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Need A Hand Hold - DS18 in ICU **Trigger warning**

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JungleZgok · 26/05/2022 05:44

Just over 18 years ago, when I was in early labour with my wonderful DS I posted on Mumsnet until I went to the hospital (have name changed since then but was a regular poster). I had lots of encouraging posts from lovely mumsnetters and it was so helpful.

Now my DS is in ICU in a critical condition. I have been up nearly all night. My heart is breaking and I have never known grief like this. DS has been suffering from anxiety and depression and has been on meds over the last 7 weeks and having therapy and visits from the Adult Mental Health service but yesterday evening he decided he couldn't face it anymore.

He is such a sweet boy who always thinks of others. We have a great family and he has been talking to his older and younger sister. He has been talking to both me and DH and we have done everything we can to help him and keep him safe. But it hasn't worked.

I want to understand why this has happened and answers and reassurance that he is going to pull through but it is not looking that good. I can't cope. I feel like a shell and have never cried so much or been sick and to the toilet so much. I can't sleep.

Please be kind. I am not feeling that strong at the moment.

OP posts:
141mum · 27/05/2022 06:30

So so sorry to read such a sad post, it’s so hard when your child suffers MH issues, my heart goes out to you all

runnerblade95 · 27/05/2022 06:30

TheGetaway · 27/05/2022 06:19

JungleZgoK - I’m so very sorry xxx
Sending my love to you.

It’s ok @runnerblade95
your words were personal and supportive.
JungleZgok will understand xx

Thank you so much but I still feel awful 😢

141mum · 27/05/2022 06:32

our DD suffered with MH and all you want is to take the pain away from them, you question yourself, but it sounds like you are an amazing mum xxx

darumafan · 27/05/2022 06:34

@JungleZgok I am sending you all the love in the world today. My beautiful, funny, talented son took his own life 10 years ago. Tell your boy how much you love him, hold his hand until you can't hold it any longer, stroke his hair and give him as many kisses as you can.
I never got the chance to say goodbye to my boy and wish that I could have done those things.
Your boy knows that he is loved and he loves you all. My son left a note saying that he had stayed with us for as long as he could and I genuinely believe that is what your boy has done xxx

rottweilersrock · 27/05/2022 06:39

I can’t even find the right words, but wanted to let you know I am thinking of you and your family.
Sending you so much love ❤️

EarringsandLipstick · 27/05/2022 06:54

Sorry @Firefly1987 I don't want to derail the thread. I didn't mean your full post just the last line - sadly, OP has confirmed her DS will not recover; he will not 'pull through'

EarringsandLipstick · 27/05/2022 06:54

Sorry @Firefly1987 I don't want to derail the thread. I didn't mean your full post just the last line - sadly, OP has confirmed her DS will not recover; he will not 'pull through'

Letsgoforaskip · 27/05/2022 06:58

Sending you all so much love ❤️

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JungleZgok · 27/05/2022 07:02

@runnerblade95 - I've only just checked the thread again . So please don't worry. @Firefly1987 - same - and i haven't ready the full thread yet - mostly in random blocks. i know your intentions were good though.

the words and support everyone has written is just so powerful. thank youx

OP posts:
allsogreen · 27/05/2022 07:04

I have been following this thread and my heart absolutely breaks for you, I will be holding you and your family in my thoughts and prayers today.

Apparentlystillchilled · 27/05/2022 07:08

@JungleZgok you are an incredible mum. I am so, so sorry to hear about your lovely boy. Thinking of you, your DH, your son and yours DDs today.

EarringsandLipstick · 27/05/2022 07:08

Jungle thinking of you & your family, especially DS, on this desperately sad day.

EarringsandLipstick · 27/05/2022 07:08

Jungle thinking of you & your family, especially DS, on this desperately sad day.

WaterBottle123 · 27/05/2022 07:12

I am so sorry OP. Thinking of your family today.

WaterBottle123 · 27/05/2022 07:12

I am so sorry OP. Thinking of your family today.

Decafflatteplease · 27/05/2022 07:15

Posting again to say you were my first thought this morning I hope that doesn't sound weird. As this unspeakable day for you dawns please know you and your family are not alone.

Cr3ateAUsername · 27/05/2022 07:17

Thinking of you today Flowers

HikingforScenery · 27/05/2022 07:18

OP, I’m so so sorry to read this. Thinking of you and your family. x

ladydimitrescu · 27/05/2022 07:21

I am so very sorry op, for you and your whole family. Your DS sounds like such a wonderful young man, who touched many lives and will never be forgotten.
Even by this thread, hundreds of us here will never forget you and your boy.
Sending you love and strength at this tragic time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers x

Thehop · 27/05/2022 07:22

I’ll be thinking of your lovely, loving family today, OP.

you must be so proud of your daughter, battling through her exams and then coming to be with her family. Your children all sound amazing.

x

TheBlessedCheesemaker · 27/05/2022 07:23

I hope you find the strength to get through today, and tomorrow, and the next day. I cannot imagine the pain. X

BlackCardi · 27/05/2022 07:23

I’m so so sorry. I’m thinking of you, your family and your lovely son today xxx

Lovemusic33 · 27/05/2022 07:23

Thanking of you and your lovely DS today

SussexLass · 27/05/2022 07:24

Saddened to see your update, OP. Thinking of you and your family today.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 27/05/2022 07:32

thinking of you op Flowers

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