Lemon's Mum

[lemonzest123]

Hi MNers,

Thanks for tipping me off about the message limit on my other thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2725008-Would-any-MNers-be-able-to-help-tonight?pg=1&order=

I am stunned and unbelievably humbled to see that one little post I wrote sparked 1000 messages, and Im so appreciative of all you personal stories and jokes to cheer me up.

MN is offically amazing and you're all fantastic.

DM had a rough night, she apparently woke in the night with a bad headache which I think confirmed the disease has moved into her head (we expected this, apparently what's causing the paralysis often appears in the brain too). Still no appetite and sleeping all the time.

Hope everyone had a good night. I had yet more nightmares - theyre all about Mum and they all horrible. Shouty I is in fine voice this morning. Dad said he heard Shouty I bellowing to Shouty II to shut up the other day. Pot, meet kettle

I'm not surprised you are all falling asleep, it is such a stressful time for you and it will sap your energy. Glad your darling Mum is peaceful. Have little naps, it won't hurt. Will drop by later. Take care

Thinking of you Lemon

I'm here .Lemon

You will still hear her, you really don't forget , and her voice will pop into your head.
Hard times though, thoughts and prayers to you and all your family

Lemon - I hope you had a peaceful day. Prayers.

I know what you mean about missing their voice. I kept an old answer machine for years after the phone had been replaced because it had a message my Dad had left on there. Then one day it just wouldn't play anymore. It still makes me feel sad.

Thinking of you Lemon. Xx

Hang on in there, my lovely.

Thinking of you Lemon xxx

Thinking of you and your family Lemon, and sending hugs. 🌻🌻🌻

Thinking of you Lemon xx

Tether. End of.

She woke up for about an hour. Couldn't speak or move, just cried. I had them sedate her straight away but it was so painful to see.

Somehow ended up talking on messenger about my house with my ex fiancé and he's randomly said that even though the mortgage says 60% to him 40% to me he's actually entitled to much more than that because "I broke up with him and those numbers were on the understanding that the house was paid off when it was sold". So also having a financial panic.

Never been this low in my whole life. Want to punch myself in the head til it stops.

Oh sweetheart. Don't take any notice of ex. He's talking nonsense. Stay in the here and now. Big deep breath. And another. Are you on your own tonight? I'll stay with you if you need company.

Hey Lemon,

Just ignore the ex, push him out of your mind and spend your energy with your family. Hope your mum is feeling peaceful and you can rest with her tonight too. Xx

Oh love. Forget the ex. Block him for now. He's talking rubbish, now is not the time.

Keep breathing. Concentrate on what's important now.

Much love to you.

Don't give him head space. It is morning here and i am around much of the day if you are awake.

Ex is talking utter bollocks - he doesn't get more cause you ended it! Put him straight out of your mind and just don't engage for now. Hand holding and thoughts.

Oh Lemon, he can fuck right off. If the deal is 60/40 and that's written legally then 60/40 it is. Even if it isn't written up then now is not the time. You have bigger fish to fry.

You did the right thing by your Mum, if she was distressed, which she obviously was, there was nothing else your could do. There may be more times up ahead like this so although you won't like doing it it is unfortunately going to be necessary.

I feel so upset for you, cannot imagine what you are going through and how you must be feeling. Try and stay strong and hope you will be able to get a little bit of sleep. Your Darling Mum will be so glad you are there for her and with her. Stay strong, we are all here for you. Will pop back later. Take care

More than 60/40 because you broke up with him 😂 Deluded little twat. Ignore, ignore, ignore...

Chat to your friend, just say you've fallen out with Shorty Porky & if it's possible to sit at a different table it would be hugely appreciated. I'd definitely prefer to know & swap you about if I was her.

((((HUG)))) today must have been extremely difficult for you 💐 I was very close to my Grandad, he was in a hospice (cancer 😡), so very, very ill & so thin, when he'd been a tall strong man, full of life. Not moving or talking anymore. So the writing is on the wall 😢...the (northern) nurses were absolute Angels, so, so lovely. One of them said 'We're making him as comfortable as we can now Pet' and it floored me, totally. It wasn't anything I didn't know & she was being so kind, but it just got me.

That Selasi - not my usual type at all, but I could spend a lot of time admiring his icing! 😁 and licking off that tight fitting t-shirt...hmmm

Your ex is a wanker. I know it's easier said than done but forget his issue for now. Focus on what's important. Much love.

Oh Lemon, I am so upset to read your last post, but agree with others, your ex does not deserve any head space, he sounds like a total arse.

Listen to Rosie, her post is sad but lovely at the same time. 🌻🌻🌻

Darling please listen to Rosie, she knows what she's talking about. And she's right about all of it.

I really hope you had a reasonable night xx

Morning Lemon, Four is right, listen to Rosie, she knows what she's talking about . Even though your heart is breaking try and be upbeat and happy around your darling Mum. Try to persuade your Dad to be too. It makes sense that if Mum can see you're happy it will be easier for her to slip away. Plenty of time for crying after she's gone. We're all still holding your hand, try and get some strength from that. Will be back later. Take care