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My husband has died

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peachgreen · 28/10/2020 21:45

He died today. He was 42. He had recently been diagnosed with a heart condition and spent a month in hospital but we believed he was going to be okay. He went upstairs for a rest and they think he had a heart attack. He didn't cry out, they think it would have been fairly instant. I found him when I went to check on him a few hours later and I knew he had gone, I did CPR but I knew it was too late.

He was my soul mate, my other half, the true love of my life. We have a little girl who is almost 3. If it wasn't for her I would kill myself. I can't imagine life ever having any meaning without him.

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TheTurnOfTheScrew · 29/10/2020 07:39

I am so sorry for your loss. Mike sounds like a wonderful man.

NoSquirrels · 29/10/2020 07:40

I’m so sorry. Flowers That is so awfully, awfully unfair.

You’ll be in a bit of shock, and it can be very frightening. Just keep talking - to family, online here when you need to - and remember Mike loved you as much as you loved him, and you both love your DD. It’s so hard to be a person grieving and a parent who needs to be there to comfort their child - so, so hard. But you can do it.

Take all the support you can get. There are people here who’ve been through this - you will get through it too. One step at a time.

MsIrrational · 29/10/2020 07:41

I'm so sorry OP. Sending you and your daughter all the strength and love in world Flowers

remaininshroud · 29/10/2020 07:42

I'm so very sorry, peachgreen. I saw your other post yesterday and have been thinking of you ever since.Thanks

WinterOrSpring · 29/10/2020 07:45

I read this entire thread and it is so sad. I am so sorry. Please keep talking to us. Take one day at a time.

Coniferhedge · 29/10/2020 07:47

So sorry to read this. Sending lots of love to you and your family. X

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 29/10/2020 07:47

Oh @peachgreen am so sorry-

I posted on your other thread-I lost my husband far too young and am here if you want to message to rant or cry.
It is so unfair.
One bit of advice is to let people help-it is a very heavy burden for you and people offer because they want to help.
Lots of practicalities to deal with initially and you are not alone.

Sending you and yours love and strength Flowers

ivykaty44 · 29/10/2020 07:50

Im so sorry for this to have happened to you, I think I remember your posts about your dh being taken to hospital when first diagnosed with his heart condition.

Take each hour as it comes and keep your dc close to you

sending hope for you both

sandgrown · 29/10/2020 07:51

So sorry for your loss . I read your other thread and hoped your husband was going to be ok . Thinking of you both xx

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/10/2020 07:51

I'm so very sorry @peachgreen 💐

dizzycatdance2 · 29/10/2020 07:54

No words are even remotely adequate, but I'm so sorry

tinkerbellla · 29/10/2020 07:56

Your poor thing, this is just awful. There are no words... I'm so sorry for your terrible loss. Xxxx

Bexily · 29/10/2020 07:57

Sorry for your loss Flowers

babbi · 29/10/2020 07:58

I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved Mike .
In answer to your question, “ how will I do this “ .... it will be so difficult and heartbreaking but you will get through this .

Take every piece of help that you are offered , people genuinely care and want to help you .
There are also lovely women on here who’ve been through it too sadly and will be more than willing to support you , lend an ear ...

Take it hour by hour for now ... XX

MrsPworkingmummy · 29/10/2020 07:59

I'm so so sorry to read this. He will live on through your little girl. Even if your soul purpose is now to teach her about the incredible man he was, that is what you need to do. DO NOT give up. Your family and your daughter need you. Sending love.

CaMePlaitPas · 29/10/2020 08:01

I'm so sorry OP. Thinking of you and your little girl today x

Indoctro · 29/10/2020 08:03

So sorry for your loss, stay strong for your little girl.
Your husband lives on in her and your love for each other will get you both through this awful time.

Concentrate on her and look after yourself

Again so sorry this has happened to you x

lowbudgetnigella · 29/10/2020 08:04

I'm so so sorry, you got through yesterday and you'll get through today, that is all you can do. Let people do practical stuff for you. Thinking of you x

danascully96 · 29/10/2020 08:04

I'm so sorry, OP. Please feel free to express your grief and cry whenever you feel so called. When the time comes, you may find C.S. Lewis's A Grief Observed helpful. Sending love Flowers

SRS29 · 29/10/2020 08:09

So very very sorry, your emotion and grief will be very hard to deal with and the next few weeks/months will be tough. But I just know you will dig deep for your DD, based on this and your other thread you sound like a wonderful person. Sending lots of hugs x

HappyDogHappyMe · 29/10/2020 08:12

I am so so sorry for your loss, I know that from your last thread that Mike was treated in the Ulster, I'm in Newtownards so I might be close by, if I can do anything to help out please let me know.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 29/10/2020 08:16

Please accept my sincere condolences Flowers

Please feel free to write more about Mike as and when you want to.

Be kind to yourself; it sounds trite but its true. Express your grief openly; do not hide it away from people around you. It is more than okay to cry, wail at the injustice of it all and thump pillows.

Do consider contacting WAY and also CRUSE.

Frdd · 29/10/2020 08:16

I am so sorry for your loss.

Snackasaurus · 29/10/2020 08:18

Sorry for your loss Flowers

JacketPotatoQueen · 29/10/2020 08:20

So sorry for your loss. xx

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