Precious memories of all our beloved children, gone too soon but they will live on forever in our hearts

[lavandes]

For our beloved Richard, missed so much xx

Morning ppm so glad to hear that you have made it through March in one piece. It must have been so difficult for you and your family.

I'm a bit fragile at the moment to be honest. I can say that to you cos you and all the other lovely mums understand. If anyone else asks I say 'I'm fine' I know they don't really understand so I 'don't go there' much.

We are going to try to be busy in April. We are going to France next weekend for a few days, which will be a welcome break from home. I know that the days leading upto all the anniversaries are worse than the actual days, so I am trying to focus on that and deal with each one as it comes.

I am so glad that your work is going well. What you are doing is great and I hope you continue to enjoy it, you are going to help so many people. xx

Oh Lavendes I totally understand your words 'fragile' and 'I'm fine.' I think we should all set a day when we tell the truth so that when someone asks 'How are you' we say 'Im totally crap, fed up, missing my child, wishing the world would stop for a while cause I want to get off, pissed off, tired, exhausted and.......what? You did ask!!!'

Good idea shabs. One of the girls at work had a miscarriage recently. Everyone is saying to her ' oh you look so much better' she doesn't, she looks dreadful, pale and tired. I talked to her yesterday and asked her how she really felt, and she told me. She said that no-one knows what to say to her and I told her that I completely understood and that she could talk to me anytime and that it is early days for her. xx

Well done you. Well done for caring and offering your help. Thats how we all walk this 'crappy path' - offering a hand to others and accepting love and support from people who 'know' what we are talking about. I know I dont know the lady you are talking about but please will you give her a hug from me? xxx

outside faces ladies..as a friend has just pointed out one day you're the statue the next the pidgeon! Def a pidgeon at the moment, Mothers day so hard, no one to buy a card for as Mum died recently and obviuosly nothing from Sian this year. DD2 working in Germany so no chance of any family together on Sunday, feel like crawling into a hole until weekend over.

Just a daft thought - have you an elderly neighbour who you like or maybe a single Mum who you know? Maybe take a little bunch of daffodils to them? Hope you dont think I have finally lost the plot but just wondered if that would help?

I have just read that back and it sounds odd and not helpful in any way!!!

will just stick with the elderly husband. Maybe when I'm further down the track I'll be able to share with other peoples children but not this year:(

Morning girls xx

I know what you mean Kaz - hope my post didn't upset you. I often talk without thinking properly x

Hi ladies xx

Peeping round the corner again. Hope everyone has had a good evening. xx

kaz I know just where you are coming from. To be honest Mothers Day would always be a 'non event' in our house, some years he may have sent a card one year he sent a Greenday cd sometimes he sent flowers, but not very often, mostly it was a phone call we are not 'big' on cards etc for any occasion.Richard knew that. Our son in Australia will have no idea it is Mothers Day as it is on a different day there - 8th May - ( I could have said crappy day but I am too polite) I do know that daughters are different and do remember these days. Hope you have some peace when all this crappy hype has passed xx

takes a deep breath....... love to you all today, you will all be in my thoughts as I know you are the only people out there who truly share this pain. Stay true to yourself ladies and I wish you all peace through treasured memories. xxxx

morning ladies ...

I clearly remember my first mothers day without Fraser - I couldnt stop crying the whole day.

When Ross came along it was soo odd.. everyone was so excited for me having my first mothers day ... didnt seem to occur to anyone that I should be upset

Now its a day of real mixed emotions ... ross went downstairs, poured me some cereal and milk and brought it to me in bed with home made pressies. I am so proud and happy to have him but his big brother is missing more than usual this morning

My heart goes out to all of you and remember we are all mums even if your dc arent here this morning

and here is someting to make you smile. I am hosting a party for 30 kids this afternoon ..wish me lcuk

frasersmum....ooo er! brave or what...have a very large glass of red (or 2!) on me, sounds like you'll need it!!

Morning girls xx

Its just another day my friends....just another day xxx

Must remember to chant that to myself

Hello ladies xx

Hope we all have a peaceful day. I have decided to 'big myself up' today. I have nearly completed the worst year of my life and I have survived. I may be fragile at the moment but I am still here, I think I am a stronger person than I was before. I have become more compassionate than I was before. I go to work and do my job just as well as I did before, I would be an oscar winning actress if there was an award for this. I am still a good mum and granny. I will give myself a round of applause and have a very large gin and tonic before my delicious lunch which I am cooking now.

The round of applause is for us all for surviving xxx

Lavendes your post says it all. I think we are all amazing that we are still putting one foot in front of the other!!! Just patting myself on the back now!! xxxxx

I'll pour you a very large gin and tonic for being amazing xx

OMG I love gin and tonic xxx

Hope everyone has a gentle day xxx

i hate mothers day...it remind me so much of my darling matty....his hugs were legendary and his smile was perfect...being a mum of an angel in heaven is hard...i just wish his wings would envelop me....and take away the pain...but mothers day should be a time of happiness..instead now it is a time of great sadness and grief...have cried tears all morning...it has been 2 years without my precious son....my life is now just manageable...will never be truly happy again :(

Doormat I remember you from a couple of years ago on MN. Your post made my heart race. I lost a little lad called Matty as well Glad you found this thread - its a safe haven for me. Just sorry we had to meet here. xxx

shabba pleased to meet ya babe...like you it should be under different circumstances but it isnt....hugs to you (((()))

This Mothers Day

If we can touch our children, or not.
We are still their Mother.
We bourne them, gave them to this life and gave them love.
We have held them, cried silent tears of joy, pain, anger and love. Most of all, love.

Our children are in us, all around us, are everything we do.
Even if we can't see them, we just need to close our eyes and they are there.
We are their Mothers.
No one can change that.
We wouldn't want them to.

Beautiful very true words Dee - how are you doing love? xx

I'm ok (yeah that ambiquitous word again!)

How are you my lovely?