Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

[sobsanta]

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

Message from MNHQ: Please note, very sad update further down the thread

Sleep tight Wyatt
So sorry to see the update, op.

I read this in the night when I couldn't sleep and I am so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to get some answers eventually, although I know that's no comfort for losing her. Sending much love to you and your family.

Beautiful child ❤
Forever an angel. Thinking of you all xxxx

There are just no words.
So very very sorry.
x

((((Hug)))) it will be good for all of you to spend time with Bampi today.

I don't know how people get through it, everyone's different I suppose, but the thing they have in common is that you don't have any choice and especially when you have other children. One breath, one step, one minute at a time. Xx.

Very sadly there are quite a few MNers who have been in your position & still post, so once your thread is moved I expect some (more) of them will be along to offer their support & share the things they did to help them cope.

Lots of love
Xx

So many MNers are thinking of you. I was up in the night too and my heart ached for you.
If I can do anything please let me know x

Goodnight, God Bless, beautiful Wyatt Rose.

OP, I am so, so sorry xxx

So unfair, I'm so sorry

Still thinking of you all ❤️💔

I'm so incredibly sorry on the loss of your lovely girl

I just want to say how incredibly sorry I am for the loss of your beautiful daughter. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through but support is out there when you're ready to reach out for it. You most certainly are not alone.

Thinking of you all

Oh OP so kind of you to be thinking about your Bampi even after all you are going through, I hope getting to sit with his grief quietly today alongside your own will be helpful for you.

I'm also glad that you will have this thread to come back to as and when you need it. We are all here for you and love hearing your stories about your beautiful girl.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful Wyatt Rose. There are no words, but best wishes winging their way from Australia.

I'm so sorry, what a dreadful thing to happen to your lovely girl It's very special to see photos of her - she looks very cheeky and happy.

I just wanted to share an idea from someone else who sadly lost their toddler - family members each choose a charm to represent their relationship with Wyatt and 2 of each charm are bought - one from each person to stay with Wyatt on a charm bracelet, and one for each loved one to keep with them.

I am so sorry for the loss of Wyatt Rose. Thinking of you

I can't cry. I've teared up a bit but I can't cry. I'm numb. I don't know if this is worse.

Whatever you do is fine. There is no worse between crying and numb. The worse is that your beautiful girl has been taken from you. Whatever you do or feel from now is okay. It is your daughter, your feelings, your actions.

I just miss her so much. DH and I have decided we'd like Some Things Never Change from Frozen at her funeral as she'd do all the actions and it was her favourite film. Upbeat but perfect. My heart aches.

OP your GP might be able to help, and a very good bereavement counsellor to help you through. You are in utter shock. Your body is protecting you right now, and doing just the right thing to get your through this. You should not feel you have to cry or be or do anything. Just getting through the day is more than enough.

I am sending you so much love at this time.

Love hearing about your beautiful Wyatt Rose. Carry on telling us about her if it helps.

I'm so sorry. Sadly, there are quite a few posters who have lost their child so when you are ready there are several threads which may bring some support.

@sobsanta my heart goes out to you and your family. This is truly the saddest post I've ever read on MN and I just want to give you a big hug. Remember all the happy times you had with your daughter. Love and hugs

I am so sorry. This is my worst nightmare. I hope that you can heal from this. How are your older DDs coping?

I’m so so sorry. So utterly heartbreaking