For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

[lottiejenkins]

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

Im 52 in December if that is of any help?

The song idea is excellent. If you go onto youtube and put in Top of the Pops from...say, 1970 onwards it gives you all the hits from the years.

I live on youtube sometimes, when Im feeling down in the dumps. 1973 was a particularly great year for me

Afternoon all,
I like the idea of the CD FMN but also what about a picture collage of your friend/family. Could you get pics of her through the ages from her family and put that in a collage for her. I did that for my sisters 21st and it went down really well. Obviously though I had very good access to relevant pictures.

I HAVE GOT MY COMPUTER BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HURRAH!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nice to be back properly with you all xxx

OK, I'll try the TOTP thing.

CM, I would love to do something like that but I know for a fact that in her household the only one who knows where all the old piccies are are my friend herself! My original idea of the collage, I was going to include a picture of her with all the other fab 50 yo's but I knew I wouldn't be able to get my hands on one picture, let alond enough to make a display! Shame, cos it would have been nice.....

hi girls just bought fil home,the hospital is suprized he survived as acute renal failure,apparently you dont get another chance,hows everyone xxx

Have just found this sad thread........
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1367/604158
I have suggested that the OP posts on here but it might be nice if some of us offer some support?

Hi hazy im glad you have got fil home..... hope he has a good weekend with his family..............

Hazy, so glad fil is home! How is he feeling? And how are all of you feeling too for that matter?

Lottie, that link is linking back to us here.....

Whoops so sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1367/613615

Hazy - so chuffed for all of you. xxx

Morning my friends xx

Morning everybody xxxxxx

Morning everyone hope your all well? only a quick post cause I have so much to do today....but im so knackered DS kept me up all night crying not sure whats wrong with him might be his cold or last few teeth coming through.
Hazy thats great news about your FIL.

Ive got some good news too... got a BFP yesterday only been trying 10 months & was starting to lose hope but were over the moon!

xx

Hi Everyone,

Mel - thats fantasic news. So pleased for you.

Things ok here. Yesterday Noah would have been 6 months old. So it was a very sad day.

Is anyone reading Gloria Hunnifords new book? It's about losing a child and what she writes is so true. Hope everyone has a good weekend. xxxx

Fab news Mel - chuffed to mintballs for you.

about Noah....he still is 6 months old darling. He is physically not with you BUT he is still 6 months old and because your love for him is obviously so strong he is always and forever your precious baby xxxx

Im so happy for you Mel...... well done you xxx
Hugs for you Lighthouse xxx

hi girlsxx
big hugs lhk x congratulations mel x

Good morning girls xx

Morning. We have just been to church We had a fantastic chirstening to go to, our friends daughter Faith. It was a lovely service. The service is called Lets Celebrate and the children are given a chance to stand up and say what they have to celebrate. Wilfred went up the front and quite vocally told the congregation that he could ride a two wheeler. He had to be tactfully told he couldnt ride his bike down the aisle though!! Mind you when we left later loads of people were cheering when he rode off!!

Hi, my dear 12 week old nephew died last week. I have posted on another thread but was re-directed here by Lottie and Shabster.
This was my original post..

He was born with a heart condition. He was missing a heart artery, had a hole in the heart and other problems. He had major open heart surgery last Tuesday. He came out of theatre and was doing fantastic for the first 24 hours and then it all just went down hill. Wedneday night his heart stopped and they massaged his heart for 58mins and put him on a ventilator. They had to shock his heart 27 times that night and i can still see his poor body jump. Over the next couple of days his kidneys went on strike, his lungs filled with fluid and his heart was struggling. Myself, my brother, his partner and a family friend all stayed with my nephew day and night, we took it in turns to never let him be alone and to hold his hand and talk to him. We never thought he would leave us, he kept fighting until the end. His pupils became fixed on Friday morning so a CT scan was done in the afternoon. He was brain dead and had already died but the machines were keeping him alive. He was gone. I didn't want to say goodbye but i had to. Before they took all the machines away i told him i was sorry. That mummy, daddy and the rest of the family tried. We done everything we could. I was sorry. When we had all said our peace they asked us to leave whilst they sorted him out. Then his mum and dad held him and had time alone with him. I also held him, he looked so peaceful,i wanted to make him come alive again. I didnt want to let him go.

I have to be strong to support my family but i just had to tell someone else.

Please pray for him i just want him to be in peace.

I'm struggling to cope and he wasn't even my baby. My family are in turmoil.

His funeral is this Tuesday. Like the rest of my family we want it to come soon so we can lay him to rest but on the other hand i don't want to say goodbye. None of us wants to say goodbye. It's so final

I know im rambling to myself at the moment as no-one else is around but it does in some ways help me so apologies if it doesn't make much sense!

My dad told me that when someone holds a baby that has already gone, that the spirit of that child stays with the person for the rest of their life. I don't know if that's just my dad trying to make me feel better, but it is a nice feeling to think that he may be true.

bbuttercup - thank you for coming over onto our thread.....it is such early days for you and your family. You will all grieve in your own individual ways...some days you will feel ok and others it will be too much to bear.

The ladies on here will help in any way they can. We all have different stories and experiences with our beloved children. We are all at different stages yet we all help each other.

Im so sorry for your loss - it sounds like your nephew and my baby son Gareth had very similar heart problems

Keep coming back and posting and we will all help in whatever way we can. xx Please give my love to your family.....the early days of bereavement feel unbearable xx

Your dads thoughts sound just wonderful to me darling. Our sweet babies never, ever leave us - ever x