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May Babies 2006

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hockeymum · 22/08/2005 12:35

I thought I'd start a due May 2006 club even though its very early in the month for it.

My stats are

ME: 31
DH: 30
DD: 3 next week!
Next DB due: May 1st (4 weeks pregnant today!)

Just been to the docs to get it all confirmed and seeing the midwife tomorrow. Look forward to more of you joining me as the month progresses!

Actually, I expect to have an elective section after an emergency one with DD so db will probably be born at the end of April. But like the idea of a May thread nonetheless!

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crumpet · 29/09/2005 10:29

Is no-one around? I might put this on a more general thread, but was hoping other 1st trimester-ites may have a view or just tell me to buck my ideas up and stop being a wimp!

I can't have killed this thread.......can I??

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hockeymum · 29/09/2005 10:43

no crumpet, you havent killed this thread at all. Not sure too much about the effect of hand foot and mouth in first trimester, maybe you could call NHS Direct for some info or your doctor or midwife for advice. It seems that you don't want your dd to catch it or you caoul catch if from her at home. If that is the case maybe you should keep your dd away from nursery until it has died down (or is the prospect of no time to yourself too heinous - I live for when my dd goes to nursery!). Have a word with the professionals and see what they think.

Sorry I cant be more help.

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mula · 29/09/2005 11:26

Littlemisspiggy - my EDD is 30/05/05. 5+2 today no symptoms yet - GP is trying to arrange an early scan for me so hoping to have that in the next 3 weeks to put my mind at rest at little bit.

lovecloud · 29/09/2005 11:40

Enid - sorry to hear that...

Well you are on the right track and I send you lots of luck and baby dust to keep your little one strong inside

You are due a few days before me.

How are you feeling?

I am so shocked at how sick and tired i feel this time so different with dd. it really has stopped me from doing most things. I am looking forward to being 4 months. dont want to wish it away though but it is hard when you feel so bad.

i really cant wait to see my little baby on the scan.

crumpet · 29/09/2005 11:57

Thanks Hockeymum. Might have a chat with NHS direct - I hadn't really thought of dd catching it, but you're right I should. I work full time so this may be a bit of a tricky one...

lovecloud · 29/09/2005 12:05

hello

hand and foot is quite contagious, my dd caught it from going to a creche for the first time.

it looked like she had an allergic reaction to food, her hands, feet and knees came up in lots of red bumpy spots and she got mouth ulcers. other than the ulcers she seemed totally unaware of it and the rash did not itch.

i would def contact NHS - they are a great help and see what they suggest. I would def ask nursery to bring her outside to you and wash your hands after touching dd. I think it is only contagious at the beginning if the infection, dd's lasted 10 days. I did contact the creche to tell them and she told all the other parents who all said their children were fine.

supersonic · 29/09/2005 14:27

Hi everyone hope everyone is okay and not feeling too sick!!!!!
my EDD is 8/5/06 and I am 8 wks at the moment but am due my 1st scan at the EPU on 4th Oct when I am 9 wks - I have been told this is just a reassurance scan due a miscarriage I experienced. My questions is when would you tell your DD or DS they will be ahving a borthe or sister? I am worried because a friend of mine keeps reminding me that nothing is certain through otu the first 24 wks of pregnancy and I just wnt to enjoy it after 12wks and hopefully start to relax! You opinions appreciated!

GrygielMM · 29/09/2005 14:35

Oh, Enid, you can't just leave me and Bouj

I cannot wait to see my baby! My GP was supposed to contact the hospital and send scan and booking in appointment letter to them but she never did... or it did not reach the hospital. I spent half a day calling both and trying to organise it...

How come we have to chase all those people, they should give US support and information on what is happening next! Sorry, but I get wound up quite quickly nowadays.

I hope it will be vary soon. Bouj - have you had your yet?

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hockeymum · 29/09/2005 14:43

Supersonic - how old are your dd and ds? I think when to tell them depends on the child and the situation you are in.

We told our dd (just 3) when I was 7 weeks as we were going home for the weekend to see the family and to tell them I wasnt well enough to travel to Scotland for my neices christening and we thought it wasnt fair to hide it from my dd. She's only 3 but very astute and knew something was up, she's also very empathetic and was concerned that I was throwing up so much. She cheered up a lot when she knew it was just because of the baby. She is ecstatic about the pregnancy and really looks after me. This morning she was stroking my leg when I was throwing up in the bathroom saying "oh don't worry mummy, you're not poorly, it's just my baby brother or sister" I'm glad to have told her when I did and will take her along to my 12 week scan next month. I know we are taking a risk that something may happen, but I've always tried to be a very open parent and hope that would continue, we'll just have to introduce the concept of heaven if something does happen. If I had no symptoms I would not have told anyone yet (including her) but I've been so sick that anyone who knows me well would have called the hospital for me if they didnt know I was pregnant and looked as green and pukey as I do all day!

On the other hand, one of my friends did not tell her little boy (4!) till the week the baby was due. He's a bright little boy but not at all observant when it comes to humans (just cars and trains) so he didnt notice her huge bump and everyone else talking about the baby and so was told right at the last minute. He was still fine about it and is ok with his little brother.

I think it just depends on you and on the child themselves. Sorry to have no definitive answer!

