Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent ( 5 )

[mummylin2495]

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Yes it is, but somehow we all find the strength to get through these sad times. It does help if you have someone to help you through these times. Hope you day will be bearable for you

Thank you x

Sending love to all and hoping today is not too hard.

My DCs have each given me a beautiful hand painted photo frame with photos of us together, including my mum. I had a lovely breakfast too and we're going out for lunch and then seeing my MIL.

Inkle Sending you hugs. It's my first MD without mine too. Tough day. x

hi everyone.

laptop still not back but using ds2's until he wants it back.

am very reassured reading this thread I'm not going mad...the health anxiety thing, its sending me crazy. I'm waiting for results of something and my stomach has been in a churn for ever over it. I'm at that age when things start to go a bit haywire period wise and I dont know if its my age and hormones or something else...and the something else fills my brain. I'm never away from the doctors, I sat and cried in front of a lovely young dr and said I'm sure I've got cancer, she was so nice. But I really feel so anxious and worried, my blood pressure was really high. I keep thinking of my boys and something wrong with me and I could throw up. I hate to hear anyone else out there feels the same but its a relief to know I'm not losing my mind, dh thinks I am.

well today is mothers day and guess what I'm doing. I'm working in a restaurant waiting tables so all the women in this area can take their mums out for lunch and have a nice day together. Isnt that just the pits!! I seriously think God is having a laugh at me just now. Not only do I have to go into work to hear about what the boss who is older than me has bought her mum and is doing with her mum today, I've got to serve 100 plus customers eg. families with mums their lunch,,,then give the mums at the table a chocolate!! I think they can stick that bit up their arse, someone else can do it, theres only so much I'm taking today. the restaurant is filled with mothers day banners and roses....if I dont commit murder by 8 pm tonight I'll be doing well....

I'm not myself today, although I know none of us will be. I'm sorry for all the new posters who have joined and I've read all the recent posts and I'm thinking of you all, mummylin, t875, badvoc , shallweshop, waterlego mouseface, supermario, biscuits and inkle, love to you all today especially xxxx

Just popping in to say I'm thinking of everyone who is without their mum. Sorry I'm not very good at posting regularly on here but I do think of you all and hope you are all okay.
I had a moment this morning when I was consumed with overwhelming sadness, just because I let myself consciously think about my mum for a while. Cried like a baby
It just doesn't really get any easier, does it? I'm nearly 2 years down the line and still can't believe that she's gone.
My kids are being lovely today, so is dh. It helps a bit.
Love to all

Thinking of you all today. Although our mums are with us it's not the same. I lit a candle and put some of her favorite ornaments round the candle said a few words. Was sad going to my dads and her not there!
I have had a lovely mothers day for me as I'm trying to smile through them somber times of missing my mum and remembering it's my day to celebrate me being a mum too.

Lots of love and hope you have all been spoilt with gifts/ love/ thought and care like you all deserve xx

Hello everyone, I hope you have all coped with today. It's such a day f mixed emotions isn't it. Sad because our mums aren't here, but nice because our children show us they love us. Went to the crem and one of my brothers and his wife were there, by the time we had done all the flowers mums little patch looked lovely, was sad to see nothing from my sister and one f my brothers , but I'm not going to dwell on it r I will end up getting angry and upset.
Came home from there and dh,s friend whose mum as buried on Friday last arrived with his wife, so the mood was quite somber.
But then my own dd arrived with the most beautiful orchid. It's blue and stunning.my ds is now on the way.

hope your all doing okay today, the orchid sounds lovely and the candles lit for those we are thinking of. I've been alright sobbed like a small child this morning at the thought of even getting up but wasn't too bad, got a lovely card from all three kids and as I said chose my dance mat to help me slim down. my nan, dads mum liked her chocolates and my mums mum loved her stuff we have spoilt her a bit but I'm glad. today is hard for her. she had a card off her daughter signed from the whole family grandchildren and all. her son didn't even get her a card even though he was less than five minutes from her house yesterday doing her shopping it has been a year since he even got in touch. angry on her behalf but he always was a selfish twat. what's the plan for tonight for you all

doing his shopping should of said, not hers.

My beautiful orchid

Sm - unbelievable isn't it how her son can be like that. I felt angry reading that. Your have to let us know how the dance mat is!! The flowers and orchid Lin sounds lovely glad the flowers looked nice I brothers eh! Although my bro was different today just never know how he will be.
Oh my melo choly tried very hard to enjoy but it's not been easy.
Our evening will consist of games. We we're playing on the wii before! Oh amd watching BTCC as we love broths touring cars!
Hugs all round xx

Oh Lin that is a lovely orchid. What a beautiful colour x

I felt very sorry for my dd, she bought me a blue orchid in the week apparently and when she got home she somehow snapped the stem off, so she went and got another one. She has given me the snapped off one as well, no idea if it will grow, but I can live in hope. Any know if it's likely to grow another stem ?

dp informs me if it still has leaves it should grow next year. don't hold me too that but he is pretty garden savvy.

I don't know about orchids but how lovely she is for going back for another one

Yes the leaves are fine SM it's just the flower stem she broke off. Will keep it and see what happens.

:) should be fine he tells me

just a quickie, just to say hi to ssd i must have missed you earlier hun. Been thinking of you and will catch you up tomorrow xx

Glad to hear the orchid could possibly be saved, still looks lovely though what's there. Inkle and everyone else hope the day hasn't been too hard although i remember the first one and it was part devastating so i do know how you are feeling. Hopefully you have been able to find snippets to enjoy yours. This year has been a little easier, but still times of sadness and disbelief. xx

will be back tomorrow, hugs to you all xx

The broken orchid is not the one in the picture T dd broke first one and had to buy another !

That orchid is beautiful mummylin, gorgeous colour!

Hope everyone feels a bit better today knowing g'day has passed xx

Spk soon t875 x

G'day WT actual ?!&£!!!!!

Is that prescriptive text? Am on ds,s mini iPad fingers are too thick for it!!

I meant yesterday above ??

Have you morphed into an Australian ssd ?

I know !

am at the library just now using their pc's , I find a keyboard much easier to use than a touch screen, I hate those! too modern for me!

I have had an invitation to my sisters housewarming on Easter Sunday BUT its my mums birthday and the last thing I will want to do is go to a party. It starts in the afternoon and I will be going to crem round about then. Prob a bit earlier. But I just can't face it. Nor can I pretend to be happy when I clearly won't be. I have told her I may not come and the reasons. Which she understands. Why can't I be like the others and move on with my life. I still feel heartbroken and get pleasure from nothing anymore, my mum is on my mind all the time. Every day

Oh Lin :(
What would your mum think about it do you think?
I feel as you do but I often think of dad and my feelings of grief - then I think of the telling off he would give me! :)
Would your mum rather you go and spend time with your family or bereft and alone?
I know it's easier said than done.
Honestly I do.
My aunts funeral hit me harder than I could have imagined...I think I cried more at her funeral than dads!! :(
What's that all about!?
Grief is a strange and unpredictable thing.
Sending hugs to you x