i feel so horrid asking this but........

[iliketosleep]

how do i get the dead baby out of me? I have just found out that the heartbeat stopped and have opted to let nature do what its gotta do but is there anyway i can speed this process up? Im scared of having to go into hospital for tablets and pessaries etc etc

iliketosleep - it was a little grey baby basically, no mistaking it for anything else. It was in the toilet and had sort of slipped under some toilet paper, (sorry if tmi again!), so I didn't look very close. Also, when it came out it did feel like I was losing something bigger than before so I was expecting it. Don't know if this helps or not.

Like Greensleeves said earlier it is OK to feel OK. When I went back to the ward afterwards I was quite relieved it was at last all over, (I went for a ERPC as well). I was going on about how starving I was and was quite cheerful, one of the other ladies asked what I had had done and rather guiltily said I'd had a miscarriage. It sounded awful that I was happy just after this, but I was pleased the baby was out of me and I was now out of pain and could move on.

splishsplosh, our mind is a weird thing, isn't? I have to say - I am not as 100% into TTC as some of my other friends on MN... maybe because something in the back of my mind is very much waiting for the lab results to come back and maybe answer some of my questions... But you know - now that I think I have an opportunity to plan - I am all excited and giddy about this experience. I even told my mom this weekend - "I want another baby." She was a bit uncertain since our DS is still so little... but said that ultimately it was my decision. So... will see how life unveils for me .

Please-please take care of yourself. Needless to say - you have to try and stay calm and positive, even more so because you're breastfeeding. I have heard that stress might cause your milk to dry up. So take care of yourself and your lo. Good luck and please feel free to stay in touch if you find that helpful (our stories seems to be a bit similar
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ILTS sorry girly. I didn't realize your thread was still going until I stumbled across it just the other day. You know - your subject line is hard to miss

Hi all

Firstly big hugs to everyone for what they are going through or have gone through in the past.

Been reading through some of the posts on here and have questions to ask if that is OK and while we're all being honest, which is really what I need.

I started to bleed 2 weeks ago today at 9 weeks, we were on holiday at the time, waited two days and still light spotting, by then we were in Germany, went to hospital where they did an internal scan and said no baby (doctor didn't sepak any english and nurse onlya little so couldn't ask what that meant). When we got home that weekend we went to the docs on Monday then sent to gynie and had a scan there and exams etc and then last Tuesday a scan in the proper ultrasound suite where they said that baby was in sac and looked to have stopped developing at about 5 weeks. I decided as things were working out naturally to not have surgical intervention, last Saturday morning I went to the loo and felt something slip out and it went down the loo before I could do anything. Is it likely that would be the sac? Bleeding is easing off now also.

Also how will I know when I'm ovulating if we want to try again? We weren't trying before but now I find I desperately want to have my baby and don't want to wait. Is there really any risk that getting pregnant again soon after a miscarriage will cause problems for next baby?

Claire
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ClairePO I had a D&C so my experience was slightly different but from what I read/ heard from my friends, yes, your experience the way you describe it very much sounds like what you think it was. Sorry for saying the obvious - but please see your Dr. to confirm that everything is gone so you don't develop any infection.

As far as TTC - it's a bit tricky from what I understand. The conventional wisdom of organized medicine (can you sense my sarcasm there?) would advise you to wait for 3 proper AF before TTC again. I was told 2 AF by my office's nurse. We're not waiting though...

I had my DS 19 mnth ago, wasn't pg in between then and now and still mc'ed... so wouldn't you think my body was well-rested after 19 mnth? My periods were regular, etc... The way I look at it - and actually many doctors have the same point of view is - if you're emotionally ready, then you're ready.

One girl on MN told me that she OV'ed while MC... she was surprised about that. Some said that they didn't OV'ed at all for a cycle or two. I think it is very individual. I think many ladies on here use OV monitors that might help.

clairepoi cant tell ou exactly as i was 10 weeks but all in all i lost about 30 huge clots and about 60 smaller one (i was on the toilet for 4 hours)

it is a possibility it was the sac but then it could just be tissue. sorry i couldnt be more help xx

Thank you both. I will go back to hospital tomorrow as they suggested then, hopefully will get the all clear that things have passed. Bleeding seems to have eased off today.

