Hey Edie and Lynne

[Jossie]

I know we mentioned having a "chat" thread as well, do you still fancy one or not ? I'd like to be on the original thread as well.

Hiya, feeling very tired at the moment, so hopefully that is a good sign.
Lynne, if it is any consolation, with DS2, I had a huge bump, but it was because he was a long baby (did weigh 8lb, 5oz, so not too big) and there was no where else for him to fit, so the bump went out!! Having said that he was a week early, so I'm glad I didn't go two weeks overdue or else he may have been huge

Edie, your holiday sounds fantastic.

Still in denial a bit, but have sort of told myself that I'll go to EPU by the middle of next week if everything is still ok, the only risk until then is if it is ectopic as the Clexane would make any bleeding worse!

Jossie, i have everything crossed for you xxx
about edie going on holiday also!! LOL
Jossie that was the same with ds,he was 2weeks late and very long.

Any news Josie?

How are you both getting on???

Im good thanks Lynne. Have my 16 weeks check with midwife today although already heard the heartbeat at my GP's

How are you??

Edie, im also fine, had to go to gp this morning as there were signs of blood in urine sample so she asked for another sample to send to the hospital, apart from that im fine and keeping well, thanks.
Glad you are keeping well too.

Jossie how you doing???

Hiya both
So far I'm ok, haven't been able to get an answer from anyone at the EPU about what to do, as the senior m/w is on holiday, she is back next week so will try then.
I keep trying not to get my hopes up to much, so as not to tempt fate, but I was glad that I felt really sick yesterday pm and this afternoon (never thought I'd be grateful for m/s!! ). Feeling very tired as well, injections going ok attm.
Good to hear you are both ok, Lynne you must have been really worried.
Bye for now

Jossie, it was so good to hear from you! Everythings still crossed x

I got some bad news this afternoon, my broth inlaw died and ive been in a right state...the hardest bit was telling ds, as it brought back so many memories of dh passing away (it was his broth)i now find myself in a right state as i dont think i could handle going to the funeral. Im not sure how the family will react if i dont go. Two of my neighbours passed away recently and i couldnt handle going to those funerals either, still cant handle going in to speak to their poor little wifes as everytime i walk out my gate to take flowers into them i burst into tears.

I hope you two are keeping ok and have a nice weekend xxx

Oh Lynne that is awful. You've got to do whatever you think is best for you and your DS. It must bring back so many painful memories-was it unexpected? I'm sure people will undersand either way, give yourself some time to get over the shock before you decide what to do.
Best wishes
J

Thanks jossie, it was unexpected, a nurse found him on a shop door way early this morning when she was going to work, we think he must have been out drinking last night and stopped for a rest/sleep?????He recently split from his partner... we will know more tomorrow as its the post mortam. I feel a bit better now, had a chat with ds and done some work around the house to keep me occupied, couldnt handle going up to speak to the family.

Hope you are well.

How are you feeling now Lynne? Sorry to hear your sad news.

Its my due date today for the baby I lost

Feeling OK though, and off to work soon. Hope you guys are both well, Josie, any more news??

Hi all. This is Glimmer/D4phne.

Jossie -- fantastic news. Hope so much this one will work out. I am finding these first weeks quite stressful, but at least there is that glimmer of hope that things could work out this time. Hope time will fly for you, Jossie.

Edie, I remembered it was your due day today. Mine is the day after tomorrow. Have not been wearing any jewellery since I lost the baby and hope that life after the due day will get better. Will also have my 8+1 day scan on due date and hope so much things will be fine. Otherwise I will so devastated -- can't even go there.

Lynne -- so sorry to learn about BIL, neighbours and most of all you DH. Sometimes things are all coming together... I hope you will find a solution to the funeral-problem. The most important thing is what is best for you!

Hi glimmer, thanks, and i hope you are keeping well.
Edie, i knew it was your due date today, it was mines yesterday and i was thinking of you. Hope your day went ok at work.
Jossie, how are you getting on??

Now that im starting to get my head round things i have been preparing myself (if thats even possible) regarding the funeral, i am so,so terrified of going to this funeral as its the same place we had the service for dh and the same minister, same everything, ive spoke to dh about all my thoughts and feelings and explained how all these memories are making me cry anytime i think about it so he totally understands as he knew prev dh, and understands how i feel, its just so horrible even although it was 8years ago its still very raw,especially when i hear things of other close family members passing away. (if any of that makes sense)
Anyway....i'll stop blabing on and i hope you girls arre ok!
xxx

Glimmer So glad to hear that you are pregnant! Wishing you the very best luck. Please post on here to let us know how the scan went. Yes those first three months are incredibly hard. Im now 17 weeks and can feel the baby move so am less anxious. Worried about the 20 week scan but I think everyone frets about that one a little. Thankyou for remembering my due date.

Lynne How was your due date? So sorry about what you are going through. I am lucky that I haven't encountered many funerals but the ones I have been to have been hard.

This one is going to be particularly difficult because of the associations for you. DH sounds supportive. When is the funeral?

Josie Hope you are OK, let us know what's happening.

