Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent ( 5 )

[mummylin2495]

Here we are , our new home

it is horrible to watch happening and feel helpless I imagine lin especially when thinking of your grandchildren. I only hope he comes back for his operation. I am hoping to get out and about with ds then things won't seem as grim

Euthemia ( sorry if spelt wrong)

My god I know what you mean it's not my mum left behind but my dad but I feel what you are going through. My mum and dad were together 40 odd years my dad gets on with what he has too ploughing through his days but so much of him has gone. I've watched him age 10 years! I'm also he's doing a bit better now but I feel for him

Come here anytime thinking of you xx

They did hear you Lin I know this. I seriously was blown away what this medium said what me and my dad had said at the times to my mum or done for her no one would have known. But this is my belief as you know.

How was the flowers going? Glad your back is better that must be very relieving.

Ssd thank you so much as always for your support xx

Hi to everyone else on the thread. Xx

I took tulips, purple and white, red and yellow roses and some daffodils. I have to have enough for three pots. My mum has two built into her headstone and my sister has one. Looked lovely when it was all done and it was a nice day which helped . Lots of branches had come down and were all over the place.i just piled up the ones around my two graves . I expect the workmen will move them all

How can one cup of tea go all over the place and soak your clothes, down the cupboard, on the work top and floor ?

always the way isnt it . start again and have a new one

I've been laying on the bed put my arm out to put my tea on the side and I completely missed the bed side cabinet! All over the floor

Ahh the flowers sound nice Lin. I love tulips. Is it the right time to plant bulbs?? I've been put off because of the weather!!!

How is everyone going along!?
Sending a hug if needed xx

Hello all, sorry I've not been about - real life getting in the way how dare it :)

I've got a question. Has anyone got any experience of bereavement counselling? I'm studying part time at college, and they offer a general counselling service, free of charge, to students.

I kind of feel like there are things I need to talk through with someone IRL but don't really know what happens.

I've had general counselling before (at a previous college, actually) and found it helpful.

Bulbs should f been put in about oct ! Glad I'm not the only one to of spilt tea today !!

mums husband phoned tonight, asked if I knew whether anything had been planted at the grave because the grass had been all scraped back and earth disturbed. felt like a total shit having to say I have no idea because I haven't been for a few weeks. I just hate it up there so much, it doesn't make me feel calm anymore it just churns it all up. when it is warmer and I can make it look beautiful I like to be there doing that but just sitting looking at this waterlogged wind battered mess really hurts so I have avoided it so long. got a message from my aunt before with some family news and felt a right bitch for wanting to message back asking if she had phoned to see how her mum and dad are this last few months and if she even cared. grrr everything is weighing heavy on me the last few days hopefully a chilled few days with the children will calm things.
how are you all doing?
I haven't spilt tea yet today but I have dyed my foot purple whilst I was doing my hair, and the bathroom window handle too. collateral damage, the hair looks cool so im happy

Had my friend around this aft with her dh. Was very draining listening all over again to the problems. But she needs to speak to someone and at the moment there s no- one in the family. It's all been such a mess. Have had a stinking headache ever since.

hope the headache eases, I suppose she feels like talking to you is the only place she can go over things without anyone getting annoyed/upset with her. there is only so many times you can rehash something though and I tell you, you must have the patience of a saint because many wouldn't!

Lolly - yes I along with others on here havw had bereavement councilling. I found it a massive help. To talk things through my shock/ anger things I knew I could go on about and not know I was offending or upsetting my dad or my husband brother etc.
it was really good and the lady I swear my mum sent to me as she was my angel.
Let us know how you go. Good luck.
I highly recommend it. It also helped me to find me too although obv I find times still hard going and the void is huge. Xx

Super - your mum would only want you to be comfortable don't feel bad about not getting to tend I'm the same. I know the ground will be so boggy too. Although I'm sure it will give them all up there a laugh!!

Lin - you are a good friend. I guess I've missed the bulbs! next year say t - bulbs you are our resident gardener here!!

Love to all thinking of you all xx

sorry havent been here a while, have got problems with the pc, will be back when I can xx

Hope your back with us very soon!!

Had a nice catch up with a good friend today! I had a pint of shandy ( very old school) lol and a bloody good ol clear out of my stresses and feelings. Oh and a good laugh. Felt much better.

Struggling much more about my mum the void is so much bigger but trudging on. Eldest went to the cinema today with friends and me and youngest played wii, built dens, and made brownies! Nice day.

Hope your all going along not too bad xx

Meaning hope ssd is bank with us very soon!! X

Just lost a post ! Glad you had a nice day T lovely to see. I had a quiet day but a busy evening. Went out for dinner with siblings etc,then a friend arrived and then my ds arrived for a cuppa ( and to pinch my sweets the same as my brothers do )

Can't pot too much at the moment as iPad keeps freezing on MN site ! Hope they get it sorted soon as I see there are others having the same problem. Hope you are all doing ok and managing to just take things day by day.

Thanks Lin! Hope everyone is going along ok!
What sweets do you like Lin?
I like haribo and very partial to a cola cube, werthers, strawberry and cream

I lost my mum when I was 25 and my dad when I was 40. I feel envy/anger towards people much older than I am now (47) who moan about their parents. Maybe this is not the right place to post. My Dad's loss I can cope with but my Mum's rankles

random you are very welcome to post here if you think it would help in some way, or even if you just need to vent . I hate to hear Anyone complaining about their mums in particular, I think to myself what I would give to have my mum here. They don't realise exactly how lucky they are.

Ooh t I love most of the old fashioned sweets. Anything that has sherbert , black jacks, liquorice ( I love ) snickers , peppermint creams oh lots of them ! Oh and I love Turkish delight as well.

hi all how are you? having a bit of a sulk today finally got to sleep at 2am due to blinding headache (my glasses snapped in half so can't wear them) and dp has forgot to turn his alarm off so it went off at 6.30, instead of switching the thing off he snoozed it so it ended up going off three times. I hate that. why have an alarm if all it's going to do is wake everyone else up and your going to ignore it. am grumpy anyway today, something has been bugging me as been really short of money with it being half term and all other bills coming at once and have noticed that dp never says right I'll give you the money for x but will bring home treats and things. feel like an epic bitch saying it but I don't need treats I need my glasses fixing/the money to take dcs swimming rather than getting cabin fever/ some money towards getting their new tablets since the Christmas ones were duds. and nice as it is having boxes of chocolate there don't help the financial situation. it's very strange it's like he doesn't want to spend the money unless it's on something nice not necessary if that makes sense.

Sm - I'd speak to him about it sit down and say right where we going with this situation what plan moving forward can we help with this as it's annoying me a lot.
I of this sm and it does help it's like I get his undevided attention and we get to work things out!! Good luck'

Least the wind and rain has stopped
Ssd biscuits hope you guys are ok. Always here.
And to everyone else in the thread you are not alone.
I'm missing my mum massive it really homing in how long I haven't 'seen' her and had a cuddle. The emptiness is huge. I've asked her to be around me today as I need her so who knows. Can't believe April it will be 2 years! can't think about it it kills!

How's the holidays going for everyone?? Looney bin status??mines going ok not too bad. Still waiting on this result for my dad from this biopsy we shall see been worried though xx

I would second what t has said. Get together and write down income and out goings, see if you can make any savings anywhere and ask him not to buy things you don't need. Maybe have a monthly treat. It must be very annoying