Our safe haven thread for bereaved mums and anyone who has been affected by the bereavement of a child - whatever age,

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The most supportive, loving, loyal thread on Mumsnet - I wouldn't know what to do without all of you x

You are not being selfish - you are just missing your brother - when I went onto the group I just looked at all the faces of the kids who grew up with my Matt - all adults, some now parents and I sobbed at the thought of my lad not being amongst those faces - thats why I have changed my profile pic on FB...it just seemed right xx

Ye the 19th is when my brother was killed and theres 1 hour and 1.15 minutes between the times so it got me a bit. It must be weird seeing that even though you know IYKWIM? He's ever so cute. Deffinitely be a stunner. I've changed mine to my bro and ds, not that you can see ds's head lol xx

So sorry to hear about your friend's daughter, Shabba.

Morning girls x

Morning all xx

O how things can change in a matter of hours. I was feeling so positive last night and this morning my world has fell apart again. in tears so sorry if makes no sense

Totally normal Shelley - it creeps up on you and suddenly gets you all over again xxxxxx

Its not helped by us getting the update we have. Ill message you on FB not sure if im surpoed to publicise it lol

received and read - over and out!!!

hehe, your doing well you managed to get me to crack a smile

woohoo, i've got the local rag onside already shabs then again i do know 1 of the reporters and shes on my FB has offered to help. Was her that did the tribute article

Brilliant start love - will try to find some ideas and contacts in my 'file of tricks' for you xx

Ye it is she saw the group and joined and offered to help which is fantastic. Im on overdrive with it db has said i should be an organiser with all the suggestions im coming up with and how we could do those things. Charity is really pleased and touched that i have said we're doing something. That would be great, could you send me a sample begging letter for local companies please xx

hi..

so I went to the post office today to post some parcels

and I had DS in baby carrier

and the 2 guys were joking with me and then one says ' this is your second right?' so I said, yes it's my second.. and he said'who's looking after your little girl?' so I paused and was like errm... and they both laughed and said 'ooer new baby brain, that's a bad sign if you don't even know who's looking after your kids' so I said, um, actually she died last year

and there was a huuuuuuuuuge queue of people behind me and I wanted to run away, and they both looked so awkward and were just like 'oh you used to bring her here..'

I eventually scuttled away and was watched by all the people in the queue and the neon freak sign was flashing brightly over my head.

Sorry lovely ladies I just had to let someone know! God I hate this x

ohh sweetheart. Thats an awful thing to happen at least you didnt run away you fought that reaction. i know its hard but they acknoldeged you DD. Its a shock reaction on thir part its cogs turning 'what do i say what should i say and so on'
i had a simlar thing at a night out. A barman told me he knew my brother asked which 1 and it was Matt, worked in puib he used to drink in a lot. I stood there sniffling and told him what had happened then promptly burst into tears

big hugs girls everyone is low at minute,granddaughter 1 has had sickness bug ,sat up in bed and pucked all over her sister,they are in bunks yuk.
well im on week there of my new unit,and im getting realy into it,there is some lovely people there,and the lady helping me moves onto my unit next week,so im getting someone different to work with.

Morning girls xx

Morning xx

Hi Shabs how you doing with all this DM stuff ? I have just caught up with th thread and it all seems very odd .

Its freaking me out to be honest!! Scary stuff! I think its only 'knowing half a tale (as my Nan would say)' thats the worst bit.

I am not surprised , I am sure all will be well but it is a hassle you and Dee could certainly do without .

I presume you have had no more contact with her and she has deleted her facebook now hasn't she ?

Yes deleted her facebook and have had no further contact....my mind has been working overtime though

Hazy thanks for the phone call - it was a lovely suprise to hear your voice and you cheered me up - you are a good friend xxxx

Half Term Jinx with Wilf cant re tell the whole story again

Im am never going to watch 'One born every minute" on channel 4 again - just delivered a baby who is not breathing and then gone to an advert break - Im stood in the doorway watching and freaking out - will be back in a bit when I have stopped behaving like a headless chicken