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no heartbeat at 9 week scan PLEASE HELP!

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jeddah · 14/08/2006 16:15

Hi girls.... some of you might remember me???? I was posting regularly about 1 year ago, but needed a rest.

I have been pregnant 3 times in the last year. Miscarried the first 2 at 5 weeks and 6 weeks, the bleeding just started and it all happened naturally.

Found out I was pregnant on my holiday in Italy in begining of July and because of my 2 miscarriagea, they decided to scan me weekly until I was 12 weeks.

Had 6 week, 7 week and 8 week scan all of which were normal and healthy and very strong heartbeats.

Oh my god we were thrilled and the sign of heartbeats made us completely think 100% we were in the clear!

Anyway last weeks 9 week scan there was no heartbeat and has been the biggest shock of our lives. They told me to go home and it will happen naturally.

I am still sat here waiting!
can someone please advise me on when and what happens, eg how painful? how much blood? when will it happen? anyone had a D+C and concieved again?

I am 42yrs and feel completely hopeless.

thanks in anticipation!

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suzywong · 14/08/2006 16:16

so sorry to hear your sad news

I had a D&C and conceived again on the fourth cycle

mykidsmum · 14/08/2006 16:17

Hi Jeddah, i really have no advice for you but didn't want to read your post and not acknowledge the bad time you've been having. Sending you much love and light xx

sallycinnamon · 14/08/2006 16:19

I don't have any advice either but wanted you to know you are not on your own. Some one with more experience will be along in a minute xx

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jeddah · 14/08/2006 16:21

thank you girls, thats very knd of you.

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coppertop · 14/08/2006 16:23

No advice, Jeddah, but just wanted to say how sorry I am that you're going through this. xx

liath · 14/08/2006 16:25

This is awful for you . I'd imagine the bleeding & pain will be worse than the ones where you were earlier on but not dramatically so. Have the doctors mentioned doing any tests at all - 3 miscarriages counts as "recurrent miscarriage" & you should be offered some tests to check that there isn't some underlying cause.

Am so sorry for your loss.

FullOfTestosterone · 14/08/2006 16:26

Hi Jeddah,
Whem I had a similar problem, I waited to happen naturally. It took about 2 weeks to strat bleeding. It had a waves of real painful cramps. Manageable though. However, two days after the first bout, when I though all was over, I had a second and larger event of really painful cramps and expulsion of material (sorri if TMI), but it was scary to me as I didn't know what has happened, so I am just trying to have you more prepared....

Hope it all goes smooth and you have success soon!

gothicmama · 14/08/2006 16:29

thinking of you jeddah I hope it goes alright and youcan find some solace and hope

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jeddah · 14/08/2006 16:29

Yes
we have been put on the recurrent miscarriage programme, where all investigations will be carried out.

I have to go bcak to hospital on thursday which will be 1 weeks from last weeks scan, and they said if nothing has happened, I will need a D+C.
Why can they not give me more time for my body to do it naturally

And why hasn't my body done this already???? I am absolutely shocked that if my foetus has died....why has my body not expelled it?????

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katierocket · 14/08/2006 16:32

Jeddah, I remember you, so so sorry that you are going through this. I think you should make sure the hospital explain exactly why you need a D&C since hopefully they'll be able to give you all the details. My BF had one a few months ago and said (apart from the obvious pain of losing the baby) it wasn't a particularly horrible procedure.

Quootiepie · 14/08/2006 16:33

request more time if you want... to be honest id request repeat scans if your not bleeding. I dont want to get your hopes up but mistakes can be made... do you have the means to maybe pay for a private scan?

CantSleepWontSleep · 14/08/2006 16:34

So sorry to hear your news Jeddah. I'm afraid that you may have some considerable time to wait if you want things to happen naturally. I lost my first baby at 8+4, but didn't find out until a scan at 12+1, when I had just started bleeding. Your body doesn't always expel things straight away, and it's known as a missed miscarriage if it doesn't.

I had a D&C and conceived again 7 months later (despite taking 3.5 years to conceive the first time).

cupcakes · 14/08/2006 16:38

I'm so sorry. I had a missed mc in March which was diagnosed at the 12 week scan - they think it might have died at about 6 weeks as it was so small.
I decided to let it happen naturally as I didn't want to go into hospital and I started bleeding about one week later. Within about 24 hours there was a lot of blood (enough to change a towel every hour or so) and that evening I had very bad period pain and passed the sac. The pain then diminshed and the bleeding slowed down and stopped completely within a week. I took paracetamol and anadin extra for the pain (I was told that ibuprofen wasn't recommended in mc - something to do with clotting).
I happened to have a scan whilst I was bleeding and then I went back a week later for another scan where they confirmed that the mc was complete and had not left any tissue behind.
I hope that isn't too much information - I know that when I was going through it I was desperate to read other people's experiences.
I am pg again, having conceived again within three weeks of bleeding.
Hope it goes ok for you. It sounds corny but - look after yourself.

