Still, got to deal with it now i guess. Will see what they say tomorrow - thanks XXX

cori · 17/11/2005 21:37

When I was told I had this risk in my first pregnancy, I was quite distraught. Cried all night. They will offer you an amnio, but they should also tell you that the risks associated with an amnio are higher than your risk of Downs. With an amnio the risk of miscarriage is 1:100.
As I said I refused an amnio because of the risk of miscarriage, and also because I didnt think I would terminate if I found out it did have downs.
Have you discussed it with your partner yet? What does he think.?

Mandymoo · 17/11/2005 21:53

Have discussed it with dh but we havent really reached a conclusion - we're just going to see what they say tomorrow. Thanks Cori XX

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hockeymum · 18/11/2005 08:43

Mandymoo - sorry it must be such a worrying time for you, you've had a bad time of this pregnancy lark haven't you?

My friend was told at her 20 week scan (thats when they do the nuchal bit here) that she had a 1 in 50 chance of having a Downs baby and they thought if it wasn't Downs it might be some other chromosomal disorder. She faced enormous pressure to have an amnio, but refused. The doctors really couldn't comprehend why she would want to have the baby anyway. They even tried to persuade her to have the amnio at 32 weeks when there is less risk of miscarriage, but her attitude was that if the baby did have problems then they wouldn't be helped at all by being born 8 weeks early. (This happened to one of my friends after an amnio at 32 weeks). Anyway, friend refused all amnios etc and the baby was born on time and is now 2 years old and perfect.

The choice of what you do is yours. But you might like to decide in an unhurried way with your dh so if you decide you don't want any intervention tests you are sure of your decision before you see the doctors. Personally, to me it seems clear that it is in the NHS's interests that babies with "disorders" are not born because they cost the health service money and they would rather lose a few healthy babies on the way, from amnios etc, than risk less able children are born. Hope that doesn't sound too cynical, but it is my experience that it is hard to fight for the rights of your child when you have started down a road of intervention.

That said, it is your life and your choice. I hope you and dh find a way to make a decision you are comfortable with. We are all here for you whatever you decide and whatever you find out.

Thinking of you xx

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Enid · 18/11/2005 09:14

thinking of you mandymoo, keep us posted x E

sniff · 18/11/2005 09:33

I have never had a nuchal measurement that has been mentioned to me anyway can you explian what it is please

I had my 12 week scan last monday baby seems fine thank god after being told it wouldnt sustain itaelf this was a emense relief I finally feel I can start getting excited now and I dont feel so sick anymore yippee

sniff · 18/11/2005 09:35

Hope you are ok Mandymoo Thinking of you x x x

littlemisspiggy · 18/11/2005 09:57

Hello Everyone,
It's nice to see some more updates as the thread was getting a bit quiet!
Do I dare say I think I'm feeling a bit better sickness wise. Still feel a nauseous at times when I'm very tired but I don't seem to have this almost "out of body experience" sensation and constant nauseau with automatic throw-up the minute I enter the kitchen IYSWIM.
Mandymoo - I was think the risk of miscarriage with an amnio and CVS sound so high but you can think of it in terms of a 1% chance of miscarriage. That is a 99% likelihood that there is no miscarriage. By choice I had an amnio for DS1 and a CVS for this baby because I preferred to know conclusively. Remember that apart from Downs these tests also look for Edward's and Patau's which I understand are less compatible with life and about 400 other genetic conditions which it might help to know about in order to prepare to cope with them on a daily basis.
I am not trying to say you should have the tests because it's a personal decision. I'm just trying to say that IMO they are not as scary as they sound. Please try not to stress too much over it but whatever decision you are most comfortable with will be the right decision for you. Sorry to ramble on.
Cori - Hope you are feeling good about things today.

And another thing - It's bl**dy freezing outside and it's going to be a v. cold winter. My coat won't do up for much longer!!!

crumpet · 18/11/2005 10:13

Mandymoo, poor you, it's a horrid time. I went through the same thing a couple of weeks ago (see my posts at the beginning of Nov) - the test revealed a 1 in 80 chance. We went ahead and had a CVS the following day as I had to know one way or the other, even though I refused to think about the what ifs until I knew for sure.

If you do decide to go ahead with an amnio, you may be able to check the information available about the person who would do it and what their statistics are. The person who did our CVS for example (admittedly a leader in his field) had a (not sure how to describe it) 1 in 300 success rate, whereas I think the average risk of miscarriage is something like 1 in 100 or so.

littlemisspiggy · 18/11/2005 10:18

I agree with Crumpet - Don't be afraid whoever's doing the test about their own rates. Also as the doctor who did my CVS said - the statistics are only an indication as they rely on people actually telling the hospital/fetal medicine centre that they have had a miscarriage and even then it cannot be certain that the miscarriage occurred as a direct result of the procedure.

littlemisspiggy · 18/11/2005 10:24

Sorry one more thing on the subject then I'll shut up. The Doctor (3in the room) who did my CVS were also careful about using the scan to check where my placenta was and where the baby was lying before saying whether they thought the procedure would be able to be done smoothly. They were very good about consulting DH and I every step of the way to make sure we were comfortable and whether or not we wanted to proceed.

runtus · 18/11/2005 12:43

Just had a dating scan for the triple test and all looks fine, really re-assured after all the 'but I don't feel pregnant anymore' feelings I've been having........

Thinking of those with big decisions to make, good luck

lovecloud · 18/11/2005 20:30

Hello

Mandymoo - sending lots love x

I can see I am not the only one feeling "not pregnant" because the sickness is gone. I actually do not feel pregnant anymore and the only tell tale signs are the weeing and tiredness.

Last week I got so sick of people saying "you are so small and its your second..." so I called my gp and asked if he could check to hear the babies heart beat. I held back the tears when I heard my baby - I was so relieved!!! He showed me the difference between my heartbeat and the babies. I cant believe how much faster theirs is.

So I should not be complaining really, I am 4 months now, have no sickness and my tummy is small. Still wearing my own clothes except the waist is a bit tight but I am not large enough for maternity jeans yet!!!

I am very hormonal, I am not the kind of person to cry easily but yesterday I had two good crying moments - felt better afterwards.

I still cant really believe I am pregnant. I remember with my first, I constantly gazed at one of my five scan photos every now and then throughout the day. This time the scan is tucked up safe in a book. Because he or she did not move much at the scan it does not feel "real".

I guess I am just waiting for that "kick" - I have felt squirming but yuo are never sure if thats gas.

so any second timers here, weeks gone and feeling kicks?