Support for Anyone Who Has Lost A Parent,Everyone Welcome ( 6 )

[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

Badvoc, thank you, the same to you you.

Ssd, I hope so because my DD will be an only. I have a sis that drives me crackers, we are very different. In our case she would say the same about me, just chalk and cheese.

Just wanted to wish you all the best christmas possible and im sure we will all think of those we are missing over Christmas time. i know coming here and talking to people who understand makes all the difference to me so thank you for that.
Sorry to see new posters joining us and missing their loved ones too, its a hard time but someone here is always around to have a chat with.

Things are busy here and even though i have nothing left to buy i keep twitching on little things then i wonder why i have no room in my house come january!

hi badvoc and sm, nice to see you both! hope your both doing as well as you can, it is a hard time of year but at least we have this thread to come to xx

Hi ssd :)
I'm having a few issues with my siblings ATM - it's not nice is it? :(
All in all it's been an incredibly stressful few months and I have had to have more medical tests so am hoping 2015 is a bit less full on!
Ds2 is ill and off school so my week has gone totally up the creek!

oh badvoc, you just never get a break , I remember issues with your mum and your sister, its not easy, is it? I'm sorry you're having medical tests too, and hope you get a positive outcome to them. Put on cartoon network for ds2 and try to get as much rest as you possible can!

and sm, I still have my robin on the tree, thanks for that!

Tbh I have had a cbeebies overload today!
:)

I remember those days , I used to dream of watching something with real people in it instead of cartoon people!

Hi badvoc nice to see you. Sorry you are having sibling problems now. When are you ever going to have some worry free time ? It seems to be never ending for you. Hope things can soon be resolved .
ssd did your dh like that video ?
Sending you all love and strength to get through the next couple of weeks, hope it won't be as horrid as we all expect.

yes, he loved it mummylin ! I sent you back a message x

Smugmum I think it's your mums funeral today?

I hope you have got through it ok. It's a very hard and sometimes surreal day to get through and I hope everything went as you would have wanted it to x

mummylin, I hope your dh isn't too gutted this morning! we are going to see their opposition in the new year, ds2 loves StevieG , its a Xmas surprise and has cost me a bomb! but think they'll enjoy it, I didn't get a ticket, too expensive, I'll go to the shops when they are there and meet them later.

He said we deserved to lose and was fine when he got home , he then went straight into the conservatory and watched it all over again so he could see it from a different angle !!!

I felt sorry for them when someone in the crowd blew a whistle and they players stopped and then L'pool scored.

I didn't know that ssd,,but I have just asked dh about it, he says it was someone in our own end, but dosent know if a bmouth supporter or a stray Liverpool one. He says they should know by the ticket purchased and they should be banned !

yes they should! I think it was a b'mouth supporter and it backfired as it put their own player off

I feel like a zombie today. My lovely supportive DH is all geared up for Christmas and bustling around and all I want to do is sleep. He's doing his best but he doesn't understand.
All this carrying on as normal is hard.

I'm sorry candy, but I know how you feel. Its hard dragging yourself along when all you want to do is stay in bed and cry. Can you get a bit of time off? The best advice is just to remember to be kind to yourself, you've had an awful shock and you sound tired and a bit worn out. Perfectly normal to me! for you xx

Ssd thank you. I have 9 coming on Christmas Day so still lots to do. And I want to do it because I want to make christmas as nice as possible for everyone. But yes, I will be kind to myself. I have a 16month old and I work so it's not easy to just stop and it's taking its toll. But am off work now and thankfully so is hubby and we have tried to build in time off the relentlessness over the holidays.
I had a cry earlier and I feel tired but ok at the mo.
Very relieved to be off work and away from the Mad Friday thing.
Hope you are ok and all others here x

Hi how are you all? Sorry ive been awol again for a week or two.

DH took me for a surprise night away a couple of nights ago. He took me to the hotel where we got married 3.5 yrs ago. It was a lovely thing to do but it brought back a lot of memories of my dad. They have a massive wooden staircase that leads down to where you get married and I could see us standing at the top waiting to come down for him to give me away and then standing at the entrance to the orangery where we got married I could almost feel the spirit of him standing there with me waiting to walk in to all the guests and DH standing at the end of the aisle. Had to take a few deep breaths and swallows. I could have just cried but didn't want Dh to see that I was upset by it as he'd chosen that place to take me back to, to make me happy not sad. Just caused a lot of mixed emotions.

Apart from that, it was a lovely night away just the two of us. There was a lot of things on the posh menu that I'd never heard of so took a punt and ordered what sounded nice trying to avoid things on the banned list but ended up eating two things on the pregnancy banned list. Didn't want to start googling what things were at the time but did afterwards and had panics over the thoughts of getting listeria from the terrine and the Italian rind cheese on the pasta that i'd never heard of before. I lived to tell the tale though! 38 weeks now, body will be my own again soon- pates, goats cheese, brie yum!

Is everyone ready for xmas?

Pink, so excited for you. I think listeria is more of a worry in the first trimester, but I might be wrong.

I got married last year, my dad gave me away and we had no idea he would be gone this year. I am so grateful he saw me get married.

I totally know how you feel. I cried in B and Q yesterday because my dad loved the huge outdoor Christmas lights (his house was covered In them, reindeer, parachutting Santa's...) and seeing the displays set me off.
We're off for a mini groupon deal break tomorrow, much needed.

enjoy your break candykane and am glad you enjoyed yours pink! it is a time of mixed emotions, thats just how it seems to be, all we can do is get through one day at a time x

candy, your dads house at xmas sounds lovely, I love seeing those houses with loads of lights it always looks so nice on a dark night!

Ssd their house was very well known, for the lights, it's a bungalow on a corner so very visible. This year my mum has not got the lights up as it was my dads thing and people have been knocking on the door asking where they are.

So I am carrying on the mantle with my house. It's quite subtle compared to my dads array but I will be building it up over time.

Hello all. One of my elderly aunts has died today, right on my cousins birthday ( her dd) what a sad time , right before Xmas as well. I have spoken to my cousin and she is like the rest of us, can't stop crying but despite this she is ok about her mum dying on her birthday. She said it's the day her mum brought her into the world and it's quite fitting she left it today. So it's not going to be a good start to the new year as we now will have to face a funeral.
Pink , you have something so special to look forward to, in a way I wish I could go back to being pregnant with my babies, not that I want one now you understand
I have lights outside it's the first time we have put them up since my mum died but normally we have loads, this year we only have them along the guttering.
Have been out today to finish my shopping. Only thing to get now is dh s and he has just told me what he wants. Why he didn't say when we were out I don't know ! So one more thing to get and that's it I have finished wrapping and this eve I am going to sort them all out and put in Xmas bags. Then I'm going to Hoover up !
Enjoy your evenings everyone

oh mummylin, thats a shame for your cousin, am so sorry , what a sad thing for her mum to die on her birthday, and a funeral for you to face at this time of year too. I know your cousin is lucky to have you though, is she nearby you?

Oh mummylin that's so sad for you all. It must feel very strange for your cousin for her mum to pass away on her birthday. I guess all you can do in that situation is see it how she put it.

Without going into details my mum is having a lot of signs from my dad. Some of them are pretty out there and dh says make of them what you want to make of them. Words of a true sceptic. I believe what she's telling me but I can't help but feel a bit spooked which is crazy because he's my dad and if he's trying to get messages through that's amazing but it's all a bit unsettling. Main thing is if it comforts mum then that's the important thing.