Gareth and Matthews thread for bereaved Mummies - the special thread where the light bulb at the end of the tunnel is always lit xx

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So pleased that we are all here helping each other walk the 'crappy' path xxxx

A big hug to you too Dee , snots and hormones doesn't sound like the best mix xx

Thinking about you TW - its an achievment to 'get through' a birthday or remember day. I always used to think I couldn't do it and then suddenly the day has gone by again and the longing to see our precious children - if only for a minute - builds up again. We will all get 'there' wherever the hell 'there' is.

Hope you all soon feel better my love xxxx

and yes a Mums guilt is ridiculous, crazy, mad etc etc but I think it is in our un-written contract

Hello TW pointed me toward this thread (hope you are ok TW).
Can I please come here to chat sometimes?

Hiya cometrick - welcome to our brilliant thread. We always say that we are glad we are together but wish we didn't have to be.

....forgot to say you are always welcome here for a gab. xx

Back in a bit - going to pick up my grandson for the afternoon, while his Mummy goes to work x

Thankyou shabba.

Ok I have posted about my dd before on MN but it is getting around to her anniversarys again and although she is always on my mind she is more on my mind at this time of year iyswim?.
I think TW post about her beautiful son made me realise no body ever talks about my DD and then my dp really upset me a couple of nights ago by forgetting that her birthday was coming up I know he didn't mean to but it really hurt.
My Mum has photos of her in the house and takes flowers to her every week I also know she tlks about her to her friends but she is very rarely mentioned to me people avoid her name and avoid me when it is her birthday or anniversary I just wish they wold acknowledge that I once had another little girl.

I'm back!

Oh sweetheart - families are weird things aren't they? They think they will upset you by talking about your DD when, only the opposite, is true.

Do you want to tell us about your DD - what was her name, what happened? If you dont want to don't worry. Speaking for myself I am very nosey xxxxxx

The elephant in the room

I think after a bereavement, especially one of a child this poem is so appropriate. Sometimes, even after all these years, theres still an elephant in our room xx

That poem is so true Shabba thankyou. Sometimes at family parties I look at all my relatives who at the time of her death helped and wrote such lovely things about her but have hardly mentioned her since.

Her name was Hannah she was tiny and had sticky up hair and smiled once in her life.
I wil write about her in a while I need to feed dd but thankyou for listening it helps a lot.

Her site is here if you want to take a look.

Awww Hannah sounds lovely. 'sticky up hair

Will go and have a nosey at your link xxx

Oh she is beautiful.

You are not very far from me - I live in Bolton, Lancs.

i sometimes find myself clicking on this thread, and leave, with tears streaming down my face, because i just dont know what to say...and feeling guilty, because my dd is well. so her goes my cobbled message to you all.

I think you are the bravest people in the world. I truly dont know how you get through each day with the grief that must weigh you down like a lead balloon. What you have been through is so unimaginably terrible, that perhaps some of us just dont know what to say to you. but its not because we dont care.

The only thing i can offer you is my love and care over the net to ALL of you and your families, god bless you all.

Thank you - we all help each other and are, sadly, all in the same boat. If we posted anywhere else on MN except here with our emotions and feelings, most people would think we had gone mad!!! I personally feel we are all very lucky to have found each other - all thanks to a baby girl called Eris and her Mummy Feedmenow. xxx

Welcome trickortreat, please come here whenever you feel like it. I have looked at the site and your darling Hannah, what a lovely tribute. This time of year is a pretty crappy one for a few of us (me included) so please stick around for some support.

Thank you herhonesty, but please please please don't feel guilty about your dd

Hi everyone, I have spent ages reading through this thread - I had no idea you were all here until I read TW's thread.

Hope it's ok if I join you?

certainly - good to have you here but wish we didnt have to meet here xxx

you've got a friend

I reckon this is what we all do for each other on here. xx

trickortreating and TPS I am glad you have found us , I know it is the last place we all want to be but it is the one place where people really do understand .

trickortreating , I have just had a peek at Hannahs site , she is gorgeous , I love the description of her sticky up hair .

How is everyone doing today ? I am feeling better today and I have had a lovely friend round for lunch , she is one that always asks me how I really am especially this time of year so it is always lovely to see her .

well done everlong.

Hello everyone, and especially to everyone who's just found us. I've had a look at Hannah's site and she's beautiful x
Your other thread was lovely TW - I am not sure about my choice of word there, because obviously it's sad you had to write it, but it was very well written. And sending Harry the balloon brought tears to my eyes.
I've been for my 24 week check up today, am being referred to the hospital for CONI so thank you girls for telling me about it Everything is still going OK. And I am 30 today! Eek!
Love to everyone x

Happy Birthday Olissa - 30 is nothing my friend - compared to me you are still a young girl in the flush of youth Hope you have had a lovely day xxxxx