Our safe haven thread for bereaved mums and anyone who has been affected by the bereavement of a child - whatever age,

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The most supportive, loving, loyal thread on Mumsnet - I wouldn't know what to do without all of you x

Oh Crumpette

I am sorry love x

Hi Lunatic, thinking of you & Daisy tonight xx

aww crumpette..

You dont need this crap tonight but is it possible dp is suffering too...and its just his (wrong) way of dealing with his grief

I am raising a glass to all our little ones but especially lucia and daisy tonight

Thanks for the tip Ilike... I will have a go at that soon

lunatic,ive lit candle for daisy,thinking of you both today.
crumpette, hope you ok.
ppm i know people are weird, ive lost so many friends since jayden died, nobody accepts you change after losing someone you love.
i realy wish i could be the same person i used to be but i cant, you relise what is important in life, ive grown up ,become boring and miserable ,its awful but i feel guilty when laughing and enjoying myself,how can we when he is gone,
im going to see a spiratulist on friday night,he bought jayden through once,it was amazing and first time dd1 had been

Have lit my candles for our 'missing' precious children....thinking about you all tonight. Crumpette - we celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary in March and, believe me, it has been a very, very rocky road - one that I often wished one of us would have had the courage to walk away from. But here we are

I really wish I knew the answer to your problem. Many people have tried to give me their answers on this one...but I have not been fully convinced by any of them. Do what seems best for you, and congratulations on making it to 32 years together...

shabba.. considering what you have been through as a family I dont think you are still together because you werent brave enough to split up

I think losing one child puts a strain on the relationship as you learn to live with each others ways of dealing with grief.. the fact you have lost 2 and are still together is testament to both of you

Thank you FM - my Nan used to say, about couples like me and my DH

'They would spoil another couple'

Think she may be right

Morning girls xx

crumpette a candle will be lit here in Sussex for Lucia .

I hope you manage to get through the day with some sort of peace xx

Lighting mine for your precious girl xx

A light is shining here in Glasgow for Lucia

Hello everyone xx

Crumpette, how are you doing today? Hope you got some sleep last night? am thinking some loving thoughts full of strength for you and Lucia and will light a candle in very snowy Perthshire for your darling Lucia. (at least we have electricity so this will not be my only source of light tonight ) If you feel like a chat you know we're all here for you xx

crumpette,candle lit here in yorkshirex

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time, Crumpette - I hope you can have a gentle day today with your little one. You & L are in my thoughts.

PPM - it's right that we can only control our own responses, but it's hard, isn't it? I've found the most unexpected people can be wonderful (or the opposite).

LF - I'm sorry I missed your post last night, but will be thinking of you & Daisy today.

Hazy - I hope your visit to the spiritualist goes well. Is your DD going with you again?

I've spent all weekend washing & ironing (worked more than usual last week so everything fell apart!) so have caught up a bit with Mumsnet. Lots of intriguing threads going on... Think it's probably safest just to stay here

Hiya Ziggy, yeah it is hard sometimes and I have also found comfort from some of the most unlikely folks and some who i would have expected to have been able to cope/deal with me just haven't - but that's just the way it is heh!

crumpette shuffles back.. can I say it again cos I have nowhere else to say it

Lucia I miss you I miss you I miss you I miss you and I love you and I am so sorry you're not here where you should be and I am so sorry I didn't know, and I miss you so much x

A candle is lit here for your darling Lucia.

I can feel your hurt Crumpette and I'd do anything to take that away for you. It's just fucking shit and it's so wrong that all of our darling children aren't with us.

Tell Lucia out loud that you miss her, she will hear you. She knows how much she is loved xxx

Please may I join this thread? I am new to mumsnet,I've been reading your stories and can identify with so many of your thoughts and feelings.

My precious baby boy died 5 1/2 years ago, he was 12 weeks old. I've since had 2 other beautiful children but at times the grief for my first little boy is all-consuming. Particularly at this time of year, as it is coming up to what should be his 6th birthday.

I've also just suffered a miscarriage which is making the pain feel all the more intense. All those feelings of loss and devastation flooding back. I still can't believe it sometimes, I miss him so, so much.

So sorry for all your losses of such special children xx Thank you for listening.

Hi Emma,

So sorry to hear about your little boy and your recent MC. If you would like to talk about him (or anything else)we are here.