Support Thread For Anyone Who Has Lost A Parent

[Mummylin]

Everyone is welcome here if they need support for their loss. It's a thread no -one wants to join sadly, but it does help to chat to people who are going / or gone through the same thing

Today is not a good day...I'm trying to sort house out for start of new term and my anxiety is sky high...the flashbacks are awful,,, thought I was doing a bit better..but I'm not..just wish I could get some peace and just look after my kids

Because everything is relatively new for you, this is going to happen, you go along quite peacefully, then bang you are right back to the beginning again. Plus you do have an awful lot on your plate without the grieving you are going through.gradually you will have more and more " better " days though everyone takes a different time span to get to this stage.
Despite everything, you are doing well, many would of buckled completely with all that you are coping with. Hopefully you will have a much better day tomorrow.

Thankyou for being so supportive Mummylin...I didn't get anything near done today that I wanted to do but I'm trying to not stress...uniforms are done but my bedroom is a mess..massive ironing pile..I'm just so tired..will try to get ironing done tomorrow so I get out of bed .

When I have a huge pile of Dh,s tops, I just get ten coat hangers out and when I've done these I leave the rest for another time ! My least fav chore. Won't hurt for you to give your body a rest from all the stress. Have a relaxing day, and de- stress a little bit if you can.

hi mummylin, many congratulations , how lovely a new baby to cuddle!! thats fantastic news! a baby makes the circle of life make sense, doesnt it, although I know how sad you will be your mum isnt here to see him.xx

and hi to the newer posters, sorry I havent read all the posts above but I know you'll get great support here x

sorry mummylin, I know you are thinking of your sister at this time too, it must be very bittersweet for you. I wish you could send me a sniff of the baby....I love that new baby smell!!

Hi ssd lovely to see you. Yes it has been a bittersweet time, but I have to say the baby is lovely !! I am lucky and have seen quite a lot of him as my house seems to be the " Paddington station " house of the family and everyone turns up here !
On a different subject, I am desperate to sign the "Spartacus " thread, but it's at the risk of getting banned from MN ! The only thing stopping me is this thread. I am really torn. I do think it's important that women don't have their spaces such as refuges. Changing rooms etc invaded by so called "trans women " who still have all their bits. But I also can't bear to lose this thread. What on earth do I do ? Help !

I have permission to put the baby,s pic on here to show my friends so here you are !

Oh how gorgeous....made me cry ( in a good way)... Babies are just so perfect...

He is 17 days old potential but I have to say I am glad I don't now have a baby to look after !! But yes he is lovely, that pic is taken in my back garden on Friday just gone. My niece already wondering how soon to go for the next one as she wants them very close together !! He has very good lungs !! Hope you are getting much needed rest today !

I had mine 20 months apart...we are all still in our various beds...I had a v bad night so am a little doped at min after taking tablets to get me through...pj day for everyone...might try your ironing trick and get ten items done later when I'm a bit more with it...

I have been up for ages but still in my pj,s !! I would never get dressed if I didn't have to. I'm going to have a bath soon so will get dressed then.

Yes it's a good way to get through the ironing , especially if you are like me and leave it to pile up !! So yes ten things in one go is enough !

I have posted my support on the thread I was talking about. I hope I don't get banned, but I feel very strongly about this subject.

I hope you don't get banned either but you right to support if you strongly agree.. I agree with you...I'm a live and let live kinda person who takes people for who they are and am a big believer in we are all entitled to our own opinions...but I agree that women need safe places..no idea what the solution is but I think it's all gone a bit far...there's a girl in what was my daughters school who insisted on being called neither he or she because was gender fluid...it's all gone a bit far...l
Didn't get the ironing done...didn't get anything done to be honest...such a waste of a day but have managed to make the kids something nice to eat..

Well that's something positive potential you could of sent them down the chippy ! I admit I would be very upset to not be able to have this thread, but I have a dd and 2 gd,s and I want them to be safe. And yes I agree it's all got completely out of hand. Will wait and see what MN do !

he is gorgeous mummylin, really scrummy!!

I agree with what you are saying, I really dont get it all and I think I'm too old to understand what gender fluid even means! I think mumsnet is caught up in it all and is trying to all things to all people and very right on and pc and its all getting a bit boring now.

He is lovely isn't he SSD. Even though he was a big baby ( 9lb ) he still looks so tiny.
I don't understand some of it either ssd, but I do know that as far as I'm concerned if a so called trans woman still has his bits, he is a man and therefore should not have access to women's changing rooms. Refuges, toilets etc ! There are words on the thread I have never even heard of !!

I wonder if SM is ok, haven't seen her for ages.

yes, I feel the same.

no, not seen sm either for a while, hope shes ok?

mummylin, I was a bit worried there so I did an advanced search and sm has posted recently..sometimes I find it hard to read this thread, maybe she is the same and only visits when she is strong enough

As long as she is ok. That's all I was worried about. My post has been deleted on the other thread, so don't know how it will go now.

In a way it's good that SM feels able to now carry on without the thread. I'm sure she will pop in now and again.she knows we are here when she needs us. ( hopefully ) !

I'm sure she will. I find I dont post here for a while, as sometimes reading the new posters posts brings back the rawness and I need to avoid that. Then at other times I can come on here and post to try to help others and to keep in touch with the old timers. You do a great job mummylin, you'll never realise the comfort you've brought to so many here, you deserve a medal! If mn try to ban you because of how you feel then they are bloody idiots..but I dont think they will.

It's not just me There are about 800 posts on that thread now. I would miss this thread so much and would worry that there wouldn't be a thread for the newly bereaved I would hate that. But if they do ban us maybe it will be temporary. I don't know, we will wait and see.

I just had a look at that thread, TBH it all totally confuses me, I dont really get what its about. I just feel its something thats fashionable just now and mn are jumping on the bandwagon.