Support for Anyone Who Has Lost A Parent,Everyone Welcome ( 6 )

[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

It's sad, but at the same time sounds very funny, it must help to have a bit of humour amongst the horrible illness

A few months ago - and tomorrow is 5 months since 'our Harry' died we decided there would be no tears in the care home - we would laugh out loud as much as possible and smile, dance and arse about. My Mam said that life is too short for so many tears so we have to make the most of every last moment xxx

She is correct, but it's hard sometimes isn't it. I know my mum wouldn't want me to still feel so sad, but I can't help it and I miss her so much

How is everyone getting on ? Hopefully some of us are now able to move forward at last and get on with our lives, of course we will always miss our loved ones but we will never forget and always love them. But I'm sure they would not want us to put our lives on hold forever. Take care all.

hi mummylin how are you? things been busy with the back to school here, have more physio next week I hope it works the pain is driving me bats. what have you been up too? ds been upset tonight, misses his nanna and doesnt understand why on the advert they can make people with cancer better but not nanna, it is hard to explain in a way he understands. hope you are all well

Hello everyone :)
Am still around, but don't post much these days.
So busy now the dc are back at school...you know how it is :)
I have discharged myself from counselling for now...I can still go back anytime, but ATM I am struggling to make every week and it's not fair when they have such a long wait list.
Struggling with mum too ATM tbh :( she is so very unhappy and angry and bitter. I have asked her again about counselling but she refuses to even consider it.
At times I really don't like her much. Isn't that an awful thing to say? But she embarrasses me. Her nastiness and general grumpiness. It's very wearing to be around.
Of course golden boy my brother is back from holiday tomorrow so that will cheer her up. She is cooking them dinner as "they will be tired from the travelling" it's bloody benidorm they are travelling back from, not the Himalayas!! In 19 years she has never made my and Dh a meal! God, I sound bitter don't I? :(
My sister has asked her to go to away at half term. I am strongly gently encouraging her to go :)
I have applied for a (very) part time admin job and the cut off date is next week so really hoping I at least get an interview! Please send good vibes! :)
My friend had an op yesterday so I am taking her for a wound check in the morning.
All in all I am doing my best.
It's hard though.
Ds2 still struggling to separate from me for school. I know it's a phase, but it's wearing me down tbh.
Hope everyone is ok and coping as best they can x

Hello all, hope you are all enjoying the sunshine was lovely here this afternoon. Popped to the crem today to do my two graves. I bought some lovely flowers including some very pretty roses, which unfortunately had some lethal thorns ! One went right in my thumb and I now have a very nasty bruise !! But they looked lovely in the vases.

Hello guys!!

I am very sorry ive not been around we have been so busy doing the leading up practising test for our daughter to go to a grammar school near us doing the 11 plus if she passes she does if she don't she don't, we would like her to be with her sister but no pressure. I've been busy decorating and doing up youngest room up changing a cupboard in her room to a wardrobe with storage.

Would have been my mums birthday next week, we will all get together and have a cuppa and a cake and go to the crem and lay some flowers, im going to put a butterfly sticker on her plaque as i know she wouldn't want that plain she loved her stickers on pads, and loved her crafty stuff. im going to ave a glass of wine with her and watch qvc.

Hi to biscuits and ssd hope you guys are going along ok, xxx
hi mummylin and badvoc, and shabbs, galaxy sm and anyone ive missed.
think about you all often.
badvoc how did you get on with the job?
xx

hi guys!

sorry I've not been posting here for a while, am trying to get on with things, you all know how it is...things are just the same here, its been mums birthday, my anniversary and the 2 year anniversary of mum dying, I've heard not a thing from my siblings...but what's new....am now realising how I dont like them and would rather never see them again as they have hurt me too much.

the kids and dh are fine and thats what matters to me

I'm trying to keep my health anxiety on the back burner, and keep my mind occupied, sometimes easier to say than do!

am dreading Christmas and NY coming up, just the four of us and no one to share it with, but am trying to see life in a different light and realise I should be grateful for what I have and stop tormenting myself over what I haven't.

am thinking of you all, t875, mummylin, badvoc, biscuits, galaxy, supermario, shabbs, branstonpickle...and everyone I missed

I haven't heard T.
Don't suppose I will :(
Another death of someone in the family - well sort of. It's my aunts mil. She was 94 and had dementia so grief is being kept in bounds iyswim but it's still sad. One mercy was that the dementia meant she didn't remember she had outlived her Dh, son and dil :(
It's ds2s b day party on Saturday so I will be trying to make loads of viking shields from grey icing for his cake (don't ask :))

hey all, still sticking with physio as my foots been really bad turns out it's a problem with my hip/calf and foot that is all interlinked. have got some exercises to do and to ice it three to five times a day I'm supposed to rest when possible and try not to walk as much but I'm so bloody bored I hate being stuck doing nothing. no word from mums husband for months or reply to my call, feel really sad about it as mum asked me to keep in touch and make sure he isn't left alone again but only so much one person can do I guess. how is everyone?

