The first day without DH

[annandale]

Lying awake not really able to believe it. Dh was alive this time yesterday. Ds sleeping in the room with me.

Lots of people have offered help. Very confused about all the legalities, there has to be a post-mortem

I have to see his parents today

I’m so sorry. I hope it won’t be too difficult to see his parents. It will get easier. One day at a time .

So sorry op

I too have been through post mortem of a close family member although it was not in the uk

How old ia your ds

Just can't believe he's gone. My dear large gentle man. He loved music and played the piano. Loved books, was a big fan of Colm Toibin and Orwell. He was an artist and good at making jam, cooking and gardening, though he didn't like gardening much. He would have done anything for me and ds. I think he thought he was doing this for us.

I'm so sorry 💐

Annandale, my deepest sympathy. Please tell us more about your beloved DH. He sounds wonderful.

So sorry, he sounds like a lovely person and lots of happy time together.

Oh my love. He was ill. He sounds like a wonderful man.

I am so sorry annandale x

We did, we had wonderful times. Terrible co-dependency for eating lovely treats and having nice coffees at home and enjoying ourselves. It took us about nine years to paint the house as we would both do anything rather than diy, but eventually we did and would lie in bed looking at the painted ceiling in awe. Two weeks ago we went for a beautiful 8 mile walk, the morning it snowed. We went through the woods just listening to the silence and looking at it all, it was so magical.

So sorry for you loss

I'm so, so sorry.

Very sorry, what a terrible shock.

Beautiful memories. Keep them close; he'll always be there with you. Take good care of yourself, sweetie. And keep posting here!

Have a hug from me, Annandale. I am so sorry to hear your news. The walk in the snow sounds lovely - a treasured memory.

I've experienced sudden bereavement twice in my life. The first was my sister, and I became the support to her partner and children. Grief is a real physical thing that you think you'll never survive. You will. The pain will subside. I threw myself into sorting sorting sorting out everything I could.
My advice, take all the help you're offered, talk to whomever will listen, spend time with others planning a celebratory funeral.
This might help with some of the practicalities
www.gov.uk/after-a-death
Keep posting on here if it helps.
Much love x

Sending you sympathy at this terrible time, you will be in a whirl of grief and emotion. Bless you and your family. I know what you mean about wanting to tick things off for it all to be over and life back to normal . Mn will be here for you night and day with hand holding and brilliant advice so use us. It sounds like you both took the time to stop and appreciate over the years; try and use those memories to keep going though you may rail at him in the weeks to come for leaving you all. Lean on anyone who offers support, speak to those that are there to guide you, come here for letting it all out.

OP I am so sorry.

Take all the support offered here and in RL.

We lost a friend last year leaving 3 children under 12. Winston's Wish were very helpful for the children, providing support and understanding.

Don't try and be brave, you are copping with more than a person should have to.

Thinking of you

Coping

I'm so terribly sorry you are all in my thoughts x

I'm so sorry for your loss

I am so sorry x

so very sorry for your loss

Holding your hand today.

@annandale I am so sorry for your terribly awful loss.

The last 24/48 hours have been awful for you. I cannot imagine the shock and pain you are feeling right now. Holding your hand

Sending unmumsnetty hugs.