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"Too Beautiful for Earth" For Sylvie-Rose and all our Angel Children

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chipmonkey · 16/03/2012 21:55

For my darling Sylvie-Rose, taken from us just seven weeks after you were born. Too beautiful for this earth but I so wish you could have stayed nonetheless.
And for all the Mums walking this tough path. Let us link arms along the way and not be defeated by the cruel blow life has dealt us.

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everlong · 03/04/2012 19:26

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Whatevertheweather · 03/04/2012 19:30

Tami that makes perfect sense - I love it when I go to visit Erin and there's some new flowers or a trinket been left there. Very often I don't know who from but it's so touching to know someone else has been thinking of her.

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chipmonkey · 03/04/2012 20:25

Mias, wow! That's amazing about your friend's little girl! Has given me goosebumps.

Tami, that's lovely that your friend went to see Tamsin. The only one who visits Sylvie-Rose's garden other than us is MIL. Sometimes she annoys me by re-arranging the ornaments according to how she likes it but then again, she managed to source some candles for her lanterns that burn for 8 days without creating smoke so I should be grateful, really.

Mias, my birthday is December 9th. So if you could try to go a day early that would make it a bit easier for me to remember, cheers!Wink

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MiaAlexandrasmummy · 03/04/2012 23:32

chip and everlong will do my best to accommodate you both...?!? That text also gave me goosebumps.

tami I am so touched for you about your friend visiting Tamsin. She is remembered - and it says a lot about your friend's high regard for you too.

whatever hope things at work settle down for you. It sounds like a lot of pressure, but I can also understand your need to 'prove your worth'. Definitely put those feet up over Easter!!

shabbapinkfrog · 04/04/2012 06:44

Morning x

Mine is the 9th as well Chip xx

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shabbapinkfrog · 04/04/2012 07:35

Just starting here Everlong I hate Winter!

Whatevertheweather · 04/04/2012 08:08

Snow?! Are you serious! Wow! It's sunny here although we did have some much needed rain in the night

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blizy · 04/04/2012 08:19

Morning,

We had the snow here yesterday, it was snowing all day! (thankfully it didn't lie though) It is sunny this morning, for how long I wonder?

Whatevertheweather · 04/04/2012 08:22

Grin K is in shorts and t-shirt ready to go to her gymnastics holiday club. Normally I'd be Envy of your snow but not in April!! Weird weather.

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MyLittleMiracle · 04/04/2012 09:28

Sunny and peaceful here, i can hear the birds chirrping away in my garden and it is pure bliss, just the quiet gargles from the little man and birds singing. Glad i havent got snow!

MyLittleMiracle · 04/04/2012 09:35

And it does makes sense. I walked through a cemetry the other day, and as i walked i noticed that on the path were a few teddies, weathered ones, that had been there for a while, but they had been knocked onto the path from a little girls grave, i read the inscription on the grave it said

" A flower, lent not given,
to bud on earth
And bloom in heaven."

I put the teddies back on her grave, and left it tidy. I just thought it was the right thing to do. To put them back, and they bprobably arent as they left them, but they are still there

Tamisara · 04/04/2012 09:56

No snow here - I am strangely disappointed. I'm on a diet, so am happy for an excuse to cover up, until all svelte Grin

MLM That was sweet of you. The quote on the little girl's grave, is on the memorial, at the entrance to the baby section of our cemetery :)

MyLittleMiracle · 04/04/2012 10:07

Fair enough. I am supposed to be dieting, but its sort of gone wrong, didnt really eat much for the last few days until yesterday!

MyLittleMiracle · 04/04/2012 10:08

I have read some truly touching little inscriptions. They always make me cry.

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Tamisara · 04/04/2012 10:15

MLM Don't starve yourself though (says she who ate a ricecake with lemon juice on for lunch yesterday). I put on weight when pregnant with DD1, when all I ate was Galaxy, and macaroni cheese. Even BF her I never shifted the pounds. I started to lose weight just before I got pregnant with Tamsin, and only put on 5lbs by the end of the pregnancy, then lost weight after she died. When I became depressed I began eating Galaxy again. So now I need to shift the pounds, I hate being this big.

I just realised I spent three consecutive years pregnant, until this year. I got pregnant with DD1 late 2009, had her summer 10, then got pregnant again early last year!

Tamisara · 04/04/2012 10:19

everlong It's rubbish when it's cold isn't it? Our bodies naturally want to eat high calorie food, to sustain us. I love porridge, so does DD1, apart from snow globes, toys, cardboard books, and anything else 'inedible' all she will eat is porridge. I'm sick of cooking her food, and her decorating the floor with it :(

MyLittleMiracle · 04/04/2012 10:20

I dont usually starve myself, i was just so sort of busy with the move i didnt really think about food, so sort of forgot to feed myslef, yet still fed little man, it is one f my bad habits. I have to listen to my belly more! But starving yourself makes you lose weight quickly.

I put on weight whilst i was pregnant and after, but i am losing it slowly now.

shabbapinkfrog · 04/04/2012 10:38

Starving yourself doesn't make you loose weight more quickly my friend. It makes you feel very down....exhausted....listless...and sick!!! Take it from somebody who has been trying to loose weight for years and years.

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chipmonkey · 04/04/2012 12:37

Tami, I know you know what you're talking about when it comes to food but what I have found lately is that if I shift my focus from "comforting myself" to "nurturing myself" I do tend to actually eat the fruit and salads and not focus so much on the chocolate. If I do need some Galaxy I have tried to make myself stick to a Ripple bar as it tastes the same but has fewer calories and you still feel like you've had a proper bar!

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Charleymouse · 04/04/2012 13:31

MiaAlexandrasmummy huge congratulations.

Well my Mum has just rung me at work to tell me she won't be visiting with DT2 pressie and card today due to the snow. Not sure why she didn't ring me/him yesterday on his birthday when we were at home, but hey ho. Bitter; moi?

So sorry to see so many new faces on here and releived to see the old. By old I mean regular and not old old. Grin

Tamisara · 04/04/2012 13:47

chip My mum has the same idea as you. She used to recommend I eat the little Freddo Frogs, but I'm the type of person who cannot moderate. I'm fine if I forget chocolate, but a little bit always makes me crave more - I'm a chocoholic in rehab Wink

Charleymouse I'm so sorry that your mum has let you down. Happy Birthday to your DS for yesterday xx

Went to the cemetery. Another little grave there :( Sadly I think I'm becoming hardened to it. I felt sad for the family; sad that their hope, dreams and future, were lying in the cold ground, but not as overwhelmed as I used to be. There have been so many since Tamsin died, and the shock & dread I used to feel has gone, to be replaced with a sad acceptance. I hate that. I cried like a baby myself at Tamsin's grave. I don't always cry there anymore. But today I did, inconsolably. It's exactly a year, since I first saw her on a scan... and her heart beating. I felt so sad, so sad that it stopped, and sorry for her.