Cole's thread for bereaved muumies: like the sands on the beach that never wash away. I watch over my surviving mum, who thinks of me each day.

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Welcome to our santuary and haven ladies.

Many thanks for Frasersmummy for passing the baton onto Cole and I. I am touched and hope I can do all our lo's justice.

For any people wanting to join, don't be shy. We cry, we rant, we smile, we laugh - whatever we feel like we need to do.

Grey here too , thats why I am putting off doing this shopping .
They were sumo babies . It was a bit like being in a freak show at the hospital with everyone coming into the room to see the giant baby .

ROFL - I got the opposite remarks - when Tommy was a baby he put weight on very, very slowly - I breast fed him till he was 6 months old and was told over and over again that he wasn't getting any 'goodness?????' from my milk. Believe me I am not a 'you must breast feed' Mum - whatever works for you is my motto.

The HV used to bring other midwives and HV to see the 'scrawny' little baby

He is now built like a brick shithouse toilet and just below average height (sounds like me really) Oh how I would love to take him to be weighed now!!!!! Can you imagine??? Oh Shabbs he is overweight, YOU must be doing something wrong!

PMSL

When will they learn that mum knows best ?

I think they just gave up with Jamie as he wasn't even on one of those weight charts at birth and continued for a good few months being a sumo baby but now has sort of stretched .

Right the sun has come out , I am going to move my backside and go and do something useful .

Have a good one

You too sweetheart xx

I know how you feel Everlong - I know that you feel the 'road' is very long and you cant do it. We are here if ever you need to rant, scream, laugh - whatever. Dont forget you have my email address if you need anything xxxx

Everlong, hope the appt with your GP goes well for you on Friday. Be sure to tell him (or her) everything you need to and don't let them rush you. xxx

Thanks for all the huge baby birth stories ladies! Nothing like a good healthy dose of scaremongering among friends

Just to add mine in there....actually, not mine cos mine have all been a civilised size! But my poor mum! She had twins first, both around 6lb's, my brother first, then my sister who was delivered "manually" I believe my mother would say, with the doctor forceably pulling the baby out by hand. My next brother was 9lb 13 and was breech!!!! I was a bog-standard 8.8 and probably just fell out

Off to cook dinner now. Have a lovely evening all. x

One other quick thing! I met an MN'er today in the flesh!! She was at the hospital the same time as me and we'd done a bit of "I'm short and huge and called Jackie" and "I'm blah height and look like blah and am called blah" and we actually met! In all fairness, my dp said he thought she was her, and I said it wasn't, then she came over and said hello!

oh everlong big hugs ,you will get there we all know how you feel,tell the doctor everything and im sure you will be fine.

Everlong , I an hear the pain in your post . I am so sorry you are feeling so down , I can agree with the others to be truthful with the dr however scary it feels . I wish I could do something for you , and I know at the moment it must feel so overwhelming for you .

I did find it helped to write how I was feeling down , wether you choose to do that here or just in a notebook I do think it helps . I also wrote letters to Harry telling him how much I missed him .

I know it all sounds a bit pointless but I did find it helped .

Be kind to yourself xx

Oh Everlong

Just as you think you are getting somewhere you hit a brick wall again. I really remember feeling like that. However the gaps between the peaks and troughs do eventually get longer.

As someone said earlier, take as much time as you need with the GP, don't be rushed.

If you need to talk and would like to talk here please please please don't hesitate. Don't worry about being 'good company', this thread is here for every emotion that we feel.

Thinking of you xxx

Everlong....sweetheart... breathe, just breathe.You can do this honey - i know it doesn't feel like it now, and you're hurting more then you've ever hurt before, but every moment turns into two, then ten mins into an hour, then an hour into three, and before you know it you've gotten through another day, even when you thought you couldn't.

Pleae know that we are all here to listen to you, whenever you're ready, love.

Thanks for all the birthday wishes yesterday - i actually had quite a plesant day - better then i thought it was going to be.

And can i admit to wincing too when i saw the size of some of your babies? I thought Brogan was a whopper at 10lb 20z, but yours knocks her into the shade My mum was a biggun - a mahoosive 14lbs 3oz!!! She was born at home with no intervention at all - my gran used to say hers was the easiest birth of the eleven of them!

How's everyone else today?

That sounds like a good start, Everlong. I'll be thinking of you.

Compassionate Friends are all people walking the same road as you my friend. Just like our thread but real life I sobbed when I first went to a meeting but it was a relief kind of sobbing - realising I wasn't alone in my thoughts and emotions. So proud of you for taking the first step - you are doing really well xx

Ive just been reminded by a friend that its a year ago today our much loved local GP died......... he was the most amazing guy, who looked after me when Jack died, when Wilf was born, was seriously ill at 3 weeks and then diagnosed as deaf and when Frank died. he collapsed at home and died in hospital miles from home. He hadnt retired long before, i sent a letter to the local paper saying all the wonderful things he did, (the children loved him as he had chocolate buttons in his fridge) At his funeral three weeks later one of the other doctors gave the address and read my letter out! I was so shocked. I burst out crying and people who didnt know me were wondering what was up. I remember walking out of the service and Robbie(the doc who gave the address) stood there. I just went up and hugged him........ I have a good relationship with my new GP but it will never be the same as I had with Dr Norton.

Thats very sad Lottie - I have never felt very close to any of the GP's I have had - I think that must be great to have a good relationship.

Oh i am so having to bite my fucking tounge here....

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/683351-facebook-users-please-sign-a-petition-to-keep-teddys-etc?msgid=139 19495

Ok, so maybe i didn't bite it as much as i should have done...

Oh shite Dee - I blew a gasket!!

Sorry Hazy!!! I saw red!!

A website i use calls people who haven't had a loss like ours DHAC's - Don't Have A Clue's.

Long may it stay that way... but i thought it bloody apt. Some people really just DHAC.

Oh shite Dee I am still having a rant on there!!!! Several of the posters are people I have had run ins with about the same topic. I love a good argument Your posts were so eloquent - well done my love. I am now starting to cuss and 'eff!!!!

You go for it Shabs - i should have just told that twunk to fuck right off, but being a newbie here on MN, i thought it best not to incase i trod on someones toes.

You say whatever you want love - it drives me round the feckin bend when people say such drivel. Right, I am going to have to breathe before I pass out

I'm afraid i have to sign off this one as my other little fella has just woken up and is looking over my shoulder.

Will certainly catch up with it in the morning though - night Shabs