April 2011....anyone there? <echoes>

[shitforbrains]

Hi Ladies!

Just got a BFP. According to calculator am due April 2nd 2011...

Had my dating scan today, all is well and my dates were spot on with 2nd April. Very relieved especially after the last couple of weeks when had a few slight bleeds.

Out of interest when I went for my dating scan for DS first time round I was told to go to the loo as my bladder was too full. So this time I only had a 500ml bottle of water and guess what - they told me to go to the loo again as my bladder was too full. If I have a small bladder I wasn't aware of it, next scan i'm not drinking anything, on the info they give out you are still told to go with a full bladder. Be interesting to hear if anyone else gets told they've drunk to much.

Sorry if this is TMI, on top of the fluey thing DH passed on, I can't "go" to the loo. Forced down some prune juice yesterday in desparation but still no movement!!

I look about 5 months pregnant

Ah the glamour of pregnancy!!

Lis, the other thing that helps with constipation is exercise, which you're clearly not going to be up for if you feel flu-y.

Drinking lots of water is also important and Decaf coffee can also help. I'd you're feeling really rotten then your gp or mw can prescribe lactulose which will do the job I'm told.

I'm just waiting for my scan now. Monday has never seemed so far away. I just want the weekend to be over so we can see our baby and I can tell my mum!

I also have a bump. DP reckons I'm just getting chubby, but I'm convinced It's a baby bump!

Hi all.

Glad scan went well Liv77 v exciting!

aussiemum i got my scan date yest. Seems i am having it all in one go. On 14th Oct (feels ages away) i have scan at 9.45 and midwife at 10.30. Paperwork also came with a downs syndrome test form and sample pouch (do i do anything with this or take it with me?). Excited to have a date but am so impatient!

LisMcA try licqourice!

saorAlba look forward to hearing all about it Monday.

I have just been given a years membership to a healthclub. But have been advised my MIL who used to be a midwife that i shouldnt excersise til 12 weeks. Thoughts?

kittycatcat I'm still running, albeit at a much slower pace and lesser distance than normal. I've been running for so long now (20 years - God, I'm ancient!) that I figure not running will probably make me feel worse. Certainly it seems to be the only thing that can get rid of my hideous morning sickness. The only downside is that I look like a really crap runner now - with no obvious bump to explain why I'm running like a 90 year old. I think if you haven't been exercising previously then it may be worth waiting until 12 weeks and then start with low impact exercise only such as swimming, walking, yoga, pilates, etc. Going into high impact from nothing is not advised.

My news is no news. On holiday at the moment (for the past two weeks) and unable to eat any of the local gourmand food, which has been fairly dull. I've felt like crap whilst here also - hideous morning sickness that lasts all day. I had a few days at 10 weeks where it disappeared and I got all triumphant that it had finished early (and then all paranoid that it had finished early!) only for it then to come back with a vengeance after a couple of days. No bump at all and my clothes still fit, although I have a bit of a doughy tummy in my bikini, which obviously looks fantastic (huge sarcasm). I've got my nuchal scan next week at the Fetal Medicine Centre, which is where I had all my scans when I was pregnant with the twins so it will be weird going back there - I really thought I'd only ever be lucky enough to have one pregnancy. It highlights how lucky I am. A fact that is also reinforced by all the people who've sadly had to leave this thread. It's such a shame.

At the same time I've been having a few wobbles about how the hell I'm going to cope with a newborn and what will be 4 1/2 year olds. Will I be robbing them of even more of me? They've already had to share me from the start so I feel a bit sick about the thought that they're going to have to share me further. Plus I had an awful final trimester and traumatic delivery last time which left me with dreadful PTSD/PND for a year so I'm very worried about this new baby and whether I'll bond. I suppose this is all normal and it's probably best if I'm wobbling a bit now rather than at the birth. When I was pregnant with the girls I was so deluded and ecstatic and head in the clouds that when it all started to go wrong it was a huge shock. Anyone else with older children feeling a bit wobbly about things or is it just me? Feels wrong to say this when I've only just written how lucky I feel but I know from previous experience that ignoring how I feel is not a long term healthy option.

P.S. Oatcakes for morning sickness. That and Jacob's Crackers. Neither of which you can buy in the midde-of-nowhere France I've discovered!

Good news Liv77! When I went for my early scan I had just been to the loo because I thought they would do an internal one but I asked the doctor if she could try external first (silly paranoia as I had a mc after an internal scan earlier this year) and she said yes. She tried and it was fine and she said, "at least you had quite a full bladder". Very peculiar.

kittycatcat I was told to stop running by my doctor but I do think she was being very cautious because of earlier mc. I've been doing yoga, walking and cycling but nothing too strenuous. I would go to the club and ask for an induction, tell them you're pregnant and I am sure they will be able to tell you what you can and can't do. You have to be careful with anything that uses your abdominals and high impact but gentle exercise is fine. The only thing you might find is that they get a bit wobbly about letting you start something new. If they've got a pool you can swim for sure.

ecuse defo go for early scan, it puts your mind at rest.

So pleased it's Friday. DH is out tonight and I am SO excited about a night in on the sofa with a DVD and a pizza. Rock and roll it is not.

