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37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

886 replies

CheeseandGherkins · 03/12/2010 12:17

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

OP posts:
ilovesprouts · 05/12/2010 20:36

i am going to bed shortly but will be thinking of you xx

SirBoobAlot · 05/12/2010 20:39

Thinking of you tonight, C&G. xx

missthing · 05/12/2010 20:43

So so sorry. Thinking of you.xxx

SpotSplatterSplash · 05/12/2010 20:46

I am so sorry, there is nothing more that I can say.

Thinking of you and your DH xxx

packofcards · 05/12/2010 20:47

Sweethart so very very sorry for you and your family. Xxx

PollyLogos · 05/12/2010 20:50

Thinking of you and DH. I am so sorry.

MittzyBittzyTeenyWeeny · 05/12/2010 20:54

Sad so deeply sorry for you and your family xx

FooffysFestiveShmooffery · 05/12/2010 20:54

Sadso sorry x

tummytickler · 05/12/2010 20:57

So sorry for your loss Sad . Wishing you and your family lots of love and strength.
Will light a candle for you and your precious dd.

mafog · 05/12/2010 20:59

I'm so sorry, you're in my thoughts. Stay strong.

RumourOfAHurricane · 05/12/2010 21:06

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Horton · 05/12/2010 21:07

Thinking of you here, too. Hope this is easier than you expect. I'm so so sorry for your loss.

DownyEmerald · 05/12/2010 21:09

So desperately sad for you and your family. Thinking of you x

pagwatch · 05/12/2010 21:11

I hope that the thoughts of so many who care about you will give you some strength at this time.

I send you mine too.

neverenoughMEtime · 05/12/2010 21:14

So so sorry :( Thinking of you and your precious little angel tonight xx

ChippingIn · 05/12/2010 21:15

At least the hospital staff seem really nice & caring, a small thing to be glad of at this time. I hope you manage to get some rest x

billybunter · 05/12/2010 21:16

I've read all of your thread, I'm so sorry you are going through this C&G.

You carried your precious girl all these months, she felt your presence and your love. She will be born innocent and perfect always, her memory treasured forever.

I have a candle lit for you. Xx

MyLittleOwls · 05/12/2010 21:18

So, so sorry for you all Sad

I hope you find strength and comfort.

Thinking off you this evening.

smilingserenely · 05/12/2010 21:22

so sorry for your loss.

thinking of you and your family at this horrendous time and wishing you all peace and strength in the days , weeks and years to come.

snugglepops · 05/12/2010 21:22

I am so sorry for you and your family.

gonerogue · 05/12/2010 21:23

I have read all of the thread with tears streaming down my cheeks. All my thoughts are with you and your family tonight.
Cherish the time you have with your little angel

monkeyfacegrace · 05/12/2010 21:24

Sobbing here with you darling. What is your little girl going to be called? x

josette · 05/12/2010 21:24

I am very sorry for your loss. Am thinking of you and your family tonight and in the coming months ahead. xxx

BarbaraWindsor · 05/12/2010 21:24

I'm very sorry for what you are going through.
I cannot imagine how painful it is for you.

So sorry xxx

Fibilou · 05/12/2010 21:30

you are in my prayers tonight. I am so, so sorry xxx