A mum or not?

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My son died when he was five months old, many years ago. I've never been able to decide whether I'm still a mum or not. And I suddenly find myself feeling a bit fragile about the new Mumsnot section, which is not how I want to be. Maybe if I can make the decision I'll get used to the name.

I think you are a mum - you had a child, you are his mother.
I'm so sorry that he died.

You are a Mum. You will always be his Mum. So sorry for your loss

You are a mum ❤️

You will always be his mum.

You are a mum. I don’t think you can be ‘un-mummed’ because your child died (and I’m really sorry for your terrible loss). My parents have died but they’re still my parents. Death doesn’t change that relationship.

You are a mum, you will always be a mum 💜

Definitely a mum 💐

Of course you are a mum ❤️, sending you lots of love x

You will always be a Mum.

Oh wow, thank you all for your kind and wise words. I'm very touched ❤

I am so very sorry for your loss.

You certainly are. Not a doubt.

You are always a Mum. So sorry you lost your son.

I hate this tendency to think death removes a relationship. The bank teller kept calling Dad my Mum's 'ex husband' after he died, it's shocking insensitive.

I’m so sorry
You are 100% a Mum

I’m so sorry for your loss. You are absolutely a mum. If/when your mum dies, she remains your mum.

I think the name is down to me and I just wanted to express a sincere apology to you for how my flippant pun has caused you to feel. You are absolutely and categorically a mum, and welcome on the new board.

I have asked @MNHQ to change the name and I hope they do so.

You can't unbe a mum

You are definitely a mum and always will be. Do you want to tell us anything about your lovely son.

I’m so sorry you feel excluded from the new board. I’ve started a thread there asking for a name change. I think it’s a real kick in the teeth for posters who have experienced loss.
I hope @MNHQ listen

You are absolutely a mum.

Of course you are and always will be a mum ❤️ I'm so sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry.

I will always consider myself a mum to my dead child. Her siblings know she is their sister and she didn’t leave our family when she died.

You are a mum❤

I am so so sorry for your loss. You are a Mum always and forever ❤️

Oh you are absolutely a mummy to your little boy. Please never doubt that.