My amazing husband has died suddenly tonight

[Sockofthefall]

I am broken. Our adult children are devastated. Today, 13th October is our wedding anniversary , 30 years. Being in the house is so painful, filled with wonderful memories of an amazing husband & friend. He was such a good dad , but I want him back with me in our bed, laughing & chatting. How do I cope? I don’t know where to start

Oh OP, that's so sad. So, so sorry for what you are going through. Also sending hugs to you and your family xxx

I am so sorry.
I don’t have much advice because I am not that far ahead of you. 4 weeks ago today I said goodbye to my DH, he went out to take part in a hobby and was found at the side of a road early the next morning.
Do you have people with you to help emotionally and with the practical side of things?
How old are your children?
All you can do is take it one step at a time. One day at a time feels much too overwhelming, but one hour/ one minute at a time feels more manageable. Do whatever you need to do to care for your children and get through this. Try and remember to eat regularly even if you don’t feel like it.
People have already linked to useful websites for the practical side of this. My dad, who has experience of dealing with the estate of deceased people before, drew up a spreadsheet of people/ companies/ organisations that needed to be contacted. It’s long and we keep finding more as we didn’t have a joint bank account so I didn’t know who he was paying for what. Without that I wouldn’t have known where to start.

Take care of you and your children. Posting here was one of the most helpful things I have done for support from people who have some idea what this is like.

I am so sorry @Sockofthefall

I am so sorry for your loss op . Thirty years is a long time and many, happy shared memories. Try and eat and drink a little tea and toast today. Sending you strength

My children are adults, early 20’s. They are a credit to him, he led by example through kindness & my boys have followed that trait I am proud to say .

Badlydrawnbear thank you for your supportive methods. I think practicality is what’s needed today, so I will keep busy

I’m so sorry to read this. I did a similar post 10yrs ago - was with dh for 19yrs

It is tough. You world is Broken. Heart shattered in a million pieces

But uou will get through this with help with friends and family

Much love x

So sorry to hear this💐such a shock for you all.My only advice is to get a note book and write everything that you need to do and write comments in when you have done it. I did this when our beloved aunt died and it was very helpful as the shock means you don’t always remember what you heard, said or did. It meant I could see in black and white if I had completed a task and if one led to advice of another.
Bank accounts, solicitor etc.

🌺 for you and yours, much love to you all.

I'm so sorry OP. Sending much love. x

@Sockofthefall but lots of love and hugs and kind thoughts from me here, for you and your family. I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry. Sending lots of love to you all.

So sorry to hear this x

Apologies for bad language but that is a really unbelievably awful thing to do, whoever that poster is.

So sorry @Sockofthefall

The deleted poster had 2 capital I letters instead of L at the end of their name. It was NOT the OP.

Really sorry for your loss.
Grieve as much as you need, let it all out, don't bottle it in.
Wishing you lots of strength.

Apologies all - a poster joined to impersonate the OP. We've sent the troll on their way and deleted their posts.

OP.

Wtf is wrong with people ffs