Our safe haven thread for bereaved mums and anyone who has been affected by the bereavement of a child - whatever age,

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The most supportive, loving, loyal thread on Mumsnet - I wouldn't know what to do without all of you x

baby is ok....mum looks so shell shocked and the dad behaved like an arse with her while she was in labour.

I'm done with TV for this week I think... Just seen something similar to what you describe on Eastenders and nothing but death going on with corrie as well.... all too real for my liking... have resorted to watching nutters on the winter olympics doing some crazy things on skis!!!

Morning girls. xx

Morning all

Shabs thanks for the warning about that prog , I taped it last night .

ppm I am with you on the soap[s thing at the minute . Too much of waiting around outside the morgtuary for me to cope with atm . I am watching the loons chucking themselves down mountains too . Who would have thought they had that manay ways of doing it ?

TW it is all ok in the end BUT I ended up with my cardi sleeve in my mouth but still shouting 'Do something for Gawds sake!' Tom is now convinced I am barking mad...

I would have been demented during the ads . Spiteful buggers for timing it like that .

Are you saying that up until that point Tom thought you were sane ?

i know im off soaps at the moment,watched monday night,dd2 was her with chappie and morturary scene came on dd2,shot upstairs and cried her eyes up ,dh asked shall i go and sort out or will chappie,poor love was heartbroken ,she was 15 and doing exams when jayden died,but a brick.
it brought alot back,and i ended up having 2 pieces of cake,see ppm im not as good as you,
shabs it was lovely to talk,your a brick

Morning everyone xx Oh Hazy that must be so hard for your dd and for you to watch/cope with. I'm glad you had a piece of cake for me too - wouldn't want it going to waste even if i can't have it just now

TW how are you getting on without the ciggies - you still going strong?

Hey Shabs how's you today?

Am starting the day positively - was planning to get to the bank and sort out some stuff that should have been done nov/dec but....... snows coming down and looks like its on for the day and our main road's closed cause of an accident... maybe tomorrow!!

Hello have had an immensely unproductive day, baby has just pood on me through his nice new (off-white) trousers and I have achieved very little except MN and consumption of peanut butter on toast

I saw one born every minute too shabs and I freaked out at that baby, I was practically shouting at the TV 'doooo something!!!! fgs'

I also read something yesterday in the daily mail about 2 poor parents whose baby died 3 days after birth, and there was a photo of their DD with the article and it was obv taken after she was removed from life support and it freaked me out so much I was in tears. Silly really I thought I should be immune to all this now I've been there (?)

Awwww Crumpette, don't be so hard on yourself!! Don't think any of us can ever be immune as it just dredges back a whole wall of emotion. I'd say toast and MN isn't all that unproductive!! I started watching that born every moment prog and had to turn over, had already had an eastenders experience that evening so nutter skiers was much more light-hearted evening entertainment for me. We've got tons of snow today - I love it!! Totally changed my plans for this morning but that's not all bad!

How are you coping with Lucia's birthday coming up? Give your gorgeous little bundle of poo a squeeze from me xx

Hi guys

I am sorry not to be around for a few days

my new computer died.. had to get a new one and re-install everything. Then my dad's new pc died and I had to do the same for him and then my inlaws phoned and guess what??

I went to Asda today and got 2 pairs of denims and a pair of boots for £30... was well pleased with myself

I didnt see last nights one born every minute but last week they were all stood around listening to a monitor while the baby 's h/beart was going down and down
I was screaming at the tv... get the baby out now get the baby out now

I think when you lost your child you get more emotionally involved than you used to. It can take you right back to that moment in time so clearly

Its gut wrenching even years later

Hi Ladies,

I havent been here for aaaaages; been trying to deal with RL I guess. Its all going well for me and DP though. We have sorted a memorial stone for Archie in the childrens memory garden in the crematorium, and are getting married in April

I just wanted you all to know that I think about you all every day, and I will never ever forget the kindness you have all shown me - especially as all I really ever did was post a maudlin thread when I felt down, then bury my head in the sand again .

I sincerely hope 2010 is treating you all well, sending lots of love,

Abi

xx

lovely news abiabi,it so lovely to hear good news,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Lunatic here have one of my cigs.... yes...i know, disgusting habit and all that. xxx

Morning girls xx

Morning all ,

abiabi that is lovely news , I am glad you and your dh are doing ok . Don't worry about burying your head in the sand for a while , I reckoon we have all done the same at one time or another . In fact I personally have a very large rug where all my shite gets swept under . Just know we are here if you need us xx

LF , the dreams and anger I really recognise , I spent a long time having big old rows in my head that I would have loved to have in rl . My SILs in particular were hopeless but in a weird way I think they served a purpose . They gave me someone to be really angry at and I do think anger is all part of this so at least it saved my dh from being shouted at too much .

And don't give the cigs a second thought , there is no way I could have given up at your stage . I needed all the help I could get .

Hello All,

I just want to introduce myself before I go to bed. I shouldn't really be here at all but I lurk on here sometimes and it brings me a great deal of comfort.
My little boy has a brain tumour and although I do not know what the future will bring it gives me comfort to know that I will not be abandoned if we lose the fight.

You don't need to respond, I just wanted to say thank you for being there.

Velvet I cant think of one Mum on here who would abandon you if you lost the fight. Good bunch of girls on here - have you heard me including myself in girls - I am 54 in December Call me nosey if you want but whats happening with you and your family? xxxx

Morning girls xx

Morning all xx

Velvet , I echo what Shabs has already said , if you want to talk about you and your son please feel free x

It doesn't mean you are giving up just that you know you have found people that will listen which I am sure is not always easy to find for you at times .

Morning ladies, and hi Velvet

Hope you're all well and looking forward to the weekend

Thank you all so much for your congratulations

Velvet I am so sorry this is happening to you. As the the other ladies have said, please do talk about your son, the kind things these ladies have said to me have got me through many a dark hour. Is your son in hospital now? Are you being looked after well?

Thinking of you all,

Abi

Also I know you are all busy with your own children, but I have put a photo of Archie with my DD on my profile if anyone wants a look! I find I have to look at the photos a lot lately just to keep him clear in my memory.

Abi

xx

Awwwww Abi what a beautiful picture - shiny eyes and big smiles......that is so lovely xxx