Gonna plough straight in with a bit of TMI - but I am also having strange bowel habits!!
I'm normally slightly on the constipated side but for the past 3-4 days I've gone completely the opposite way - anyone else experiencing this?? The only thing I could think is causing it is the fact I've been eating more rubbish than usual due to nausea??

Speaking of which kitstwins I was worrying that my nausea etc had come to an abrupt halt this week (around 10+2) but since reading your post I am now concerned about it coming back with a vengeance next week!!

Phoned midwife today to enquire about my scan date - it was going to be 28th Sept but have asked for it to be next week as both DP and I have a week off work so it is now on Tues 21st!! Can't wait! How slowly is the weekend going to go now!!?

My scan is on the 21st too, MrsWajs! So close now, but it's like waiting for Christmas, Tuesday seems an eternity away. Not been posting much as school is exhausting me utterly, but pleased I haven't had to miss any yet. I too (tmi warning) am awfully constipated, but I know it's mainly because of the unrefined carbs diet my nausea insists on pushing me into!! Trying to eat loads of apples as they seem to make my tummy feel better anyway, and making myself walk into school and back as usual, 25 mins each way, just to help it along. Really quite frightened about scan too, worrying about all the things that might be wrong, after all this waiting and hoping.... trying to stay positive, though! :>)

Is it TMI day? Good - I have the awful runs

I can't stray too far from the loo and get really nervous about long, quiet meetings at work. I get a sudden tummy ache, feel all hot and sweaty, then have to make a dash for it.

I remember being like this quite a lot with DD1. V embarrassing. Worst was while hosting a dinner party for my very new PILs. I'll shut up now

Hey all,

I'll join TMI club in a mo.

First, thanks for all the advice on dealing with my colleague. I spoke to her today briefly at break, it was awkward, and I felt so terribly guilty that I've been so apprehensive about our 'accident', when I know that she'd do anything for this. She was lovely though, and said all the right things. I said I'd completely understand if she needed to stay away from me. And when she started to well up I had the uncontrollable urge to keep talking!

I left her to it, and she had a little cry with a closer colleague. And she was talking to me again at lunch. I feel I've got off lightly. It breaks my heart though, if I could give her a baby as easily as this one has come to us...

My colleagues are seriously the best people in the world. I'm so lucky.

So that's the last big issue on my list of things to deal with.

My scan's on Thursday 23rd. I had the bloods taken today (was surprised there was any left after what she took!)

So, to the TMI - I think I've said before, but I've had 'loose movements' since conception. Not immediate diarrhea like NANN but just not entirely solid! I have had horrific wind! Waking up every morning feeling like a hot air balloon. But that was a bit better this morning, so here's hoping it's on the way out.

And in other news - apparently our house is going to be ready a month early! So as long as the developers can help towards the overlapping rent & mortgage, we'll be in at the end of sept! Went up to see it today, and the baby's room is bigger than I remember. I'm SO excited!

Hectic day, really, no wonder I slept through grand designs earlier!

Hey Ladies

I haven't posted for a while as feeling so nauseous, i read all the posts but then i'm to sick to post anything. I much prefer to feel a bit nauseous that not at all though.

Petalouda that must have been so hard tellng your colleague, i can't imagine how horrible it would be loosing twins at 22 weeks, i hope she will be pregnant very soon.
We were ttc for nearly 2 years and anytime someone mentioned they were pg at work it felt like a i had a knife put in my back, not very nice and i had to hide my jealous face, glad we finally made it though and hoping i can tell everyone my good news.

My scan is on 28th Sept, i'm 11 weeks today, Hurrah!

Hope everyone is well.

So sorry to hear your sad new ladygonegaga, take care xxx

My tropicana craving is back with a vengeance, maybe I am having another boy.

Good luck to all the ladies with their scans next week, i've started going public now i've reached 12 weeks. YAY

Petalouda glad that it went ok breaking the news to your colleague. I had to do a similar thing today to a colleague who's been ttc and had a early mc at the beginning of the year. i managed to get her alone and explained I wanted her to hear it from me so I was telling her before I announced it to everyone else. I knew she'd been sad when others at work had announced they were PG as i had discussed it with her previously. I was surprised at how well she took it, she was genuinely happy for me and gave me a massive hug and said she really appreciated being told. We had a good chat and she told me she is going to be tested for PCOS shortly - fingers crossed for her, she's only in her early twenties but is desperate for a baby and has been trying for a couple of years now.

Saturday news: I'm developing my 3rd cold sore this week!

Is this normal? First 2 were just inside my nostrils, this one's right in the middle of my lip. This is NOT fair!

Any room for a latecomer?

I'm due on 17 April so I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow. I've been far too nervous to join this group before now though I've known I was pregnant for 6 weeks. I had a miscarriage last Xmas Eve at 10 weeks followed by months of complications, infection, blood transfusions, blah blah...

Anyway paid for an early scan this week (totally worth it for the stress relief if you can afford the £65 BTW) and a stonking little heart beat and wriggly movements on display. Don't feel I'm out of the woods yet but at least I feel it might actually happen this time. Haven't even contacted my midwife yet because I thought there might not be any point. Already have 2 and 1/2 year old DD so I don't think they pay you that much attention second time around.