I have ordered some of the ovulation prediction strips from ebay, we'll see how I get on with those, because surely if you know when you've ovulated and you get a BFP then they can work out your due date from that?

dont really know what to say but i am very sorry for all of you that have gone through such a sad terrible thing

Claire PO, so sorry to hear you're going thrugh this too - I know you were a bit shocked to find yourself pregnant to start with, as I was, but it's amazing how quickly you start to look forward to a baby.

I passed quite a few clots, mainly in the toilet, 1 in particular felt qute big, but there have been gaps between groups of clots. If the bleeding is easing off, hopefully that's a good sign, but the scan should show if everything has gone.

Good luck with ttc - have you seen the thread on the conception site for people who have gone through mc?

Sat alone at home wondering what to do with myself today. So, so sad to read about everyone else's experiences but feel a little better knowing that I am not alone. Helped me to have a good cry for myself and all of you.

Went into hospital on Sunday for the 'pills'. Quite grim and gory, especially for my poor DH who wouldn't leave me. In the end (after 10 hours)I had to be examined by the Doctor and the remains of the sac removed manually. Grim.

Unfortunately (and I know some of you will be horrified at this)we didn't see the embryo. It must have been caught up in some of the large clots the Dr removed. I asked the nurse to check, but we couldn't see it. It's obviously a difficult subject but I personally don't feel horrified by the thought of seeing 'it' and was hoping to be able to say goodbye properly.

My pain was quite bad yesterday and I eventually passed the remains of the placenta. Sorry, TMI for some people. Pain and bleeding is settling now.

Claire, hope you get on ok at the hospital today and that they can reassure you that everything is gone. Sounds like what you did pass was the sac, although could have been a large clot. Big hugs to you.

I've always thought that the "wait a month or two before trying again so that we can accurately date you" is nonsense! As you say Claire, if you know when you OV'd, when you get a BFP and how big the baby is on the screen then surely you'll know when you're due!? Good luck anyway.

I'm planning on being 'careful' for a month, not careful in the second month and then joining the TTC bandwagon with gusto in the third!

SplishSplosh, Big hugs to you too. Hope it's over physically for you soon. Can't help reading the April 08 antenatal thread and wishing we could all stay there.

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Oh Muddy, what an awful experience, so glad it is over for you now. Lets all hope that none of us ever have to go through this again. Hope your pain and bleeding ease soon.

Back at hospital today, very quick visit and no need for a scan, doc was happy that as bleeding has stopped that everything is OK.

Asked her why not try for another month she said it makes it very difficult re dating and means extra tests, but surely a dating scan would sort that so humm to that as you and others say. She also said that you may have 'product' left inside that would be cleared out by next period but to me that doesn't make sense because if that is the case surely that will probably lead to infection. So on reflection we thought about this, went out for lunch and came back and did some bd!! Well they said its OK to recommence intimicies when bleeding has stopped so what the hell.

I also got my ovulation prediction strips through that I ordered from ebay and I tried one of the pregnancy tests and it was negative so it seems that the preggy hormones have cleared already. I'm off to find splish splosh in the ttc thread.

so sorry muddyboots, that sounds like a truly horrible experience. I know what you mean about saying goodbye. I wasn't sure if I wanted to see it or not, but since most went down the toilet i didn't really want to start poking about. I was so sure at the weekend I was losing it, I was patting my tummy and saying bye bye baby...

I too feel very sad, I keep crying. And while I used to look at pregnant tummies and think that'll be me soon - now i can't bear to look.

Can't understand the business about difficult to date baby if get pg again either - does it really matter? Isn't that what a dating scan is for?

I've looked at the April thread too, and feel very sad not to be among them still.

Muddyboots - come join us on the conception thread when you're ready.

Hugs to all