Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent ( 5 )

[mummylin2495]

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Hi all my parents wedding anniversary today their first one together in heaven. My DM died 3 months ago and my dad 14 years ago...just needed to write that down I hope they happy today together.

Hi PC I too hope your parents have been reunited. I am guessing that they had a very long marriage. Sorry for your losses. How are you coping with everything ? S you have siblings so you can support each other at his time ? We are always here if you need to chat or rant !

Hi Badvoc oh thats horrendous for your relatives with the loss of your aunt. So hard with mothers day, i know ill battle through mothers day myself as im sure we all will here, will be thinking of you xx

PC happy anniversary to your parents, so very sorry for your losses, i had a tear in my eye reading that. I just cant imagine, but they are together but i know also that's crap they aren't down here. Lots of love t you xx

How is everyone? First day of spring today!! Seeing the butterflies and the lovely spring bulbs and daffodils oh how i love this season!

My laminated cards have arrived today, one fir Mother's Day and one for mums birthday, I would like to share the words

Post card to heaven on Mother's Day

These words are just for you
And come with love to say
We think about you constantly
And miss you more and more each day
To lose you left us devastated
But when we feel the pain
We only have to close our eyes
And your with us once again
A special smile
A special Mum we can't replace
You left a place no-one can fill
We love you Mum and always will

They also come with a stick so you can place it in the earth, I am going to put a photo of it on here

Here is the card

I am really feeling sad tonight :( A friend witnessed a man collapse in the street, and tried to help him this evening. Unfortunately he and his friends were unsuccessful :(

It's making me feel really upset - for that poor man and his family. He died without them by his side, out in the street. Makes me realise that my granddad was very fortunate to have my gran at his side, when he passed.

And in 8 days, half a year will have gone by.
Half a year since I last heard his voice
Held his hand
Sat on the sofa and watched TV with him and had a cuddle

Miss you every single day, Granddad

Oh that is sad lollipop and what a terrible shock for his family waiting for him at home.
I was like you and very very close to my grandparents. They were the best and I think of them often although they have been gone a few years now. But my love for them continues

Lil - glad your sister is settled there I remember the 2's well!!! My youngest was an unguided missile she'd be everywhere!!
Your card for Mother's Day is very poignant the words are very touching Lin. And really nicely decorated on the front. Did you read they have found debris possibly for the missing plane? Them relatives must be going through hell I couldn't imagine it. X

Went out with my friend tonight but couldn't get into it. The impending anniversary of my mum 2 years seems like yesterday is very very hard. I feel blah!! And grrrr whyyyyyy so off to bed I go.
Lollipop. So sad about the man. May he find peace padding over. X

Thoughts with everyone else x

Lil (?) I think I meant Lin. He he sorry Hun x

Re reading what I wrote I was half asleep. Meaning lollipop for the man may he rest in peace how awfully sad for his family.

Hi all.
Sorry I haven't been around for ages, had lots on in rl.

I hope everyone is getting on ok. I imagine many of you will be feeling the same as me, so sick of seeing mothers day stuff everywhere. I delete my 'treat your mum this mothers day' emails with a big screw you!!! I had to get a birthday card the other day and walked through the card shop with my head down.

Today would have been my lovely dads birthday, I've had to practise my brave face a lot today, one of those days when the tears aren't far away.
Last week the sale was completed on my mum and dads house, it was so hard knowing I'll never go in that house again and seeing it empty. Someone said to me that you can't carry a house around but you can always carry your memories.

