Would you buy SIL flowers after loosing one of her parents

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Would you buy SIL flowers after loosing one of her parents. To add she’s only young loosing a parent. I think it would be nice but not sure if it’s the done thing?

Thanks all for the helpful comments, yes I’ll also be sending a card.

I think the important thing is to acknowledge her loss. So a card and some flowers is good, I think. People are so awkward after a bereavement and so often don’t say anything, which is far, far worse than getting it a bit wrong, in my opinion.

I’d buy something delicious as a treat rather than flowers.

Mind you, when my mum died last month it would have been nice if any of my in-laws even acknowledged it with a text. Absolute radio silence. Will not be bothering with Christmas cards this year.

I’d definitely send a handwritten card. Not sure about flowers as I’d normally then send flowers to the funeral if the family were having them.

Of course. My in laws didn’t bother and I’ll never forgive them.

@Badger717 Acknowledging the person’s loss is what’s important, not whether you knew the family member yourself.

Yes, flowers are a lovely gesture, OP, although you don’t have to-just a card is fine too.

@ADHDHDHDHD Neither did mine when I lost my Mum and you don’t forget. I’ve forgiven them, but not forgotten.

Sounds like a lovely gesture - although, as @Namechangedforspooky suggests, I usually go for a flowering plant as they last a lot longer. I’m sure your SIL will appreciate the thought.

I lost a parent last month. I got lots of flowers but one friend got me a chocolate hamper. That was much appreciated.

I’d absolutely buy my sister in law flowers, we’re very close

Yes, I send flowers to all my friends who lose a family member, and I received many flowers when my dad died. It’s definitely the done thing in my circle. Or a nice photo in a frame etc.

Yes absolutely

I’d never buy anyone flowers who had lost someone, I’d make a home cooked meal.

No I hate flowers, I don’t send or give them to anyone and hate receiving them.

I would absolutely send a card and if close offer to make some meals.

No. When you’re newly bereaved, flowers are just another job you have to do. Send her some food, or a nice letter.

I would send a card at least, and if you have a personal memory to share that is a lovely touch.

I lost my sibling, and my in laws never acknowledged it, not even a text- my SiL even shushed me, when I was asked about the funeral & was explaining what had happened. You don't forget that.

I think flowers are lovely. I only got one bunch when my mum died and 2 cards. That still actually makes me quite sad thinking back, so unless she’s going to inundated with ‘millions of flowers’ … which I think it’s typically quite rare these days, I would send flowers and a card.

Cook vouchers would be good. I've just lost my Mum and seem to have lost the ability to shop and plan for meals. To have some good quality ready meals at hand would be a real godsend.

Not flowers but a nice home cooked meal in a container that can go in freezer if needed or else a meal voucher.
In the card, share a memory if you can.

Won’t you be attending the funeral?

I'd definitely go see her, bring a card and either flowers, something you know she loves to eat etc. help her however you can. Take food, offer to take the kids out etc.
People remember who was there for them in their hour of need, and who did nothing.