A message of hope

[Helyantha]

Just over 6 years ago my beautiful 6 year old boy died after an accident. I never thought I would recover from his loss and in many ways I haven't, but that's ok. My life is so different now, but it is life and there are lots of good things. Our son is with us always in a special, quiet way, like whispers in the wind.
I just wanted to let those of you at the beginning of this dark path that you will learn to live with the pain and it doesn't mean leaving your loved ones behind. As a very wise woman on these boards says: 'One foot in front of the other, and don't forget to breathe.'

helyantha what a positive, beautiful thread. Thank you. Here's my little contribution, written by my aunt after my beautiful, incomparable Mia died last October :-

One breath at a time. Give yourself time. Not to get over this loss because you will always grieve but to somehow weave her beauty, her love, your love and your terrible loss into a fabric that can be worn as a shawl of love.

I have to remember this on the hard days and the hard moments. I know that they will always be a part of me, just as surely Mia is a part of me, nestled safely in my heart.

Thank you, Mias, for your aunt's words. For a long time after losing my boy, I felt that the fabric of my life had been stretched & ripped beyond repair. I just felt full of holes :( But slowly, slowly, the fabric has been patched. Where some threads were lost, when friends & colleagues walked away (or worse), new threads were woven. Patches have been sewn as new relationships have formed, especially with the arrival of our youngest son. New, unexpected patterns have emerged & our life's shawl looks beautiful again. And in every last stitch is my son, who I will carry with me to my last breath.