no heartbeat at 9 week scan PLEASE HELP!

[jeddah]

Hi girls.... some of you might remember me???? I was posting regularly about 1 year ago, but needed a rest.

I have been pregnant 3 times in the last year. Miscarried the first 2 at 5 weeks and 6 weeks, the bleeding just started and it all happened naturally.

Found out I was pregnant on my holiday in Italy in begining of July and because of my 2 miscarriagea, they decided to scan me weekly until I was 12 weeks.

Had 6 week, 7 week and 8 week scan all of which were normal and healthy and very strong heartbeats.

Oh my god we were thrilled and the sign of heartbeats made us completely think 100% we were in the clear!

Anyway last weeks 9 week scan there was no heartbeat and has been the biggest shock of our lives. They told me to go home and it will happen naturally.

I am still sat here waiting!
can someone please advise me on when and what happens, eg how painful? how much blood? when will it happen? anyone had a D+C and concieved again?

I am 42yrs and feel completely hopeless.

thanks in anticipation!

Hi all,

I am 38 yrs old concieved naturally after trying for 5 years. Was scheduled for CVS testing only to find out that the baby had no heart beat and had died at about 8.5 weeks old. I am devasted . Very afraid and need encouring, deperately want to have a child. If anyone can give me any advice please email me. Good luck to all.

Angel

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I was in the same position a few years back and it is shocking as well traumatic.

It's so hard to give advice - it took me a very long time to get over it (if you ever really do get over it) but it didn't help that i just jumped straight back into work etc. I ended up having counselling two years on and that really helped.

Angel, I was very concerned that I was never going to be a parent and I'm sure that this had a negative affect. It took a while to conceive again but interestingly it was on holiday when I had more or less given up.

You are clearly concerned about your age and the length of time you've been trying but try to put this to one side for a while as you deal with this awful news.

Wishing you lots of love and hope.