Sorry I didn't log on yesterday-we spent the day in London and I was so exhausted I just slept.
WEnt to the EPU today, had a scan, the baby is in the right place, I'm 6 weeks pg exactly (m/c was 6 weeks and 3 days ago) and I saw a heartbeat!!!
Still trying not to get too excited as I saw a hb at 8 weeks with m/c 2 and it still didn't make it, but fingers crossed.
Am quite bruised from the injections, but was told a better way to do them so that it wouldn't bruise as much,
Hope you are both ok now you've got your due dates out of the way, I certainly found the thought of mine worse than the reality of it happenning (have had two of them now) also I found out the SIL is pg. due 1 day after m/c baby 3, so desperately hoping that this one of mine stays as at least then I 'll know that I'm due a month after her.
Sorry to rabble on, seem to have a lot to say tonight.
Hello and best wishes Glimmer / D4phne, good to hear from you!

Jossie, thats brilliant news, im so,so happy for you, im keeping everything crossed xxx

Glad everyones keeping ok,ive been ok today,feel as if im about to burst but im ok, baby has now sussed out how to summersault,kick and punch all at the same time im sure.

Not sure when funeral is yet, should find out tomorrow, however im thinking it may be held back with the easter weekend holidays, not sure if they could fit it in for friday, hopefully they can as this happened with dh funeral, it was the september weekend holidays and everything got held back which was horrible with it all dragging on an extra 4-5 days.

Hope you are all having a nice week so far xxx

Hi all

Edie to feel your baby move that must be great! All the best to you.

Jossie fantastic news. A heartbeat that's agreat sign! Hope the injecting will become easier. How long do you have to do it? Thanks also for the reality check:

Saw HB today at 8+1 weeks and am very happy.
Everything as it should be, but still only 8 weeks. Will try and relax a little more while not being too confident. Oh well, that's much more easily said than done!

Lynne, well you seem to carry a little acrobat.
:-) Hope the funderal will be as okay as can be. I lost my father 30 years ago and my mother still cannot handle funderals nor church visits, so I know from the inside that a part of you will mourn a lifetime long. But the most important thing is what you have now with your DH and the life growing in you!

Lynne, that was a very unfortunate linebreak.
The :-) is certainly for the acrobat.

Glimmer thats ok! I knew that...thanks, hope you are keeping well,it is very hard to not worry when pg again, dont think the worry ever leaves us.

Jossie and Edie how are you both getting on???

Hiya all
Sorry Glimmer-I didn't mean to sound negative about the hb, I ust know that I though everything would be ok when I saw that before

Lynne, hope you are coping ok (or as well as can be expected- I know I can't bear to hear / play the Lord's my Shepherd because it was at 3 of my grandparents' funerals, I asked my Mum not to include it in my nan's because I couldn't bear it another time.

Edie, glad everything sounds active with your little one!

Im fine thanks girls.

Really nervous about the 20 week scan, to the point where I have thought about not having it. I just keep thinking they are going to tell me that there is something wrong with the baby. I really do agree that the worry never seems to end and im angry that I can't ever just feel excited and that is what the miscarriage has done. I want to just be able to take it for granted that everything is going to be ok.

This is the first time we have all been pg. I only wished we lived close enough for a meet up. Maybe we should put some pics of ourselves on our pages only I don't know how to do it yet!

Josie Yes although a HB is a very good sign it doesn't really resonate if you have been there before-I know you saw one with your mc at 8 weeks. Maybe after 8 weeks you will relax a bit and if so not far to go...

Lynne Again good luck for the funeral. I bet you are feeling big now!

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Jossie -- not at all. I was actually grateful. It's good to be positive but it's good to be at least a little prepared in case things should go wrong. I think none of us will ever have the bliss of a purely joyful and unworrying pregnancy, but at least we won't be as existentially shocked as the first time in case thing go wrong. That sounds really negative, but I find it actually consoling.

All the best to you!

Hiya-Yes Edie its a shame we can't all get together-as to photos I avoid them whenever possible!!!
I think we all feel cheated about being pg, my DH can't get excited at all and is denial-he even asked me a)was I going to go to the weightwatchers class that I had said about going to and b)what about a bike ride (I don't ride very often and certainly am not going to do it now!!!)

Feeling v.sick , but trying not to complain about it as I know I should be grateful to be feeling like this.

Meant to say-is there anyway we can transfer this thread to another topic to put an optomistic slant on it and put the past behind us all?

If anyone can then re-direct me!!!

Also Glimmer I'm glad I didn't upset you

Hi girls, glad you are all doing well...yes edie i am feeling massive, but loving it, been lounging about in the garden the last couple of days and im looking very tanned, dh says i'll be black soon if i sit out any longer Its only really now im starting to feel a bit more excited about being pg,think its because theres so much movement coming from lo, even then i still stop to think, is everything ok in there????I bought one of those heart listening monitors from ebay and ive found this has put my mind at ease, it lets you hear the lo heartbeat, kicks, hiccups etc, etc, its brilliant.

The funeral is Wednesaday morning, Jossie, im the same with the lords my shepard, it was also played at dh funeral.

I hope you all have a lovely easter break, im just gonnie do some work around the garden, think dh is taking the boys away camping.