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supersonic · 29/09/2005 14:57

thanks hockeymum.
i only have on DD and she was 4 in June and already she thinks I have a baby in my tummy she even said 'mummy your boobies are getting big' unless she has heard me tell DP this (and I haven't realised she was nearby) also I have had to tell her only when necessary not to jump on my tummy - I think because my friend 9DDs best friends mum) is 25 wks pregnant and she probably heard her telling the same thing about not to hurt mummys tummy etc she has put two and two together!

zzoey · 29/09/2005 15:02

Hi Crumpet
I have access to some medical info at work. It says HF&M is transmitted by the faeco-oral route, ie pooh to mouth route. It also says that kids who have it excrete the coxsackie virus in their pooh for weeks after the infection. so you cant catch it from standing in the nursery door to collect your DD. only if you touch something contaminated. you shd be able to reduce the risk of catching it by washing your hands a lot after touching DD or anything in nursery. esp bottom wiping in case DD gets it too. any way you might be immune, perhaps you had it as a child?
any use?
good luck
ZZoey

sniff · 29/09/2005 15:43

personally I would ask my mother in law to go and just tell her or make up an excuse I dont know if there is a risk to you but its not worth taking and you never know your MIl might do it more often and let you sleep

tortoiseshell · 29/09/2005 16:11

Oi littlemisspiggy - you missed me off! Think will be due about 25th April, but certain to be born in May!

cori · 29/09/2005 17:13

I personally wont be telling DS until I have had my twenty week scan. Having had a miscarriage at 16 weeks earlier this year, I dont want to risk putting my DS through that again. He knew I was pregnant, and when I lost the baby we told him the baby had gone away (as at 3 I think he is too young to understand the concept of death) It really affected him badly. I even think he might be slightly traumatised by it. His behaviour changed for a few weeks afterwards and he became quite aggressive and naughty for a while. Every so often he would ask if the baby had come back. One day a couple months later he asked this same question and it occurred to me to tell him that it was not his fault that the baby went away, he said that 'because I wouldnt say sorry to you when I was naughty'- so in some way the poor little thing blammed himself.
I will be waiting til I feel confident this time, and no way will I be taking him to a scan. ( it was at a scan I found about last M/C). Actually I might take him to the 4D scan I plan to have at 30 weeks.

crumpet · 29/09/2005 20:30

Hi everyone, thanks for your advice - NHS direct recommended keeping dd away for a few days during the incubation period, and hopefully I'll be able to speak to the doctor tomorrow. Have to say, I was feeling that I was being a tad over-paranoid, but then NHS direct person kept saying "the most important thing is you and your baby" which did sound more serious... but no harm to keep her away for a day and I'll see what the doctor says.

Of course the silver lining is that dh is on poo duty for a few days.....

Tortington · 29/09/2005 21:53

thread hijack sorry.
handbagaddiction are you coming to the xmas doo? please see xmas doo thread. ta

Bouj · 30/09/2005 04:45

GrygielMM - had one at 6 weeks which gave me the 5/5 edd as by my calculations it was 29/4. Still can change, though can't it? With the 12 week scan? Got that in a couple of weeks. Seeing my obs on the 21st. He is the guy who has done almost all my endo surgery, so knows me inside out (so to speak!). Will be nice to see him under nice circumstances this time!

HandbagAddiction · 30/09/2005 08:33

Morning everyone! Hope you're all OK and looking after yourselves! Having a couple of those days when I don't feel pregnant and feel that all my symptons have completely disappeared again. However - thanks to your kind words of reassurance, I know this can be the norm and isn't something to worry unnecessarily about. Sounds strange but it's actually quite comforting when the next wave of nausea hits you!!

So - 5+6 today and time seems to be dragging so much. Seeing the midwife on October 20th for my booking appointment and have decided not to say anything to dd (2 years old) yet. She's in the habit of repeating everything we say right now, so the last thing I want is for her to start telling all and sundry that 'mummy has a baby in her tummy' !!

tortoiseshell · 30/09/2005 12:16

I've told my ds and dd about the baby, largely because I felt so sick that they needed a reason why I could do nothing! I know it's a risk, because if something happened it would need explaining, but ds understands about death, and I guess it could happen at any point during pregnancy anyway! Anyway, nearly 11 weeks, so am hoping for the best. Am having a 12 week scan in about 10 days, so hopefully everything will be ok on that - that always gives me confidence when you see them wriggling away!

Enid · 30/09/2005 12:17

I am desperate to tell the dds but have promised dh I wont until after the nuchal fold scan in a cuople of weeks.

GrygielMM · 30/09/2005 15:27

Bouj - I know it still might change but I like the predicted date anyway. I have my nuchal fold scan on 20th a day before we go off for a long weekend in Madrid. I hope all is fine!

Enid · 30/09/2005 15:48

Grygie I also have mine on 20th

spacecadet · 30/09/2005 18:11

just wanted to hijack and say congrats to
cori and xena..yay!!!!

lovecloud · 02/10/2005 20:14

hello

i am 9 weeks now and i dont want to push my luck but my "all day" sickness seems to have got less. during this weekend there were actually moments were i thought "i feel normal" It hsd not gone away totally and I am still just as tired. slept two hours today and yesterday after lunch.

is it quite normal for sickness to start going away this early... just suddenly thought that maybe it is a bad sign???

what am i like, i moan all day when i feel sick and start worrying when not.

someone give me a kick up the bum!

jacobsmummy · 02/10/2005 21:05

Hi LOvecloud, just dropping into this thread to give you a bit of reassurance. I had morning sickness that waxed and waned too, never quite went away but def. fluctuated.

don't worry, I'm sure everything is fine.

keep getting lots of rest