A mum or not?

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My son died when he was five months old, many years ago. I've never been able to decide whether I'm still a mum or not. And I suddenly find myself feeling a bit fragile about the new Mumsnot section, which is not how I want to be. Maybe if I can make the decision I'll get used to the name.

Oh @WitchDancer . I'm glad those precious cells brought you comfort ❤. It's a lovely thought that I will hold on to too, thank you.

Thank you to all of you who have replied, I really am touched ❤

You were a mother to a little boy, the timescale isn't important. You bore him to birth & beyond.

You'll always be his mother and he'll always be your son ❤️

Thank you ❤

Of course you are a Mum. You are a Mum whose child is not with her, but you are still that child's Mum. You are a bereaved mother, a horrible club to be part of. When people asked me how many children I have, I always include the one lost child in their number. I am always their Mum and the Mum of that many, even though I only have one less by my side.

Thank you ❤

You are always a mum 💗

You're a mum. I know other people have said it but I wanted to add to the chorus. You are.

What she said.

Always a mum, always his mum.

Just to reinforce the unanimous decision that YOU ARE A MUM you became a mum the second you birthed your son and THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE, regardless of tragic circumstances 💔

Yes you are a mum, you can't stop being one ever. You were and are everything to your little boy, he hasn't left your family. Don't let there be any doubt. So sorry his time was brief, but it was no doubt full of love ❤️

I remember posting a similar question on here on Mother's Day a few years ago. I've lost 2 sons (one at 15 hours old and one at 4 days old) and the pain is indescribable. The truth is that we will always be Mothers to our precious children. We still parent them- we think of them, we remember their important dates, we are proud of them and they are part of our families for always.

@Georgina125

All of your posts have been so kind, some of you have put into words what I would never have been able to articulate. Thank you so much, each and every one of you ❤

I'm so sorry about your loss and of course your a mum you carried him and gave birth to him and loved him. Bless you

Another just wanting to add that of course you are. I don't say that to be kind, but because it is 100% true - your status as his mother can never be taken from you. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you both, very much ❤

Another child free by choice poster here.
So sorry for your loss but I agree with everyone else. You have been and always will be a mum.

Thank you ❤