Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent ( 5 )

[mummylin2495]

Here we are , our new home

morning ladies sorry I haven't been on for a while real life gets in the way :P

the tablet pcs I bought for ds and sd are faulty, dp got an electric shock off the plug ( not a major one) so have been in talks with amazon and got all of the money back, once we have got half term out of the way ill be replacing them with a Samsung and never again buying anything unbranded technology wise its been a major headache. ds has been complaining of a headache a lot im going to take him back to the opticians this week.

mums husband might be coming round for a bru later which will be nice haven't seen him in a long time.

I feel for you oops I really do and feel free to chat to us. I think its hard sometimes as I would urge people to try and sort out and get on but it isn't always possible I know this, in a perfect world it would be but it isn't and it must be so very hard to know that they are out there but jut no interested enough to make contact.

mummylinn how did It all go with your friends? and how are you?

badvoc I have been thinking about how you are doing hope things are a bit easier and ds is feeling alittle better

and everyone else too, I often think of you all :)

I know it's awful!! If I lived any where near I would want to help in any way I could!
Hope the ladies in north/ Scotland are staying safe. Xx

its fine up here, the news pictures are awful, really feel for those people

ssd your feelings are entirely valid for you. But to me not being able to see my mum again to me is the worst thing ever.
We are all different and only you know how you feel, same as us all really, we feel as we feel
I'm sure it's very hurtful to feel rejected by family members and for oops I'm sure it has blighted her life.But one day it may be possible for her and her family to somehow sort out whatever went wrong
I hope the same for you, that one day the rift between you and your siblings can be healed , time is so short for us all .

Euphemia...my mum is the same. She and dad had been together for 50 years. She was totally dependant on him for everything.
At first you are so busy, and people visit and phone but then.....
It stops.
And you have to get on with your life.
And it's bloody hard :(
X

euphemia I am very sorry for your loss.. I would think your mum feels like she has lost half of herself . 55 years wow what a long marriage they had. It is only a matter of weeks since you lost your dear dad and it will take a while for your mum to adjust. As for yourself do take time to do your grieving, don't work yourself too hard. It is something you have to deal with. I hope your family can all support each other at this sad time.

Just noticed your next post, I think it's lovely that your mum is looking forward to a holiday,that will give you all a little boost I'm sure.

We went to Northumberland last July! Best holiday we have ever had :)
We are going with mum to Menorca this July.

My dad went to hospital had the camera down but he's waiting on a biopsy as they found this
Barrets osphagos ( sp)
Slightly bloody scared! :-((
Hoping he's ok!! It will be enough to tip me over the edge!!

T - I know someone with Barratts. They have had it for years and years. No issues x

I have never heard of that T I'm sure he will be ok. Very quiet tonight compared to sat night isn't it

Oh thank you both so much!! I have been is worried. Bloody google we never should do it should we!!

Do you mean last Saturday Lin? Yeah it's very quiet. Thank god them winds died down I hated that last night!! Just hope the towns that are flooded can get all the help and enough break in weather for things to get better. Feel for them! X

Badvoc how's school going for ds? X
How are things for you Lin?
Thinking of you all x
X

No not last sat, was talking about the bad winds last night

Ooh right sorry. Yeah very bad. Great to see the sun.
How is your back now? How better.

the weather here is lovely today, at long last!

Lovely here too, but don't know how cold it is yet.
Yes T my back is all recovered now thankyou.

Dh has gone to US. He face timed the kids this morning.
My mum rang and inks she has a bad water infection. So have to take her to the ooh gp :(
It must be so nice for my sister to sod off on holiday EVERY school holiday knowing I am here to sort everything out. Must be very nice :(
And my Dhs aunt just phoned...her son and his wife have split. Hey have only been married a couple of years (huge wedding in Bali) very sad for her.
Ah well.
The sun is shining at last.

Isn't face time great badvoc sorry to see about the family problems. And my dd,s ex has flown off to Thailand despite the fact he is supposed to be getting daily treatment at the hospital. Also he still has a badly swollen leg where he has the last big fit and cut it. I can't think he will have medical insurance. He didnt even bother to say goodbye to his two dd,s. he hs justvrecieved his inheritance from his mother, never mind that my dd struggles and works hard to keep a roof for her and my two gd,s. he is meeting up with his alcoholic friend there [Angry]

Oh, how awful Lin.
Must be so hard for you all.

What the hell will happen if he gets taken ill there ? I doubt any medical insurance would cover him and that's if he even has any. I can't believe he has been so stupid and with his leg still so swollen was worried about a DVt. I don't believe he would be cleared by a doc to fly. He has gone for a week and phoned my dd from the airport to say he had just had fish and chips and A PINT ! He will be in an alcoholic stupor all week.

sorry to hear this lin that is a beyond shitty not to mention highly unsafe thing for him to do.

sorry not much chat today feeling really low, there's a whole week of half term stretching out in front of me we would normally spend it with mum doing things, it's still hard to get used to not doing . totally self indulgent miserable moan there sorry.

Yes it's awful SM we are even thinking that he not come back when he is supposed to. We will have to wait and see. He is due to go into hospital to have some sort of ballon thing put in his stomach, I'm not sure exactly what it does but my dd thinks they fill it with something and if he drinks he will be sick. But we are not really sure. But we do know it won't stop him. He had tablets before which did a similar thing, he would be very ill, be sick and carry on drinking ! He will not stop until he dies sadly.

Sorry you are feeling low today. You are bound to miss your mum when you normally spend this time together.
I myself went to the crem today to see to the flowers, I spoke to my mum and my sister. I hope they heard me somehow