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My baby girl died aged 19 hours

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itmsylifeitsnowornever · 08/02/2020 18:46

My beautiful baby girl was born at 35 weeks. She died aged 19 hours. I don't know how we get through this.

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liviadrusilla · 08/02/2020 21:27

I am so, so sorry xxx

happywifi99 · 08/02/2020 21:28

I'm so so sorry. Sending much love Flowers

houseofhungryboys · 08/02/2020 21:29

Rest in peace Baby Eleanor 💐

Tellingitlikeitisnt · 08/02/2020 21:31

Eleanor is the most beautiful name and I’m sure your daughter fits it perfectly

I’m so very sorry for this devastation. Do you have anyone with you? Please ask for help and support from anyone and everyone who is close to you.

You will always always be her mum and it wasn’t your fault. She will know you love her.

HelpIcantfindaname · 08/02/2020 21:33

So sorry for your loss. How heartbreaking. Xxxx

BrutusMcDogface · 08/02/2020 21:36

Oh god, I’m so so sorry. How utterly devastating. Thinking of you and beautiful baby Eleanor Flowers

saraclara · 08/02/2020 21:36

Such a sad and inexplicable loss. Eleanor is a beautiful name. I am so sad for you and those who missed the chance to love her too.

user1469525654 · 08/02/2020 21:42

They may have taken her but she belongs to you and always will. Those memories are so important and will always be with you.

TakeMe2Insanity · 08/02/2020 21:43

I’m so sorry 💔

chocolateisavegetable · 08/02/2020 21:45

So very, very sorry for your loss xx

AliciaWhiskers · 08/02/2020 21:47

I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

Keep talking to us here if it helps. There is always someone here to listen and offer a hand to hold.

Lucylivesinamushroomhouse · 08/02/2020 21:48

My heart goes out to you. So very very sorry, this is heartbreaking. I don’t know how you go forward from this. Eleanor, you will always be loved xxxxxx

Bowerbird5 · 08/02/2020 21:49

I am so sorry, it is heart- breaking. My baby sister died at 10 days old and I still grieve for her.

This is the number for SANDS 08081643332 there is a lot of support and information to guide you through the next few weeks and beyond.

Also look at Loving Hands website. They have people that make tiny gowns and I have a friend who makes beautiful woven baskets for them. I have seen photos of them when she first started to weave them and they are special. There are special photographers linked to SANDS who will take photographs. We never had a photo of my sister and I wish we did. So take some photos.
I’ll pray for you tomorrow and light a candle for you at church. Eleanor is a lovely name.

tiredmum1875 · 08/02/2020 21:51

RIP beautiful baby Eleanor ❤️

Thinking of you and your family xxx

Emthebaker · 08/02/2020 21:51

Rest in peace, beautiful Eleanor Flowers

What a lucky little girl to have been loved so much. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers, OP, sending love and light.

IHaventStoppedCravingYet · 08/02/2020 21:51

So desperately sorry for the loss of your daughter Eleanor xx

EmptyFieldOfFucks · 08/02/2020 21:53

Flowers there are no words. But we hear you xXx

ladycarlotta · 08/02/2020 21:53

I'm so so sorry. Thank you for sharing here. Now we all know about Eleanor, and I for one will think of her and you often. Lots and lots of love to you xx

puds11 · 08/02/2020 21:54

@itmsylifeitsnowornever I am so very sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself xx

Shufflebumnessie · 08/02/2020 21:57

I am so sorry to hear your heartbreaking news Flowers

FudgeBrownie2019 · 08/02/2020 22:00

Sending all of the love in the world OP. I can't imagine your pain but know that we're all here sending our love. Flowers

Justaboy · 08/02/2020 22:01

itmsylifeitsnowornever So sorry. Thats about the worst news you can have:(

Can I just make a suggestion?, ask if they have access to a "cuddle cot" it enables you to take her home for a few days so she can be with you at home users say they were very helpfull at that time.

Hope this helps.

Bless you..

DarwinLoves · 08/02/2020 22:01

I'm very sorry for your loss and understand how devastating this is for you. My baby daughter died 20 hours old 8 years ago. It was devastating and life changing.

I have a happy life now but in those early months I didn't know how to breathe. I found incredible support in my local sands group and from some others I met through the sands forum. You will get through this but right now it is about survival. Every hour at a time, going with your feelings.

Lots of love

Kingyy · 08/02/2020 22:05

Sending love to you OP. Eleanor will always be a part of you. You will carry her with you in your heart forever.

I’m not sure if you have a faith but I hope you don’t mind me praying for you tonight OP, and for little Eleanor who has left an imprint on all of us ❤️

Satsuma2 · 08/02/2020 22:06

I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter Eleanor. Sending a big hug. 💐