Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

[sobsanta]

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

Message from MNHQ: Please note, very sad update further down the thread

Thinking of you and your lovely little girl. I’m so sorry this has happened.

Thinking of you and your beautiful girl

Sobsanta, I have read the article about your beautiful girl, and am in tears. She was so loved, and life has been so cruel to take her from you. I am thinking of you all. I wish I could write something more useful, but I wanted you to know that I will remember your daughter and how precious she was to you and your family.

I'm so sorry. How utterly heartbreaking. I wish there was something I could do to take your pain away. Sleep tight Wyatt xxx

I am so sad and sorry to hear of your devastating sorrow.

Oh OP. This is unbearably heartbreaking. I’m so, so sorry for you and your family. I just cannot comprehend how devastated you must be. What a beautiful precious girl 💔

Sleep easy little Wyatt

I am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful little girl. My thoughts are with you all xx

I’m so sorry to read your update about Wyatt. What an adorable, smiley, beloved little girl.

I hope you have a lot of support in real life and are taking care of yourselves xxx

Thinking of you all. Rest in peace Wyatt Rose xx

Am so truly sorry and shocked to see the update of your beautiful girl. My heartfelt love goes out to you, your husband and girls. Thank you for sharing her pictures. What a beautiful darling ❤

Beautiful girl, my thoughts are with you

I'm so sorry you lost your beautiful girl.

Thinking of you all xxx

I’m so sorry your suffering this unimaginable loss of your precious little girl. Life is indeed so cruel sometimes. Your beautiful Wyatt lives on in you, in your heart and in your thoughts and memories. A piece of you will always be with her, and she will never be without the love of her mummy and daddy. Love is boundless and with us everywhere forever and always, she will always have your love just as you will always have hers.

Your beautiful Wyatt will be in my thoughts, as are you and your family. I do hope that you get autopsy results that give you some answers as I know how important this can be in the grieving process, to know and understand what happened. I hope snd prey you get that.

Thinking of you

I am so, so sorry - there are just no words adequate enough at a time like this. My heart goes out to you all x

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby girl, my thoughts are with you and your family.

I broke around 2am on a zoom call with my friends. They needed to see me and I needed to see them - we spoke about fun things and I was numb and it came in a wave. A big wave. It's gone now. I'm back to numb. This is hell. This stop start grief. I know it's my brain protecting me but I feel like I'm not grieving 'properly'.

I've just begged my husband to go back on what he said about needing to donate all her toys in one go and got him to agree to helping me move it all into her room and close the door on it tomorrow. I feel so bad. I can't look at them and see her not playing with them but I'm also not ready to donate them yet. I need them somewhere where I know they're safe until we have a date for the funeral. I know they need to go before then because once that's over I'll never want to let anything go.

We've kept special things. Special stuffed toys etc but it's silly things like her IKEA kitchen set, her books etc. It's all so fucking meaningless when compared with her absence but it's all I've got right now. She is not her things and I know I'm hurting DH doing this but I don't know how to navigate this.

There is no right or wrong. Just do whatever you need to in order to wade through this.

It will be painful to see her things but important not to get rid of them now as DH May regret that once they are gone. Putting them away is a good idea for now until you can agree together what to keep and what to donate. One step at a time my darling x

"Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die."

Sending you and your beautiful family strength, love and healing hugs from afar.

Night night Little one. 💕

I’m so sorry about your little girl I read your post about her being found in her sleeping position and about you hoping that she went peacefully. I am certain she did. My DS was in HDU with tonsillitis when he was just three. There was one moment in particular when we nearly lost him, his tonsils were so swollen he could not breathe. There were six medical people in the room trying to support him and he was oblivious to the whole thing, he just looked so peaceful and sleepy. I on the other hand was in agony I lost his sister during childbirth four years earlier, the post-mortem came back without answers the doctor explaining it to us said she had just stopped. Seeing DS that day I can see how that might be possible. The charity child bereavement UK were amazing at supporting us. There is another charity Love Jasmine which supports the siblings. It was set up by her parents after the Tragic death of their beautiful and beloved girl.
Death changes so much but it won’t change the bond of love you share they continue to grow always. Sending you all a gentle hug.

Thank you so much for sharing Wyatt with us, she was absolutely beautiful and you can just see her cheeky little personality shining through in the photos.

My heart hurts for you and your family, I can't imagine what you are going through, it's every parents worst nightmare. I'm so
so sorry that this has happened, it's absolutely heartbreaking.

I’m so so sorry for your loss. When you feel ready, Elliot’s Footprint has a website and is a charity giving support and information. Started by a family whose son died in very similar sudden circumstances.

So so sorry to read this. She was a beautiful little girl and sounds like she had a fun personality too. What an awful loss.

This is the most shockingly sad post I've read on Mumsnet. Your little girl was absolutely beautiful. Echoing so many other posters, there are no words. The pain you and your family must be experiencing is unthinkable. Sending love and strength.

@babycakes1010

I've just seen your article in the paper and aswell on here... I'm so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful girl. I've funded £20 to your donations and just want you to no as a family we have you in our thoughts xx

Could you please link how to donate as I would like to ❤️