Lemmingswife · 14/08/2006 16:47

No experience of missed miscarriage, but wanted to say how sorry I am that you are going through this.x

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jeddah · 14/08/2006 16:55

Thank you so much girls.
all your advice is great.

cantsleepwontsleep.... you concieved again after 3.5 years of trying... oh my god this is great news and gives me a bit of hope... although I am an old duffer! (42rs)

Do you know what... at my times of turmoil....
a small part of me thinks... if I go back for another scan on Thursday.... there may be a heartbeat again!! How silly is that girls?

I know this is completely impossible. There was no heartbeat last week....just don't understand!!!!!!why??????

Apparently if there is a heartbeat at 6weeks... ther is a 70%chnace of it surviving.... if there is a heartbeat at 7 weeks there is an 80% chance of it surviving and if there is a heartbeat at 8 weeks there is a 90% chance of it being successful. Its just not fair! why was I in the 10%?????

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hannahsaunt · 14/08/2006 16:55

Jeddah, so sorry to hear your news. I will be thinking of you on Thursday - we are going for exactly the same thing on Thursday morning. TBH I would prefer the D&C as to know that there is something inside that has been lingering from week 6 - week 11.5 without natural expulsion is horrid; I would just like a clean break and know that this is over. Much sympathy.

littlefrog · 14/08/2006 16:57

Jeddah, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a missed miscarriage earlier this year (diagnosed after I'd started to bleed a little bit). I decided not to have a D&C, but wait for things to happen naturally. They made an appointment for me a week later to check how I was, but there was no question of having 'only' a week for things to happen on their own. Indeed they said specifically that if I hadn't miscarried by the next appointment, and was well, and wanted to go on waiting, then that would be fine.
When it did happen it was physically less bad than I thought it was - quite a bit of bleeding, and a few hours of nasty but bearable cramps. If they've given you a prescription for painkillers do get it filled - I didn't, and regretted it. So sorry this is happening to you...

Quootiepie · 14/08/2006 16:57

ill pray for you tonight xxx

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jeddah · 14/08/2006 16:57

oh! Hannahsaunt......you are going trough the same thing as me and going to hospital on thursday!

Is this your first pregnancy?

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titchy77 · 14/08/2006 19:47

I had a missed m/c lsat year and found out at my 13wk scan that baby died at 9 wks, i wanted it to happen naturally as thought i would be able to accept it more but in the end after a week i had an erpc as they said it could take weeks for it to happen and i couldn't put my family through that anymore i was very depressed and just couldn't accept it, i really didn't want the erpc but know in the end it was for the best and i will never forget the baby i lost, we brought a tree in its memory and its helped me, when it flowered in the spring it made feel better somehow.i'm now 13weeks pregnant again and praying that all is going to be o.k with this little one. Am thinking fo you and your dh and hope it gets easier for you soon.xx

Tommy · 14/08/2006 19:53

mine was like cupcakes'.
So sorry to hear this jeddah. I guess you don't have to keep the appointment if you don't feel up to it but likewise I guess if your baby has died then it really is better for it to come out rather than stay inside.
Really thinking of you

Nemo1977 · 14/08/2006 20:00

Jeddah..hugs firstly

I know how you feel before concieving my ds I had 2 mcs at 5 and 6wks. I then had my ds who si 2.10yrs and concieved again around his first birthday. I had amissed mc in dec 04 which was discovered at 15wks but baby had died at 9wks. I had a d+c and bled as if a heavy period. Pain was minimal occasional period type cramps but nothing horrendous more the emotional side that was difficult. I did however then concieve my dd in 3mths of having the d+c and she was born the following dec a year to day of finding out about missed mc. I am now lucky enough to have a 2.10yr old, 8mth old and be 18wks pregnant again..so please please do not give up hope as it can happen. Sending you a ton of positive vibes and if you want ot chat feel free to mail me on mishi_c23 at hotmail.com

Frizbe · 14/08/2006 20:06

Jeddah {{{Hugs}}} I know someone else has mentioned this, but after a few miscarriages your doc should be doing investigating for you, I seem to remember Liverpool university having a good research programme/answers via tests in place re multiple miscarriages, it might be worth contacting them/getting your doc to.

aaronsmummy · 14/08/2006 20:13

I have tears in my eyes reading this, I really feel for you hun. The same happened to me at exactly the same stage. I was so shell shocked my husband took over and booked me a D&C on Bupa that night as I would not believe it. I ignored advice,didnt take things easy and made myself ill resulting in being rushed by ambulance with haemorraging (spelt wrong) a couple of weeks later - I was very poorly. The upshot is 2 months later I was pg again and now have 3 beautiful children after being told initially that I would never have any. 42 is not old these days to start your family so hang in there, it's tough but you will get there I am sure. CAT me if you need to chat. xx

Thomcat · 14/08/2006 20:33

I don't have any advice either hon' but wanted to say how sorry I am. Thinking of you. xx

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