yorkiegirl i've just seen this thread today.
I don't know you, but i've left messages for you at the time of your loss.
You and your girls have been in my thoughts so much.
If you've got Nigels clothes waiting to go to charity shop then that is a huge step to take.
Also picking his headstone is another big thing to have to do.
At least you're very clear in your mind as to what you want.
I remember when i went to order the headstone for my little baby, i walked in and just stood there crying. I hadn't even spoken to anyone, but they were so lovely to me at such a very difficult time.
I also remember when my sisters husband died suddenly, she was pregnant with their first child at the time.
She used to spend so much time at the cemetary, and would tell me that if it wasn't for the baby then she wouldn't be here.
We'd be out together and used to see people who we'd known for years, cross the road, and avoid contact. That was just so awful.
I spent so many hours just being with her and both of us speaking about him.
One minute we'd be laughing, next we'd be crying.
Sad but true, that's how life is.
Keep going for those two lovely daughters that you have together. xx