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Precious memories of all our beloved children, gone too soon but they will live on forever in our hearts

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lavandes · 01/02/2011 13:43

For our beloved Richard, missed so much xx

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shabbapinkfrog · 03/04/2011 14:21

OK xxxx

deemented · 03/04/2011 14:29
Grin
shabbapinkfrog · 03/04/2011 14:55

No Im better than OK - Im 'fine thanks!!!'

lavandes · 03/04/2011 17:06

hugs to you Dee, how are you? xx

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lavandes · 03/04/2011 17:15

should have said how are you really dee xx

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peterpansmum · 03/04/2011 17:23

such a bittersweet day. Missing gregor more than ever today but treasuring the time with ds1 .... Even though ive been grumpy and crabbit! thinking of u all but as shabs said ... Just another day xxxxx

shabbapinkfrog · 03/04/2011 17:28

PPM I really 'get' bittersweet. There's a massive, huge 'elephant' in our living room. DS1 called with a very stroppy, bad tempered Lew. DS1 got to the gritted teeth stage because he wanted Lew to hug me......and we walked around the 'elephant' not saying what we really wanted to. I wanted to shout really loudly that my four sons should all be at mine - teasing each other, laughing, clowning around.

In the end Lew said 'Me is THE BOSS here I just looked at him and said 'I think you will find that you ARE NOT young man.' His reply 'well....well....well me is the most nowty knickers then!!'

GColdtimer · 03/04/2011 17:32

Just popping my head around the door to say I am thinking of all of you who have lost your pecious children. I can't imagine how hard today must be.

shabbapinkfrog · 03/04/2011 17:39

Thank you Twofalls. x

shabbapinkfrog · 03/04/2011 17:52

Just found this in a Compassionate Friends newsletter.

DEAR MR HALLMARK

I am writing to you from Heaven, and though it must appear
a rather strange idea, I see everything from here.
I just popped in to visit your stores to find a card
a card of love for my Mother, as this day, for her is hard.

There must be some mistake, I thought, every card you could imagine.
except I could not find a card from a child who lives in Heaven.
She is still a Mother too, no matter where I reside.
I had to leave, she understands, but oh the tears she's cried.

I thought that if I wrote to you that you would come to know
that though I live in Heaven now, I still love my Mother so.
She talks with me, and dreams with me, we still share laughter too,
memories are our way of speaking now, would you see what you could do?

My Mother carries me in her heart, her tears she hides from sight
She writes poems to honour me, sometimes far into the night.
She plants flowers in my garden, there my living memory dwells
and writes to other grieving parents trying to ease their pain as well.

So you see, Mr Hallmark, though I no longer live on earth
I must find a way to remind her of her wondrous worth
She needs to be honoured, and remembered too
just as the children on earth will do.

Thank you, Mr Hallmark, I know you'll do your best
I have done all I can do, to you I'll leave the rest.
Find a way to tell her, how much she means to me
until I can do it for myself, when she joins me in eternity.

Jody Selheimer, Johannesburg Compassionate Friends.

lavandes · 03/04/2011 17:53

Today is when we all earn an Oscar. It is just another day, but a bit more crappy than most, it will soon be tomorrow. Love and strength to all of us , we are ALL amazing xx

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lavandes · 03/04/2011 18:23

That's a lovely poem shabs xx

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janedoe25 · 03/04/2011 19:20

such a nice poem shabs.
I hope you all managed through today, I have struggled quite badly. I should have been celebrating my first ever mothers day with my baby daughter, instead i have spent the day crying my heart out.
Oh well, tomorrow is another day ................

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janedoe25 · 03/04/2011 19:50

im sorry for the selfish post, i know you are all in the same boat.
I really do hope everyone is ok.

thank you everlong
xx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 03/04/2011 19:54

Well, here we are ladies. Another Mother's Day nearly drawing to a close.

A very bittersweet day. Wanting to celebrate being a mother, but mostly wishing for someone who isn't here.

We've had a busy day today so I mostly been able to brush the elephant in the room under the carpet, but now M is in bed my thoughts really turn to C.

Love to us all xxx

peterpansmum · 03/04/2011 19:56

is it nearly bedtime yet? My mask is slipping!! Have been off the booze for three months now but my resolve is being tested today!! Xx

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Heliantha · 03/04/2011 20:13

Lots of love to everyone. Tomorrow will be here soon xx

AxisofEvil · 03/04/2011 21:24

My first mothers' day without my girls. So hard.

Charleymouse · 03/04/2011 22:02

Happy Mothers day lovely ladies.

Hope everyone has had a special day and it has not been too hard for you.

Much love

Charleymouse
xxx

frasersmummy · 03/04/2011 22:04

oh shabs you have moved both my hubby and I to tears

I have been too busy to be upset this year.. but now Ross is in bed my emotions are catching up with me

I am now trying to drown my sorrows but they seem to be strong swimmers.. Here's too all our darling children and to us

lottiejenkins · 03/04/2011 22:06

Hello all, I am just popping in to send love to everyone!! xx

shabbapinkfrog · 04/04/2011 00:00

Charleymouse - I miss you, we dont 'bump' into each other enough on here. Sending my love and thoughts to you. Also thinking about all of you on this amazing thread. today was just another day, today was just another day xxxxxxxxx