no heartbeat at 9 week scan PLEASE HELP!

[jeddah]

Hi girls.... some of you might remember me???? I was posting regularly about 1 year ago, but needed a rest.

I have been pregnant 3 times in the last year. Miscarried the first 2 at 5 weeks and 6 weeks, the bleeding just started and it all happened naturally.

Found out I was pregnant on my holiday in Italy in begining of July and because of my 2 miscarriagea, they decided to scan me weekly until I was 12 weeks.

Had 6 week, 7 week and 8 week scan all of which were normal and healthy and very strong heartbeats.

Oh my god we were thrilled and the sign of heartbeats made us completely think 100% we were in the clear!

Anyway last weeks 9 week scan there was no heartbeat and has been the biggest shock of our lives. They told me to go home and it will happen naturally.

I am still sat here waiting!
can someone please advise me on when and what happens, eg how painful? how much blood? when will it happen? anyone had a D+C and concieved again?

I am 42yrs and feel completely hopeless.

thanks in anticipation!

Hi Jed ,
Glad you are well and hopefully next time will be the one!! xx Thank you for you kind wishes xxx

Hi Jeddah,
So sorry to read of your loss. Glad you are over the worst and looking forwards.
I had a MC a week ago at 10 wks. The fetus was said to have died at 9 wks. I let it happen naturally and have a scan this Friday to check everything is gone.
Good luck in getting PG again. I am hoping to start TTC once I have the OK from the scan. I am 40 so not far behind you.
Good luck and thinking of you.

hillbilly!

2 old duffers together!
Hope the scan goes ok on friday.

we must keep in touch!

Hope you manage to get back to normal soon and let's hope these 2 old duffers get up the duff again quickly! (wink)

god Hillbilly I really hope we do!

I am fine little bleeding no pain, emotionally stable, just wanting my first period to come so that I can keep track of my cycles.

How are you?

hillbilly.......
I am thinking about starting and 'old duffers' thread.... what do you think?

An old duffers thread sounds like a brilliant idea. How old do we have to be to join in ? wrong side of 35 or older still ?!!! ;P

emismum
The age thing will be a difficult one!

May be 35yrs and older???? what do you think (sorry to call anyone over 35 an old duffer!)but we have to start somewhere.

Jeddah - just wanted to say that I completely sympathise with you. I had a missed miscarriage last year, and then - I'm pretty sure - two very early miscarriages, so was starting to despair, as I'm 40 and thought that I might never have children.

But, two bits of consolation. One is that - as one doctor kept reminding me - that just in getting pregnant, you have got over the major hurdle to do with age. So there is quite a lot of hope. And the other one is that on the fourth attempt I stayed pregnant and am now 29 weeks. I took - and am still taking - baby aspirin, but also went to a reflexologist. Don't know what worked, but so far, so good, although I am going to worry my way right to the end of this pregnancy.

I really hope it all goes well for you next time round.

tc x

oh twocatsonthebed! I am thrilled for you. I know the worry will never leave you until your baby is safe in your arms.... but oh my god you have got so far! and 40!

Thankyuo so much for giving me hope, I really feel that something is wrong with us both and it will never happen.....but have to push through it... got to stay positive as there would ne no hope.

Just can not wait for my period!

Hi - feel a bit sheepish and unjustified posting a message here but need to find some stuff out and your messages have helped me loads. Everyone - so sorry to hear what you have been through and i am a firsttimer who wasn't even trying to get pg but now i think i may be on the verge of a missed m/c! i found out for sure that i was pregnant a week last sunday and although it was surprise for us both we were happy and have just about got used to the idea. i have had dark discharge for about 3 weeks (even before i did the test. tues night i hada very light fresh blood bleed and so went to doctors yesterday morning - he booked me in for a scan and i had the sacn done yesterday afternoon. they gave me a picture. from the picture the baby(i know it isn't a baby yet but i think of it as our baby), they said i was 5.5 - 6 weeks pregnant but there was no heartbeat. i expected to be at least 6 weeks so bit concerned that baby is small but know heart doesn't start beating till 6 weeks. i am booked in for another scan on 4th sept to see if baby has grown some more or whether it has died. feel like stuck in limbo! - if think positive, i know there is a good chance that will go in 2 weeks and everything will be fine but just cannot stop thinking about it and feel that maybe this time it isn't going to happen. How long will the baby stay in there if heart stops beating? from what you have said it could be as much as 4 weeks? i still feel pg and am so tired and have flashes of nausea / lightheaded but think i may be imagining them - just feel a bit lost. i was so happy last week and now feel subdued - can't really talk to anyone because we decided to keep it secret until 12 weeks up.

oh rabbitsfoot..... please please stay postive!

you have some good signs... if you are feeling pregnant and have symptoms like nausea... this is a positive sign. Millions of women bleed and stay pregnant! some even have periods right through their pregnancy!