Hello everyone, I always seem to be doing something lately or going somewhere! Which I suppose is a good thing. But I have to admit I have been /am very interested in what is happening in Scotland. I have read every thread on here Read all I could find in the papers etc , going to be an interesting time.
sm sorry you are still in pain
badvocand T nice to see you , hope things all going well.
Everyone is in my thoughts

we got back from the school run just before four and ive been resting my foot on ice ever since. I am so bored! even mn isnt keeping me occupied enough i need to move about! haha. what has everyone been up too today? dp has made tea, hes a good egg. he knows ive been miserable this last few weeks. my sister took nan to mums grave today as my grandad still cant drive so i stayed with my my nephew. he told me that nanna is in heaven just like the worm he ran over on his scooter last week. children say the strangest things all day i have been imagining my mum up there looking after a little worm!

I have been doing mundane chores but spent ages on the Scottish ref threads. I have enjoyed reading it all very much and I am going to try and stay up tonight to see the results come in. It's a momentous day for the Scots.
Glad your nan was able to go to the cemetery, that's very funny about the worm !
What has doc said about your foot ?

dp wants to see the results come in too. I find it all a bit baffling. it's a combination of three issues with my foot, calf and hip so regular physio and exercises for now. it's sore and I hate sitting still but at least it will hopefully get stronger if I follow the instructions. I was doing really well losing weight and im putting it all back on though which is really getting me down :( how are things with you you still out and about a lot?

There has been a lot of thigs to do in my family with birthday outings and such like. Also went to a show which was also good. Been over my dd,s a few times and we don't normally get home from the till late so all in all not had as much time as normal. Oh and I was following the court case of oscar ! Hope your foot soon improves, horrible to be in pain all the time. Is your DP going to stay up ? I don't know if I will last all night, but I'm going to try. I must at least see the first ten results and the final announcement. I hope it's no because there are so many worried about their jobs and homes there. Very worrying time for a lot of Scottish people.

sounds like you have been very busy but with nice stuff! don't think dp will stay up hes dropping asleep already haha, he thinks along the same lines that you do.

I will also prob fall asleep, but have bought my pillow downstairs . If I do fall asleep I am bound to wake up at some point and then I can check what's happening ! Or I may sleep in a minute and set my phone alarm for 2.30am !

Hi all!
Not been on here for ages, you know how it is, time just passes by.
How is everyone?

Sorry to hear about your foot super. I know what you mean about the boredom, I broke my foot three year ago and was in plaster for six weeks, to say I was bored out of my mind was an understatement! Hope it's better soon. How's your ds doing now? My dd2 has been having art therapy as she became a massive worrier since mum and dad died. Not sure if it's helping or not really.

Thinking of you too ssd. Hope you're doing ok.

Mummylin, I've just had a read back through the thread and I'm soooo jealous you saw the red arrows from your garden at the airshow! I love them!!!! Hope you're also ok.

Badvoc, hope you've finished making the viking shields and your ds enjoys his party tomorrow!

T, thinking of you tomorrow on your mums birthday, she'll love what you do for her.

Love to everyone else on the thread that I've missed xx

Hi everyone, feeling a bit down today , last three days been nothing but bad news so not up to my normal chatty self. Hope you are all ok.

Hi everyone, I've been really busy so not on this thread for a while. Hope everyone is doing OK I have a new part time job, and am studying childcare at college one night a week.

It's a year next Sunday since my granddad died (in terms of date, in terms of it being 52 weeks, it's next Saturday).

Next Saturday I am ice skating in a competition for the very first time. I wish he could be here to watch me, but I know he'll be watching over me.

I'm just still really struggling with the permanent-ness of it :( I still occasionally think he'll come walking through the door, and the realisation that he won't absolutely breaks my heart :(

Hello Lollipop, good luck in your skating and I'm sure a very proud grandad will be begging you on . It's awful isn't it when you expect someone to walk in the door, but sadly in the end we all have to adjust. I still feel like that about my mum and it's nearly 3 years now, but it seems like yesterday, I can't believe it's been so long that I haven't seen her. It does make your heart ache for them .

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind me joining you.

I lost my dad (that sounds awful, like I've forgotten where I've put him). It's 12 weeks today since I got that life changing call from the police.

I cannot see any light in the tunnel at all

Hello sweettea we know how devastated you must feel! it's almost unbelievable isn't it. But it is very early days yet for you, but gradually the terrible pain and hurt will lessen. You will be able to function for days and feel perfectly ok, then it comes back with a crushing blow, but the times in between this awful feeling begins to get longer.
I expect you have been over that awful phone call many many times, and like us all have said "what if "
All I can tell you is that for me and several of us. It was a life changing thing and life can never be the same as it was, it takes a while and I am still not there after nearly 3 years without my beloved mum, but I am now living a bit more.
The first times for special days are almost unbearable at times but you will get through them. Sometimes the thought is worse than the actual event.
Glad you found this thread and hope it will help you. I am sorry you lost your dad.

gutted tonight, feel like I've let mum down. noone really understands apart from you guys