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Our safe haven thread for bereaved mums and anyone who has been affected by the bereavement of a child - whatever age,

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shabbapinkfrog · 12/01/2010 10:53

The most supportive, loving, loyal thread on Mumsnet - I wouldn't know what to do without all of you x

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travellingwilbury · 10/02/2010 13:27

Jab all done 1 down and another 4 to go .

It wasn't too bad really , magic cream wouldn't work I reckon . Goes straight into muscle

I was a brave soldier

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 10/02/2010 13:48

ouch, those muscular injections are a bastard aren't they?

Did the brave soldier get a sticker?!

Oh and I meant to say thanks you crumpette for letting me know about Dee. I didn't realise she was having a hard time. I'll see if I can track her down

Deemented · 10/02/2010 14:22

Hiya folks,

Sorry i'm not about much - busy busy busy here. We go on the 16th to find out what they are going to do - Tate has a narrowing of one of the arteries that take the blood to his lungs, sounds scary, but we'rehoping it's nothing too serious.

Hope everyone is as ok as they can be.

just because Shabbs asked me to

'When a man's wife dies, he is a widower. When a woman's husband dies, she is a widow. When a child's parents die, he becomes an orphan. There is no word for a parent whose child has died.... thats how awful the loss is.'

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shabbapinkfrog · 10/02/2010 14:39

Thank you Dee - thats the second time today I have read that and the second time it has made me cry xx

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ZiggyMama · 10/02/2010 15:03

Hi

Dee: Sorry to hear Tate has got to have a trip to the hospital, but great to hear you're ok. Which hospital are you going to? (Am a veteran of v many cardiac units...)

TW: Hope the jab has helped you feel better. I've spoken to so many people recently who have felt lethargic & 'not right' - perhaps the blue skies will help if they ever arrive.

I've been trying to help a lady whose baby daughter died recently in SCBU - it's so hard in these early days.

Z x

frasersmummy · 10/02/2010 21:46

I am quiet because my dh dropped the computer and it gave up working... in its defence it had been banged about a lot before this

I am gonna have a browse over the last few days and see what I hsve missed

sending you all hugs

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shabbapinkfrog · 10/02/2010 22:24

Oh FGS keep me away from that Gordon Brown thread - if any of you hear a massive explosion you will know that my head has blown up!

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Deemented · 10/02/2010 22:34

Now's the time when being able to reach into the pooter and slap someone would be good....

Strix · 10/02/2010 22:38

I'm not sure if I really belong here. A dear friend of mine lost her then 10 year old 13 years ago. Today is her 23rd birthday and I just wanted to say something somewhere today by which to remember Jessica. Rest in peace, sweet Jess.

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shabbapinkfrog · 10/02/2010 22:39

You are so right Dee!! I am longing for someone to insult me really, really longing for them to say something LOL.....

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shabbapinkfrog · 10/02/2010 22:42

Strix - anybody affected by the loss of a precious child is always acknowledged and welcomed here - the loss of a child is like throwing a stone into a lake and watching the hundreds of ripples coming out from it. The loss of a child affects so many people - family, friends, neighbours etc etc. Thinking of your friend and you.

Happy Birthday Jess - you sound like you are very missed xxx

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peterpansmum · 10/02/2010 22:43

I know what you mean Shabs, I've had to stop myself posting on that one.

Well done TW you brave soldier!!

Dee, that phrase is so appropriate here. Sorry to hear you've been having a tough time. Good luck with your hosp visits, you'll be in my thoughts xx

peterpansmum · 10/02/2010 22:46

Dee you just made me laugh!!

Happy birthday Jess, Strength and love to you and your friend Trix x

Deemented · 10/02/2010 22:48

Just to add to your analogy, Shabbs...

The ripples from the lake may eventually stop, and the lake will appear on the surface as it always has done, completely unchanged... but underneath things are forever changed, things will never now be as they were because of this one thing...

Eeee, i'm feeling all poetic tonight...

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shabbapinkfrog · 10/02/2010 22:58

Thanks Dee You just set off the snotty tears for the third time today xxxx

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Deemented · 10/02/2010 23:10

Oh Shabbs - c'mere and have some squishy hugs x

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shabbapinkfrog · 10/02/2010 23:14

My friends in Newport used to say 'come and have a cooch' does that mean cuddle or have they lead me down the completly wrong road xxx

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Deemented · 10/02/2010 23:18

No, a cwtch is indeed a cuddle You can have one of them too, if tha likes...

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shabbapinkfrog · 10/02/2010 23:28

oh aye - I'll have owt thats going ta love xxx

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shabbapinkfrog · 11/02/2010 06:43

Morning girls xx

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travellingwilbury · 11/02/2010 07:27

Good morning all .

lottiejenkins · 11/02/2010 07:43

Morning all xx

crumpette · 11/02/2010 09:39

hello all

feeling really pants today~ actually felt really pants all week! I keep crying I really miss L and DP is being a total pr*ck and although new baby DS is a darling I can't help but a. think he is not L, which is obvious but I struggle to be happy about him because she isn't around as well and b. I am really scared he will die I keep poking him at night to check he is breathing

Am I totally losing the plot!? I think most of the tears are about DP tbh, but seriously compunded by Lucia's absence. I was meant to get DS weighed today at baby clinic but I haven't gone because I just can't face anyone

bleurgh x

crumpette · 11/02/2010 09:42

Sorry for that vent, feel bit better now

Anyway, dee good to see you here, good luck for 16th with Tate x

shelleylou · 11/02/2010 10:05

aww crumpette. I donyt think your losing the plot. It makes perfect sense to me. I'm still terrified of losing my other brother.... only to find out yesterday that his friend called an ambulance for im the other day as his heartrate was really fast. He wouldn't go to hospital and paramedics told him if he didn't he may not make it home and he still didnt go. I could slap him. Sorry that turned into a bit of a rant.

I go to pick up my uniform later start working tomorrow. Need to tell them i need time of in may for wedding/honeymoon but dont know if i should mention that i will need time of for db's inquest/court case when that comes round. Any thoughts?