Our safe haven thread for bereaved mums and anyone who has been affected by the bereavement of a child - whatever age,

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The most supportive, loving, loyal thread on Mumsnet - I wouldn't know what to do without all of you x

Good morning all x

Che I will be thinking of you today x

Keep your fingers crossed for me today please , hopefully should get my blood test results (weren't there fri even though I had been told they would be ) . Should know by lunchtime .

Everything crossed for both of here xxxxx

missed out 'you' then!!

I have just had a nose at your pics Shabs

gorgeous

Thank you TW - I love my lads xx

Lewis looks so like the twins!!

there is a bit of a likeness there isin't there Lottie?? LOL

che I hope today goes well at GOSH

shabs I just had a peek at your pics, the likeness between Lewis and your twins is astounding! Gareth is a sweetheart. He is noticeably smaller in that picture but totally totally gorgeous

tw was it your birthday yesterday? Hope you had a nice day and hope your results are OK today

Glad you added Daisy - that is such a lovely name - having never had a daughter, girls names fascinate me

I always watch the beginning of Casualty and if the story is setting up around a child and especially a child riding a bike it gets turned off right away!!!

I keep looking at my pic of the twins and I cannot believe how blue Gareth is - it is very weird that the whole 7 months and 3 weeks he was with us I didn't notice his colouring. Putting the picture on has made me realise just how very lucky we were to have him with us for the short time we did...he must have been a real fighter.

oh sorry I missed the ttc part - I so understand the longing for a baby. I do also think that 'ce, sera sera - whatever will be, will be' used to spring to my mind when we were trying for DS3. Then having DS4 when I was almost 41 really made me think of those words. Try to be calm and try to relax - OMG those last few words are so crap and wont help you in any way. I dont know what to advise at all and I think I need to go and do some housework and try and think of a better way to say how I feel [DOH Homer Simpson emoticon]

Good luck Che, I was thinking of you this morning when I woke up. Lots of strength vibes are being sent your way

Lovely pics Shabs

LF - how about chasing the Consultant's referral? Maybe you doing something will help the feeling of being a bit powerless?

I can't watch any medical dramas anymore. When I used to watch them I didn't really understand what all of the acronyms were, but now I do and it brings it all flooding back.

Oh, and I also meant to mention that I've put some new pics of M on my profile.

OMG Moveit - that cant be your new baby that you had a couple of months ago, can it?

Hi Lunatic giving you a big hug.

Been under a cloud for a couple of weeks myself and not able to shake it off completely understand how easy it is to go from normal to sobbing puddle.

We have given dd3 a name already as dd1 was getting her mixed up with Niamh (saving it until she is here but from the look of your boy's list I think you will approve).

Sending you lots of baby making vibes.

I only found out I was having twins 10 days before they were born (at 38 weeks) it was 1981 and routine scans weren't carried out. Within the first day Gareth had been taken to the Childrens Hospital with Police motorbike escort. Before he was 2 days old we were told about his heart defects and warned that he may not make it through the first few days. He was in hospital for 2 weeks and when he came home he weighed just 3lbs 15ounces (was 4lbs 1ounce at birth).

Sadly 1 week before his 8 month birthday he woke up early and I couldn't stop him crying. Eventually he snuggled down in between me and DH in bed. We put our arms around him and dozed off for another 10 minutes. When we woke up he had died.

I chose the name Daniel and DH chose the name Gareth to please his Dad - who was a proud Welsh boyo originally from Bedwelty, Wales. xxxx

That sounds a good idea xx

Hi everyone and thank you so much for thinkin of us today.

It was fine.

There was a young man waiting for his scan who was obviously struggling. He was an adult so I am assuming he was back for some sort of long term follow up. He was beginning to lose it a bit and was explaining to the staff that he found it very hard to be there due to having spent so much time in hosptial as a child.

I wanted so much to go up to him and tell him I knew how he felt and not to be ashamed of how he felt.

Course I didnt cos I couldnt leave DS. But I reall wanted to.

TW hope results were ok x

Lunatic I know you are worried about your age and ttc. I was too but managed to get pg with DS3 at 39 and am awaiting birth of DC5 at the grand old age of 42! So it is possible

I am off to look at Shabs pics.

Daisy was the other name we had for Billie

Glad you made it through Che, well done you.

Yes Shabs, that is the baby I only had the other month! He's 17mo in the next week!

Hope all is ok with you TW.

shabs your pictures are so lovely,such lovely little chaps, big hugs.
well its been a strange weekend dd1 ended up in a and e with chest pains,due to tooth abcess ,had scans etc baby weighs app 2lb 11oz and all is fine.
dd2 turned round in pub to see who was fighting and they accidently punched her in eye,so she spent all sat night in a and e,its all glued now,but so swollen she cant see a thing,but its only temperory.
thank god its monday.start new area at work on sunday as ive taken a bit of annual leave.

Hello all , well got results back and all seems ok so far . Maybe I am just getting old and knackered

Dr wasn't in today but I will speak to her tomorrow to see where we go from here . Thanks for thinking of me x

che , well done you , I am glad you managed ok and I hope results come back being able to tell you something .

Ilike those pictures are gorgeous , how the buggery is he 17 months old already ?