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Love, like starlight, never dies... Our precious children sparkling in the sky xx

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CazandBelle · 28/06/2011 11:13

"Small was feeling grim and dark. He was playing toss and fling and bang and crash. Break and snap and bash and batter. Small said ?I?m a grim and grumpy little small and nobody loves me at all?. ?Oh Small,? said Large. ?Grumpy or not, I?ll always love you no matter what.?

Small said, ?If I was a grizzly bear would you still love me would you still care?? ?Of course,? said Large ?bear or not, I?ll always love you no matter what.?

Small said ?But if I turned into a bug, would you still love me and give me a hug?? ?Of course,? said Large ?bug or not, I?ll always love you no matter what.?

?No matter what?? said Small, and smiled, ?What if I was a crocodile?? Large said ?I?d hug you close and hold you tight and tuck you up in bed at night?.
?Does love wear out? said Small, ?does it break or bend? Can you fix it, stick it, does it mend?? ?Oh help,? said Large ?I?m not that clever I just know I?ll love you forever?.

Small said ?but what about when you?re dead and gone, would you love me then, does love go on?? Large held Small snug as they looked out at the night, at the moon in the dark and the stars shining bright.

?Small look at the stars ? how they shine and glow, but some of those stars died a long time ago. Still they shine in the evening skies. Love, like starlight, never dies?.

NO MATTER WHAT by Debi Gliori

Missing my beautiful Belle, a year to the day we placed her to bed in her garden. Mummy and Daddy love you, always. To the moon and back xxx

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 03/08/2011 09:03

Morning Shabs.

Everything is ok here, if not a little warm

M is still asking questions about C which means our explanation about where he is and why has made no sense to him We will have to think of another way of explaining it.

shabbapinkfrog · 03/08/2011 22:32

Hope everybody has had a good day.....its so hot here - its going to be hard to sleep tonight xx

shabbapinkfrog · 04/08/2011 06:36

Morning girls xx

lavandes · 04/08/2011 07:29

Morning ladies xx

travellingwilbury · 04/08/2011 07:51

Morning all , sorry I am AWOL a lot nowadays but I do think of you all often x

I hope everyone is as ok as they can be .

lottiejenkins · 04/08/2011 08:07

Morning ladies, may i echo TW's post!!!

shelleylou · 04/08/2011 08:24

morning all. Just wanted to pop in again and say im thinking of you all. Been finding myself a bit of an emotional wreck lately. One of DP's friends saw a picture of my brother in my lounge last night and said he knew him so wanted to know what had happened. I went on autopiliot numb mode (remove myself from the situation) and explained. I hate it so much. I was sorting out DS's stuff and changing it into a different wardrobe, he wanted to see all his old baby clothes and know who bought him it. I was fine until i got to a little red velour sleepsuit with a snowman on. I burst into tears as i explained his uncle had bought it for his first christmas. It was horrible as i was crying for Matt, what DS is/ has and will miss out on and that DB will never be able to do that with DS2.

Hope the pregnancy is going well Caz

frasersmummy · 04/08/2011 13:05

hey remember me .. another awol member checks in ...

I am working- 4-8 at the moment which means most of the day on my own with ross and then off to work and not back home till 9

no time for myself these days

are we all holding together

frasersmummy · 04/08/2011 13:10

Ilike we told ross that we buried Fraser in his garden and then the angels came and took him to heaven....

completely the wrong thing to say he had nightmares the angels were coming for him and kept saying tell them to bring Fraser back

We then told him that his body was in his garden but the angels had taken his wee cheeky bit up to heaven so he could giggle and play and be cheeky up there .

He seems happy with this for now

shabbapinkfrog · 04/08/2011 16:19

FM I missed you xxx

peterpansmum · 04/08/2011 19:15

^^ ditto what shabs said xx
have had an overwhelming response to the Guardian article xx
been away for a few days.

shabbapinkfrog · 04/08/2011 19:45

The article was really well written and the picture was just beautiful. xxx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 04/08/2011 22:34

Nice to hear from you TW and FM Smile

I'm loathe to use heaven and angels as we are not religious, so neither of those concepts mean anything to me. Blimey this is difficult and wasn't something I thought would happen. I just think he's quite confused by it all. We talk as if C is a member of our family so I think he expects him to be here with us.

shabbapinkfrog · 04/08/2011 22:44

I can remember Danny going through a stage like this. He just could not get his head around the fact that he used to have a twin but now he was not here. After quite a short time it fell into place and he loved hearing stories about Gareth. He says now that he has no memories of Gareth (they were only 7 months when he died) but he loves 'our family' memories. BUT he always says that he is fascinated by twins and always feels incomplete. I think you have to answer any questions as honestly as possible according to age. xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 05/08/2011 06:06

Morning girls xx

lottiejenkins · 05/08/2011 07:49

Morning, Ive just got back into bed with a cup of tea after a welly walk in the fields with Bumble dog!!! I was even brave enough to let him off the lead!!!

frasersmummy · 05/08/2011 10:57

get out of bed Lottie!!!! sorry but if I cant go back to bed none of you can!!

It is hard for the little ones to grasp isnt.. Ross told his nursery teacher he goes to heaven to visit his brother... she was quite concerned . when we spoke to him about it he was adamant.. we all go mum you took him a windmill and some flowers last week and we lit his candle!!!
ahh got you well our local cemetary aint exactly heaven!!

I have just emptied our paddling pool .. the garden is now well flooded- here's hoping it doesnt rain

shabbapinkfrog · 06/08/2011 08:52

Morning girls xx

frasersmummy · 06/08/2011 09:02

morning everyone...

lavandes · 06/08/2011 09:07

Morning ladies xx

shabbapinkfrog · 07/08/2011 07:49

Morning girls xx

frasersmummy · 07/08/2011 12:37

morning .. its very quiet..are we all having a lazy sunday morning

shabbapinkfrog · 07/08/2011 13:00

LOL - not at our house. Cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing etc etc - 'living the dream' - thats me!!!

frasersmummy · 07/08/2011 21:30

I feel like I have being doing that all day too.. so why I am looking around me thinking its no any better than it was this morning (sigh)

shabbapinkfrog · 08/08/2011 06:12

Morning girls xx

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