I went along for an early scan and they got me at 5 weeks and 6 days and there was no heart beat... but they only get 50% heartbeats at this early stage. I went back the next week... and sure enough there it was... a heartbeat!!!!(6 weeks 6 days)

Obviously, mine has a sad ending...... However,another interesting thing was that I felt very pregnant and sick...but the last few days before my scan when they found the baby had died... my symptoms went!... did'nt feel sick and didn't feel pregnant... I just thought it was because my body had got used to the hormones!

But they told me that the baby has died a fews days ago.... and this is when all my symptoms just fanished and I did not feel pregnant.

So.......please please be very reassured!!!!!!! yours sounds very good!
Try and relax and enjoy what will probably be a healty pregnancy!

LET ME KNOW! ON 4TH
AND ........VERY VERY BEST OF LUCK!

Jeddah - just checking in to see how things went. Glad that you seem ok despite the circumstances. Fingers crossed that you have better news soon. I had D&C under local anaesthetic on Monday - glad to have it all over and done with - they think it was probably a molar pregnancy so waiting for the pathology results to confirm.

Hi Hannahsaunt

Yes I am fine... no choice really but to pick ourselves up again and keep going on.

My ERPC went well no huccups and I was home in notime. Had a geneal anaesthetic and had no probs with it and apart from feeling washed out.. I was ok.

Now back to normal... strnage really its like its never happened!... but I tell you what... those 5 weeks when I was pregnant... they were the happiest I have ever been. I even bought some maternity clothes on line in the sale and a few bits for the nursey!!!!! they all arrived the day after my operation.....I have put them all in a box and packed them away.

How are you?

Hi Jeddah,

Have just read through your thread and I'm so sorry for all your losses. Just wanted to echo what twocats said, a major hurdle is getting pregnant in the first place and you don't seem to have any problem with this. I have had 2 missed m/cs in the past but am now 42 (another old duffer) and 33 weeks pregnant so just wanted to give you hope. It will happen for you. Wishing you all the very best

jeddah and all the other lovely ladies... just to send warm conception and pg vibes to anyone wanting to be 'up the duff' as hillbilly puts it

I have had a missed m/c at 12wks, baby had died at 7wks. But the interesting thing was that I got pregnant again with my dd2 without having a cycle in between. Not sure it's officially advisable, but it worked for us, and went fine

Good luck
xxxx

wools and tickle

thanks so much for your positive words/vibes!

oh my god thereis hope for us yet!

Now listen!... about an 'old duffers' thread I am going to start one right now!

Sorry... to put a criteria on it but......

anyone 35yrs and older come and share someting special!

Jeddah, glad to see you're coping well after the D&C. I was very down after mine 2 months ago, despite having a lovely little girl to cuddle. Nevertheless, for my lo's sake I had to remain cheerful and full of energy while around her. I'll join your new thread in a minute as I'm 44 and have decided to try again. Talk soon. Suz.

Missed alot of the last weeks additions to this thread due to one reason and another. The Old Duffers thread sounds fab, I will have a look out for it.

Glad you are feeling a bit better, I know I am.
Went for scan last Friday and still some "product" (their words, not mine) so have been given another week to expell naturally and then if not all out by this Friday I may have to have D & C. Not sure what to expect.

Had not mentioned it before but have DD of 14 months and she is a great comfort to me as is DH.
Have started TTC already although no idea when I will ovulate. Anyone know??

Jeddah just to let you know that i went for the scan on monday and there was a heartbeat!!!!! they dated me at just over 7 weeks so still a long way to go!

thank you so much for your reassurance - they have now just told me to wait for the 12 week scan. i wish you all the luck in the world for your future pregnancies and will be checking in on your progress! take care!

hi rabbitsfoot,just saw your thread and wanted to say how pleased i am for you and and wish you all the best for the future

rabbitsfoot

I am so pleased for you!!

rabbitsfoot

I am so pleased for you!!

Hi-we had a 9 week scan on Tues and were told that our baby had died. There was no heartbeat and the placenta measured 6 weeks. We had a scan at 6 weeks and there was no heartbeat then but they said it might be a bit early. It was a real shock as I still have my pregnancy symptoms - sore boobs and am feeling even more sick. They gave us three options of natural, medial or surgical m/c but have asked us to wait a week and have another scan despite saying they are very sure the baby has died. So we're booked in for a scan next Tues and if it's confirmed m/c they will give me the drugs to make it happen. We're coping (just) but I'm scared about the drugs - does it hurt? How long do you bleed for typically? How long do we have to wait before we try again - I'm 37 and my H is 43 and really want to start a family.x

hi amt37,i am so sorry to hear your news,although i will keep my fingers crossed for tues for you.i have had 8 m/c but never had the drug option ,always had d&C or nature just takes its course,so im sorry i cant help you on that ,but there will be someone here who can,this site has been great .youll find it will really help you through this hard time.and as far as when to try again they say to wait til you have had your 1st period after m/c just so youve given your body a bit of time to recover and so you no your dates .
take care of yourselve and ill keep a look out for your threads .