That's great to hear your sister is happier living near you now lin bet the little ones are lovely

Love to all on here xx

Hello biscuits.
Gosh. I bet today has been hard? :(
I saw my first Father's Day card/gift yesterday and I was literally stopped in my tracks in the shop....I just didn't expect to see it so soon I guess :(
Last Father's Day dad have me a lift to the hospital to pick up my ds2 who had been in over the weekend with a nasty infection.
I gave him his card and gift in the car before he dropped me off.
And then 2 weeks later on his b day we weren't even there...we were away for the weekend :(
Miss you dad.
X

Hi Badvoc.
I meant to say i'm so sorry to hear about your aunt xx
It has been hard but you know how it is, just carry on.
Oh no not fathers day already It's been 14 months now since dad died and some days it seems like only yesterday and are so hard.
I was thinking just yesterday how I wish I'd known that the birthdays/mothers/fathers days were going to be the last I'd spend with them. I hope they know how much they were loved.

Sorry for the pity party xx

Thank you x
Please don't be sorry! You have every right to feel like you do, especially today.
I was talking about this just the other day...I said I hoped my dad knew how much everyone loved him. We lost him so suddenly, no warning, I feel very cheated that I didn't get to say goodbye.
But the reality is, of course, that no amount of time would ever have been "enough".
It will be 8 months since dad died on the day of my aunts funeral....seems incredible that it's been so long.

Sorry had to pick dd2 up from scouts.
Wow that has gone quick badvoc if you don't mind me saying
You are right of course, forever wouldn't have been long enough!
I can imagine you do feel cheated of your goodbyes xx

In some ways it feels like yesterday, but then so much has happened since it sometimes feels longer...
Am dreading Thursday.

I hope this week especially Thursday go as well as possible badvoc. I am finding the run up to mothers day really hard, never noticed how in your face it was until this last two years. Its ridiculous really because I wouldn't of bought any of the stuff advertised in the mothers day section I usually bought her a top/boots not something emblazoned with mum. still fucking hurts though

Will be thinking of you Thursday Badvoc. We're holding your hand x
Biscuits I messages you but lovely to see you drop in catch up soon.
Sm how's the school situation? Hope better
Hi to Lin ssd, mouse, fod, crazy, waterlego and everyone I've missed
Big ol hugs to us all run up to Mother's Day so very hard! X

Helped mum clear out dads shed yesterday.
Aside from the spiders and rats it wasn't too bad....until I found a tin (my dad had loads of tins with random bits of metal/screws/nails in) and it had his old pipes and some tobacco in it.
Oooof...felt like I had been kicked in the chest :(

Oh that is sad badvoc I expect that evoked more memories for you. Talking of spiders when we cleared out our bird house last week there was a false widow spider in it. Dh took a photo and he is at this minute putting the photo on his comp so when he sends it to me I will put it on here. It is horrible, but we knew instantly what it was because f the pattern on its back. It is no more ! As for the rats , you would not of seen me for dust !

Make the photo as big as you can and you will clearly see the markings on the beast!

Oh I know what you mean Badvoc. We found my mums personal memory box and even going through her craft stuff killed me. Was very hard!! And we're still clearing her stuff
Lin omg!! I'd have run for the hills!! How did you get rid can you just sack them? Sorry I will try and give a spider a chance but not that one !!

Yes, I've felt quite out of sorts since Lin :(
I don't mind spiders - but even I would have ran for hills if I had seen that one!
The only creatures I will happily kill are wasps.
Wasps are bastards, and if they go anywhere near my dc they are toast! :)

Dh got a Thick bit of stick and squashed it, which for him was very brave as I am the one in this house that has to put spiders outside! It was horrible and I also never usually kill spiders. It actually looked like it had a shell. But it's def a false widow. We googled it and found the exact pattern. Did you notice the long legs ugh ! Trouble is there must be some more around somewhere ! And they bite !

Thinking of you all, especially as it gets nearer to Mother's Day and I know we will all be really feeling so sad.
It is everywhere isn't it and we can't escape all the cards and flowers .
badvoc hope you will cope ok on Thursday with your aunts funeral , yet another thing you have to deal with. I hope life gets better for you soon.
T , biscuits, waterlego, SM., ssd, mouseface and anyone I haven't mentioned , you are all in my thoughts at this time