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Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

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My world feels over

83 replies

annielouisa · 01/05/2017 11:18

My lovely husband died suddenly yesterday. No illness, no warning, just gone. I feel numb and confused l just do not know what to do.

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Knittedfrog · 01/05/2017 11:21

I'm so sorry. I'm listening if you want to talk about him. Or anything.

TheFaerieQueene · 01/05/2017 11:22

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you must feel. I hope you have friends and family around you at this dreadful time.

Mrskeats · 01/05/2017 11:22

I'm so sorry.
Do you want to talk about what happened or him?
Do you have real life support?

SaltySalt · 01/05/2017 11:23

So sorry what an awful shock

SemiNormal · 01/05/2017 11:26

Gosh I am so sorry. Here to listen if you'd like to talk.

picklemepopcorn · 01/05/2017 11:32

What a shock! It will take you a while to work through the shock, as well as starting to grieve. How long had you been together?

harverina · 01/05/2017 11:37

I'm so so sorry 😥

Rareshopkins · 01/05/2017 11:49

I'm so sorry. Life is shit sometimes.

I had a bereavement last year ( my mum) . I felt like I had been picked up and dropped into a different country. Everything was the same but nothing was.

Take it moment by moment, sometime that is as much as we can do

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annielouisa · 01/05/2017 11:59

It was all so sudden. He had not been ill except for what he thought was trapped wind. He picked me up from work at 1530. He started to feel unwell at home l rang and ambulance and in hospital they thought it was kidney stones. Later while having bloods done he collapsed in pain. They rushed him into resus and fought and fought but could not save my lovely man. They suspect it was an aortic anuerysm. My kids have been great (all adult) l just feel so lost. We were due to go on a much longed for holiday in 13 days.

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EwanWhosearmy · 01/05/2017 12:02

Oh that's so awful. Can you take one of the kids and still go on holiday, or would you find that too much? Do you have someone in RL you can turn to?

purpleprincess24 · 01/05/2017 12:07

So so sorry for your lose.

Use us to rant, scream, cry, we are always here

flumpybear · 01/05/2017 12:13

Annie - I'm so sorry to hear your news you must be in shock. You've got a process both physically and emotionally to get through. Take all the time you need and get help and support from family, friends and professional - perhaps cancel your holiday and go after things have settled to rejuvenate. Sending hugs

LightYears · 01/05/2017 12:22

So sorry for your loss.

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annielouisa · 01/05/2017 12:24

I will cancel the holiday tomorrow. I just feel so crap. We both had dreadful first marriages and ours was the opposite he made me whole. The strongest most loving man l know.

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zen1 · 01/05/2017 12:27

How awful - I'm very sorry. You will be in a state of shock OP. Do you have people with you?

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annielouisa · 01/05/2017 12:48

I am with my mum, daughter and brother l just feel empty

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 01/05/2017 12:51

I'm very sorry to hear about your husband, it was so unexpected I can see how you might struggle to make sense of anything.

zen1 · 01/05/2017 12:53

You poor thing. You will not be able to process this at the moment. Lean on others if you can. There is no set way to deal with this.

Libitina · 01/05/2017 12:54

picklemepopcorn · 01/05/2017 14:15

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you have support.

kingjofferyworksintescos · 01/05/2017 17:46

Chasingsquirrels · 01/05/2017 17:53

I'm so very sorry to read this annielouisa.
Not only are you having to deal with your husbands death - but you will be dealing with it in a state of shock.
I'm glad that you have some people around you so help you through this.

I post on a thread started by someone whose husband died unexpectedly a couple of months ago, my own husband died just over a month ago and I have my own thread. The support on those threads has been amazing and I hope that you get the same support - which changes as time goes on.
My thoughts are with you x

PointlessUsername · 01/05/2017 17:57

So sorry for your Loss.

Be kind to yourself

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annielouisa · 01/05/2017 19:25

Thank you for all the kind words and support my family are fantastic and l have been overwhelmed by their love and support. I just feel so unsure there is a hollow feeling like l am a jigsaw with vital pieces missing. I loved this man beyond words l cannot picture a future without him.

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Lovedlost · 01/05/2017 19:45

I am so sorry. I wish I could hug you right now.
He will always be with you.

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