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DH is dying

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 03:11

I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

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TidyDancer · 14/02/2015 20:09

I am so very very sorry for your sad loss. I can't imagine how you must be feeling today. I will be thinking of you. Flowers

MazzR · 14/02/2015 20:11

So incredibly sorry to read this horrific news. Thank you and dh for the so selfless act of organ donation. Xxx

winkywinkybumbum · 14/02/2015 20:17

So sorry for your sad loss. Thinking of you and yours. Flowers

StarCrash · 14/02/2015 20:21

Thanks so sorry for your loss. A wonderful gift of life to others, by donating. take care x

Whowouldfardelsbear · 14/02/2015 20:22

I am so sorry Op.

You have done a wonderful thing in agreeing to donate his organs. My husband was the recipient of a heart last year and I am forever grateful to our donor's family. His organs saved the lives of at least five people that we have heard of.

I am thinking of you and all your family x

honeypie10 · 14/02/2015 20:23

I was at work today thinking of you and started welling up, Lifes just so unfair sometimes.

There really are no words, but Im thinking of you and your family again.

AgadorSpartacus · 14/02/2015 20:24

So sorry Flowers

sallysparrow157 · 14/02/2015 20:31

I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

As someone who works on an icu sometimes looking after people at the end of their lives but also looking after those starting out on a new life after organ transplant, thank you so so much for being such a brave and wonderful person and for thinking of others at such an awful and shocking time xxx

flamingtoaster · 14/02/2015 20:31

So sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you and your family.

Birgitz · 14/02/2015 20:36

Thinking of you and so sorry for your loss.

Breezy1985 · 14/02/2015 20:36

So sorry Thanks Thanks

CakeUpWall · 14/02/2015 20:46

Love to you and your family. I'm so sorry. xxxx

Rowboat · 14/02/2015 20:51

So so sorry Calculators. Your family is in.my thoughts. Thanks Thanks Thanks

Bollard · 14/02/2015 21:06

I'm so sorry. Your family has acted very generously and bravely in giving others a future when your own future must seem so bleak. I hope the admiration and pride in all these lovely posts bring you some moments of consolation in the days to come.

FryOneFatManic · 14/02/2015 21:08

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thanks

I think you are amazing for making the decision to donate your DH's organs in such difficult circumstances.

GetSober · 14/02/2015 21:29

I am so, so sorry. All possible thoughts and strength to you and your family Thanks

Thankyou so much for agreeing to give his organs to help others. I have a close family member who's currently waiting for a life-saving transplant. Thanks to people like you, he has a fighting chance of living much longer than he otherwise would.

Mouldypineapple · 14/02/2015 21:34

Sorry for your loss. You must all be deeply shocked.

Having worked in the world of transplants for many years, can I again echo what an amazing decision you made to donate your husbands organs. The benefits to the recipients can be life saving or life changing. I am most definitely an advocate of organ donation and have seen many many times what an amazing difference this most special gift can make - to adults and children. Thank you on behalf of all the recipients out there.

TendonQueen · 14/02/2015 21:47

So very sorry that this happened. You have done a brave and good thing in the organ donation. He will have known how much you loved him. Flowers

Gullygirl · 14/02/2015 22:23

I'm so deeply sorry for your loss, Calculators.
Thank you for allowing your husband's organs to be donated, I hope that, in time, you will get some comfort from this.
And know that friends come in many guises, we are all here for you, in our different time zones, ready to listen and talk.
Sending strength to you.

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 14/02/2015 22:36

So sorry to hear about the loss of your dear DH.

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 22:45

Thank you so much for every one of your messages, they are all greatly appreciated.
I wonder if anyone has recognised me. I guess I would be pretty identifiable today.

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giraffesNeedBigPoloNecks · 14/02/2015 22:48

Thinking of you

well done for organ donation - I have lost friends who were waiting for lung transplants, his organs will be so so appreciated.

Loads of love to you x

bobbyjoe · 14/02/2015 22:58

I'm so sorry for what has happened. Take care of yourself.

Opopanax · 14/02/2015 23:05

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you have someone to take care of you, too. Good on you for the organ donation. I wish everyone was as selfless and kind. You and your DH have done a great thing with that - a good legacy among the other good things that he has no doubt left behind in your memories and heart. I am thinking of you and wishing you peace.

VanitasVanitatum · 14/02/2015 23:08

This was how we lost my dad. I can remember the day after as the slowest slowest hours of my existence, unimaginably so. Five minutes genuinely felt like an hour. I hope you have support and love around you. I am so sorry for your loss Flowers