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Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

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Can we not do something for ggg?

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Rhubarb · 04/01/2007 17:14

I feel very deeply affected by the tragic loss of her youngest daughter. I wonder if there is anything we could do collectively? Does anyone have any good ideas? I'm willing to do all the organising.

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Chandra · 05/01/2007 02:09

I'm not sure this may be pushing it too much, but what about a donation as a gift in the name of GGG's DD?

airy · 05/01/2007 03:59

I don't know if it is any use, but my dad is an exceptional master craftsman and I'm sure would be happy to make and carve a box like mentioned earlier. If whoever is close to ggg thinks it's a good idea I'd be happy to sort it out. x

uwila · 05/01/2007 12:01

Could we collect some money to send her meals in a week or two so she doesn't have to worry about cooking,etc. Maybe we could send her a cleaner every week for a couple of months (if she doesn't already have one).

And the locket idea is nice.

I'm so torn. I harldy know GGG. But, this has occupied my thought since I read BEety's post yesterday. I just keep thinking why? why? why? why? Why should this little girls life be over, and how on earth can GGG be expected to cope. My heart breaks...

Anyway, whatever is decided on here, I'm happy to contribute. Perhpas Beety can advise some practical help that might be needed and let us know when would be appropriate to send it.

Papillon · 05/01/2007 12:35

this is heart wrenching, my dd and I have both lit candles x

SherlockLGJ · 05/01/2007 12:38

I think we should be led by Beety for the time being. TBH.

Papillon · 05/01/2007 12:43

I feel lighting a candle is non-invasive at this time and a really good way for us all to be able to do something for our own personal shock and for ggg and her family.

PanicPants · 05/01/2007 12:45

I lit a candle. A lovely idea. I tried staying away from this thread as it's so upsetting. But couldn't in the end.

Any ideas or thoughts about how best to support ggg, please count me in.

SherlockLGJ · 05/01/2007 12:46

The candles are wonderful idea. I just think we should take our lead from Beety on anything more practiacal, sorry if I did not make myself clear.

MamaG · 05/01/2007 12:47

I don't know ggg but would like to show my support whichever way (and whenever) beetroot feels appropriate.

Sobernow · 05/01/2007 12:47

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blossomhill · 05/01/2007 12:48

I really think that we should give ggg and her family the time and space they need right now.

expatinscotland · 05/01/2007 12:50

Prayers if you are religious, thoughts and vibes for comfort.

FioFio · 05/01/2007 12:51

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SmileysPeople · 05/01/2007 13:02

When the time is judged right by those who know her, I think the ideas of a speical box with a message on it, and a donation to a charity of ggg's choosing are lovely ideas. I think the both together, something physical to keep and the gesture to help through the money would be a good combination.
I suspect alot would be raised, none of us with children can let this,and ggg leave our thoughts.

Papillon · 05/01/2007 13:09

Perhaps a new thread with the light the candle link might let more MNetters know about it and participate???

Am making the light a candle site my homepage for awhile.

motherinferior · 05/01/2007 13:10

The whole point is that we can't do anything. Not at the moment. Perhaps not ever. We can do things that make us feel better, but nothing is going to make a difference.

Papillon · 05/01/2007 13:11

community spirit makes a difference...

Soapbox · 05/01/2007 13:19

That's it exactly MI - grief is such that it separates one from the rest of mankind for a time. Nothing we do is capable of traversing the gulf between us and GGG at the present time.

Sobernow · 05/01/2007 13:20

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SmileysPeople · 05/01/2007 13:27

No you're right, we certainly should not pretend for a minute that ANYTHING we could possibly ever do would be helpful to ggg and her unbearalbe grief.

But still important to know people care, that the enormity of this tragedy is recognised and acknowledged.

Not yet of course. The time will come for that.

uwila · 05/01/2007 13:39

I thought if we organised some practical help but of course only if and when Betty gives the go ahead it would help give GGG a bit of time and space to grieve rather than worry about fixing dinner, cleaning the house, etc.

As Yorkiegirl said, life does go on around these tragic event.

I just want to help, when and if the time is right. And only IF Beety says it's time.

sunnywong · 05/01/2007 13:42

ggg does not live in the UK, I 'm not sure housekeeping help would be useful.
From what I know of ggg, she needs space to be with her family

RTKangaSANTAMummy · 05/01/2007 13:44

I agree with YG about the flowers

When DT1 died we were inundated with flowers it was too much and too many

I know people were being kind but it was too much

iyswim

IMHO and IME letters and messages are better cos we can still read them so I think that an online condolence book is a good idea.

Flower3554 · 05/01/2007 14:36

How about a garden seat/bench. You can get plaques inscribed, perhaps from mn's. Obviously this is for the future, but perhaps it would bring her comfort to be able to sit out knowing that we all were thinking of her at her most difficult and tragic time.

wurlywurly · 05/01/2007 14:54

what have i missed??

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