Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

Original poster

"Too Beautiful for Earth" For Sylvie-Rose and all our Angel Children

905 replies

chipmonkey · 16/03/2012 21:55

For my darling Sylvie-Rose, taken from us just seven weeks after you were born. Too beautiful for this earth but I so wish you could have stayed nonetheless.
And for all the Mums walking this tough path. Let us link arms along the way and not be defeated by the cruel blow life has dealt us.

OP posts:
shabbapinkfrog · 09/04/2012 14:23

Everlong - I do know why she posted away from this thread but if a few people give you advice and support and you dont just let them know how stuff is going for you they are left wondering if you are OK. I know it had dropped out of active conversations but the MNettters who had posted would have still had it on their list of 'threads Im on' - just makes it better for everybody to know the outcome. xx

Original poster
chipmonkey · 09/04/2012 15:03

chipwrecked. That sounds like me sometimes!

To be fair to tami, I don't think anyone was really hanging on tenterhooks to see if all was OK. And they knew the plan was to go to her parents so might not have access to PC etc.

And I can see why she'd want to post on Relationships rather than here. Lots of people there have experience of EA whereas although we've all been through the mill, mostly we have supportive OH's so it's difficult for us to advise.

OP posts:
CheeseandGherkins · 09/04/2012 15:20

Tami she definitely is precious.

shabs It was really scary and brought a lot back from scbu. I've felt quite on edge since then and finding it hard to sleep. Hoping this passes

everlong thank you, she's totally oblivious to it all which is good! Hope you enjoyed Pirates and your meal. Dd1 is at a party at the moment so not really done a lot today, miserable weather too.

fm oh I looked at that film, I'm really not in the mood for sad ones though, was it good? Might watch it when I'm feeling better!

I've not seen tami's thread, might have a gander as I was in an abusive marriage before this one, emotionally and physically but thankfully came to my senses before the violence escalated and for the sake of the children. Not that he admitted to any of it and actually had the front to deny doing things that I knew he did!

So glad to be married to a wonderful man now who really cares about me and loves me.

everlong · 09/04/2012 15:45

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Whatevertheweather · 09/04/2012 16:19

Hi all back from rainy sunny Suffolk. Had a lovely time just what we needed.

Tami haven't seen your thread but hugs lovely. Is H being an arse again??

Cheese replied properly on other thread but poor baby Ella. That must have been so scary xx

Hope you enjoyed Pirates Everlong we took K to see it last weekend. We all loved it, thought it was very cleverly done and very funny.

Would also like to see We bought a Zoo fm thanks for the warning I might need to take tissues!

Shabs are you on a rest before resuming Rhianna duties tomorrow Grin

How was Easter chip did the boys consume their body weight in chocolate? Smile

Hope everyone is doing okay xxx

frasersmummy · 09/04/2012 18:51

we bought a zoo is quite a nice family film

the reason the family move to the zoo is because the mum has died less than 6 months before ..having lost my mum 4 months ago there were quite a few scenes that moved me to tears..

its not a weepy in the true sense of the word..just really touching .. lots of nice happy bits too

chip cant remember where abouts you are and trying to decide if chip wrecked means you have been at the Wine.... or if thats just the glasgow ned coming out in me...

everlong · 09/04/2012 19:02

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Whatevertheweather · 09/04/2012 19:16

2 weeks on Wednesday Everlong.....not that I'm counting down the days or anything Grin Just praying praying that all is okay and we can finally tell K. Am 19 weeks tomorrow so will be 21 weeks by the scan so should all be nice and clear!

everlong · 09/04/2012 19:25

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Whatevertheweather · 09/04/2012 20:03

Strangely me too Everlong although I have no basis for this except I was really sick in the beginning and I never was with the girls. Am hoping s/he will co-operate with our wanting to find out!

Bluetinkerbell · 09/04/2012 20:10

wtw fingers crossed you can find out! We bought E a biggest bestest sister t-shirt in Next! Asda does a cute one too! Might be a good present for when you tell her?

everlong · 09/04/2012 20:11

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bluetinkerbell · 09/04/2012 20:16

what's your inkling for mine then ever Wink...

everlong · 09/04/2012 20:19

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bluetinkerbell · 09/04/2012 20:27

okido... looking forward to it :)

Whatevertheweather · 09/04/2012 20:36

Ah Blue bet E was super chuffed Smile Sadly an 'i'm the big sister' t-shirt was one of the things we bought K when I was pregnant with Erin. We got it in Mothercare when we went a did 'the big shop' for all Erin's bits when I was about 32 weeks so she wouldn't feel left out. K was so proud of it, it was hanging in her wardrobe and she'd tell everyone about her special t-shirt she was going to wear when she first visited her brother/sister. It breaks my heart that she never got to wear it, she asked if it could go in Erin's memory box so that's where it still is.

