Fraser's thread for bereaved mummies: Death leaves a heartache no-one can heal - Love leaves a memory no-one can steal

[frasersmummy]

Hello my good friends

Its lovely to be asked to set up our new support tread especially as we head towards our first festive season supporting each other.

I hope Frasers part of the journey is as smooth as Eris, Jack and Matt&Gareths

Morning girls xx

Morning Shabs, still full of cold here..... I do have a working kitchen back though!!!

Morning Lottie - so chuffed for you!! Is it lovely? I think the kitchen is our most important room as well. I have all the house to clean today. I got up at 2.45 - somehow misread the clock to say 9.15am. Im fading fast now. DH has coughed all night - I know he cant help it but I had to get up or be a nasty cow with him!!!

xxxx

The men are just tiling near the sink and then that should be it........Ive just been watching GMTV a little boy with a heart problem and cerebral palsy was taken to Disneyland Paris for the day........made me cry seeing him........also made me think of how excited Wilf is going to be this time next week when we get out there!!

lottie im so pleased for you it will be lovely for christmasx

We aren't at home for christmas........we are going to Disneyland Paris thanks to my fantastically wonderful Mum who will be paying for us! When my Dad was alive they took my nieces and nephew so she wanted Wilf and I to be able to go. I had a lovely email last night, theres a lovely vicar who talks on Pause for Thought on Radio 2. I have been touch with her since the summer and i mentioned that it is Jacks remember day next Monday and she is going to light a casndle in her study for him!!

morning girls..

sorry hazy I didnt mean something stupid on your grave.. I meant maybe someone had done something outrageous elsewhere in the cemetry that prompted this stupid demand from the superintendent I didnt mean to upset you ..

mum is still in hospital so my house is a tip seeing as its 7 sleeps to go I am not going to visit this afternoon.. I am going to send ross to his grandad's and clean clean clean..

bet I end up eating chocolate and watching paramount comedy

FM - dont worry I'm sure Hazy will know you meant no harm at all - why would you???

My mum and dad have just taken Tommy to the cemetery to take the Xmas flowers to my Gran and Grandad and to my boys. I am such a shite - I dont want to go - I act like a sulky teenager at this time of year and my mum sees through it and sees the little girl who cant do it. I feel terrible towards them but I CANT DO IT.

I have written a card out for the boys. Put the words of the song 'Have I told you lately.' and told Gareth to cause a riot in Heaven on his 27th birthday. Hope the vicar doesn't see that Hope Gareth gets so drunk he is sick and St. Peter has to clean it up.

Have I told you lately

frasersmummy - how is your mum doing? I hope she's on the road to recovery.

lottie - how wonderful to get your house back. There really is no place like home.

hazy - happy anniversary, I hope you both had a great day. You're like me, one glass of wine and you're glowing

shabs - Your M&D understand. As you said, your mum see's through your upset and she understands.

FMN -where are you? We miss you. Come back soon.

Yes I second that - FEED ME NOW - COME HOME RIGHT THIS MINUTE - errr please

hi girls no offence taken honest darling.
shabs 27th hey my dd is 25 on 20th saturday.
well not heard anything yet ,its just we wanted this christmas better than last two years,its babys first proper xmas,last year she was just a baby with dribble,poo and that bleeper which made me so nervous ,this year she is a lovely red haired girl who is so lovely i love her to bitsxxx

you sound so happy Hazy - I am chuffed to bits for you xxx

Have I Told You Lately (VM's version) was my song with Wilfs Dad Shabs !! xxxxxxxx

Love that song Lottie - the words are just wonderful xx

Evening all..........went to church tonight and put a prayer on the message tree asking people to remember Jack on his birthday.............

We got, in Jacks honour, today a apple pie scented candle and a chocolate log scented candle. xx

Im crying now Shabs,,,,,,,,,thanks....yet again you have hit the nail on the head..those are two of Wilfs favourite foods!!
Did i tell you he got into trouble for dodging the filter at school and downloading a nude picture of Bart Simpson!!

How fantastic Lottie......oh sorry [pretend angry face] that is awful who gives a flying feck!!!!

Was going to say dont cry and then thought how stupid it was to say that. Jack was and is still your precious lad. He will be with you at Disney so will your DH. I hope you have the greatest time. xxxxxxx

Would pay at least 50p to see the picture

Tom said tonight, after watching Wilf on your link 'Mum you know Lotties son?' 'He has taught me something without even knowing.' When I asked what he said 'I always thought that people who were deaf were not very bright but he has shown me how daft I am!' Job well done Wilf - you cheeky bugger!!

Bucks Fizz

This song played over and over again the day my DTS's were born. There was about a foot of snow, awful blizzards and Bucks Fizz strutting their stuff all day!!! When I look back I realise how innocent I was - how I thought everything was achievable.....probably a good place to be???

I still hate Sundays for the very same reason my darling.

I have cried all day every day for the last week - I think its normal and if its not we are both strange!!!!

Im much better thank you - not much appetite but I can live with that.

Stay close Everlong - dont forget this is one of your 'firsts' - your first Christmas without Oli being physically here - it will hurt so much BUT we are all here to help, to try and say the right words. I wont be turning the computer off over Christmas and Im sure many of the other girls wont either.

Sending you hugs across the few miles that separate us xxxxx

Never, ever apologise to me for being sad!! I have a gold medal for it my love!!!

Perfect words for all my friends on this, our special thread