Hello to all you ladies I've been following for weeks. Always hoped I'd be able to join the group.

Petalouda I don't get coldsores but I've had a nasty angry red zit on my back for the past 4 days which refuses to get a head or go down, keep forgetting it's there until I lean on it - ouch.

Sorry if TMI but hope it makes you feel better

Hi Jaylar
Welcome to the group, Hope everything goes well for you this time around.

I agree with you about less attention the second time around. I also have a 2 and 1/2 yr old Saw the Ob. for my 12 week scan and he told me to phone the midwives next week if I still hadn't heard from them.

Welcome Jaylar ! Lovely news, can understand why you haven't dared join in before now.

Petalouda and Liv77 I've had coldsores up my nose before - awful, the felt like viceous paper cuts. My skin is generally worse than usual when I'm PG - lots more spots and my eczema flares up. I think it's because the baby is stealing all the nutrients so you're left feeling a bit run down. Vitamin supplements might help?

Oooh bummer about the coldsores Petalouda I've never been prone to them myself so don't really know how crap it is but I am joining Liv on the spot front, I have the red/no head ones but also some horrid looking yellow heads too :( I've never been prone to spots before either (even as a teenager) so I'm taking it pretty badly! Can't wait for the glowing stage to begin!!!

Temper has been seriously short today, surprised DP still wishes to remain under the same roof as me this evening! :(

On the spot front - I stopped using all soap and fancy creams. Just use aqueous cream to wash and moisturise now - skin much better and purse much fuller

Thanks for the sympathy! I've got a couple of random spots too - even one on my arm!

I've been on the preg multivits, so can't be that. But read on the cold-sore-patches packet (did an emergency tescos trip!) that amongst other things, cold sores can be triggered by anxiety, fatigue, stress and hormones. So it's no surprise really!

Welcome along Jaylar, hope it all goes smoothly from here!

Thanks for the welcome.

Liv77, as we'll hopefully both end up with about a 3 year age gap between number 1 and 2 children, wondered what you thought about the age gap. Was this what you'd planned? Most friends have only waited 18 months or 2 years max between kids but think that would have been too close for me. The so called expert books say it's easier with a larger gap but not always sure this is a reality. Especially as DD1 is becoming quite the only child who thinks it is always going to go her way. She's in for a shock.

Petalouda never had coldsores as a symptom so no advice on that one. My mother always told me you get them from snogging sailors. Been near a port recently?

My new sysmptom with this pregnancy is constant temperature surges and shivers, like I'm coming down with flu.Hopefully only another couple of weeks or so before we all hit the glowing stage. Though I'd settle for the not constantly feeling crap stage.

Hello everyone, and welcome Jaylar

Got plenty of spots over here too. Mostly on my chin and next to my nose/mouth, but also on my back and arms. Currently have one right on the end of my elbow (the pointy, lean-able bit)!

Thankfully the nausea seems to be fading for the most part only to be replaced with very painful trapped wind.

Petalouda I haven't had coldsores either but have had a couple of mouth ulcers this last couple of weeks so I can sympathise!

Hope you've all had a good weekend. I've been packing as we move house tomorrow can't wait to be out of this cold, damp, mouldy flat! Did have chance to pop into town yesterday though...ended up stalking a woman around Gap because I fell in love with her pram. They baby was cute too, but DH had to actually pull me (walking backwards!) because I couldn't stop drooling over a pram Poor woman probably thought I was a total weirdo

ha ha ha! Love your stalking Beetle! DH and I were doing a similar thing on saturday, I spotted the elusive carry-cot/car seat with a lady in house of fraser, before getting SO excited about the beautiftl bedding DH was scared I was about to cry! I nearly did, it was all so lovely, but so expensive! (i think I've officially gone mental!)

Hi Jaylar
Originally I only wanted one child, and was quite happy to stop there, people asked if I was planning another and I always said no.

I didn't start getting broody again until last winter and at Christmas we decided that actually it would be nice to have a second. From then on I took a casual approach to TTC and just left off all contraception and waited to see what occured

Even now, I don't think I would have liked to have had them any closer together, I've enjoyed the time i've been able to spend with my son and personally couldn't have coped with 2 babies in the house. At 3 they are much more independent, going to pre-school etc and I will enjoy being able to spend some time alone with the new baby.

My son is also rather stubborn and likes to get his own way (or as his pre-school teacher put it politely "he's very confident" ). I'm trying to be a little more unavailable at times when I'm home. I work 30hrs a week and he's fine with that but he does like me to "do" everything for him when I'm home. When he's with my mum he's the same with her. I'm trying to get him used to the fact I can't be at his beck and call all the time. For example this morning we had a 10min tantrum because he didn't want Daddy to brush his teeth he wanted Mummy to do it. He got put back in his room and eventually he let Daddy do it.

Petalouda, I'm on my second coldsore this week! I'm putting it down to the fact that I'm clearly run down due to being tired and not getting any healthy food on board due to morning sickness.