Would love to get her another one but don't think I can bring myself to until this baby is safely home. It's all so bloody complicated!

Tamisara · 09/04/2012 20:46

Whatever You saying that is so funny (in an ironic, not comedy way). I was going to buy DD1 one from Next saying 'Big Sister' (think I may have mentioned it before). One of my first ventures out, after Tamsin was born, I went into Next and saw the same t-shirt. I did really consider buying it, but I'm glad I didn't. To me DD1 is still a big sister, but wearing it on a t-shirt is no longer important xx

Talking of possible genders for the expecting mums on this thread, I have a feeling about one mum to be, but don't want to say yet.

Bluetinkerbell · 09/04/2012 20:52

All our girls are big sisters Tami the best ones Wink I'm sure one day your DD1 will talk about her little sister Tamsin... just like E talks about Sterre still every day...

Whatevertheweather · 09/04/2012 20:59

I know what you mean Tami I don't think I could have coped with seeing K wearing it, although had she asked I would have let her. Strangely though she never did, like she knew that although she was a big sister things weren't quite the same. I'm glad she came up with the idea to keep it in Erin's box though, I like that there is something linking them together in there.

Blue I love how E is so connected to Sterre still, it's a powerful thing sibling connection I think. K never ever misses Erin out when she draws a picture of her family, I hope she always feels like that.

fioled · 09/04/2012 21:05

X had a 'little brother' top, 'little brother' bib and a 'brother to an angel in heaven' baby grow in his tiny bits. Strangely it comforted me to see him wearing them, like a part of B was in those clothes too.

Bluetinkerbell · 09/04/2012 21:12

fioled mystery solved! now I know who you are Wink how is your gorgeous X doing? been following you on Twitter during Lent...

fioled · 09/04/2012 21:18

Ah I said a few pages back I'd name changed :)

X is fab - can you believe he is 6 months old on Saturday. We can't! haha! No idea where the time is going!

How are you feeling about another Nov duedate? I remember when we were ttc X I told DH that I couldn't have another Aug duedate or a June duedate. Isn't it funny that I could cope with using B's stuff for X, but wouldn't have coped with sharing or being near dates.

Tamisara · 09/04/2012 21:21

You're all making me cry :)

I'm sad that DD1 wasn't old enough to understand. She saw Tamsin, in the hospital, she walked up to the Moses Basket, half poked her head, and said "baby". She looks at me as if I'm mad at the cemetery; I tell her to say hello & goodbye to 'Baby Tamsin' and point to her grave. I have no idea what she must think (she loves making her butterfly move though). In a way maybe it's a blessing as she's too young to understand in a way, and probably can't remember the blackest, early days. She will, however, grow up knowing about her sister, I show her photos & talk about her. DS was great though. He was a nightmare when I was pregnant with Tamsin, but has become wonderful since... I'm very proud of him xx

Bluetinkerbell · 09/04/2012 21:28

I'm ok about another November due date actually. We were joking the other day that all 3 of my children have been conceived in a span of about 2-3 weeks difference, obviously different years Wink
DD1 was due 27 Oct, born 31st Oct, Sterre due 3rd of November, DC3 due about 19 Nov
DH said I am like a sheep Grin only fertile for one short period a year... will have to see with DC4 in the future whether that will be the same Wink

Because this one was conceived slightly later than Sterre last year, the dates for scans are luckily not around the same dates, so that will be ok...

fioled · 09/04/2012 21:45

ooo DC4 already hey?! ;)

We're going to have a DC3, we've had discussions and trying to decide whether to ttc again a year from now, (Easter 2013) or wait until the christmas. I just don't want to be trying during Autumn because I don't think I would actually cope with a Summer duedate. (We conceived B late Oct 09). Too many memories. X has been such an easy baby and we feel so blessed. I really want the hope of him having an earth sibling too.