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Flying high enjoying their wings, Remembering our precious much loved children...

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CazandBelle · 21/11/2010 20:35

For my beautiful Anabelle Violet. Born an angel.

Mummy and Daddy miss and love you so much. Always. xxx

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shabbapinkfrog · 31/12/2010 16:07

Beautiful PPM - well done you xxxx

peterpansmum · 31/12/2010 16:21

Thanks shabs ... Did u spot my typo? I am here with dh and ds1 although am sure ds2 is with me tonight too as he is always... Love to u n yours tonight and always xxxxx

PositiveAttitude · 31/12/2010 17:31

Just popping my head in here to give you a big hug for 2011. I know there will be many mixed emotions, but I always thought, for me, it was a good time to mentally take a step into a better, brighter future - I always tried, anyway!! I know this wont be how everyone sees it, but I wish you all a happier and healthy 2011.

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hazygirl · 01/01/2011 06:10

happy new year my friends, xx
thanks heliantha for advice,midwife says she has serious disattachment issue, trying hotwater in basket before she goes in tnite,the most sleep in ought is 20 mins,,put her down and legs and arm shiver, bless her ,midwife says could be bloood sugars, but ok and happy with her.
dd1 went to see her today,shes had five and cant get over how tiny baby is ,lol

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 01/01/2011 09:36

Another New Year is here. I don't know quite what to think of it tbh.

Sorry I have been awol. I have been lurking a bit but don't seem to be able to find any words. I think my mind is in pregnancy mode and I'm using all my energy to concentrate on growing this baby.

Many congratulations to you and your dd Hazy, lovely news Smile

I hope you have lots of fun SWI Dee Grin

As always, you are all in my thoughts a lot xxxx

shabbapinkfrog · 01/01/2011 09:59

Morning girls xx

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deemented · 01/01/2011 17:21

Grrrr Angry

Am raging at a comment made by Baccus on the Eastenders thread. Have had to be very restrained in my reply!

christmasrocks · 01/01/2011 17:39

deemented, think we`re all raging at her stupid comments. please dont let it get to you xx

peterpansmum · 01/01/2011 18:09

Dee... Much love xx

Heliantha · 01/01/2011 18:48

What makes me sad (but explains a lot) is how this storyline got through all the editorial process without someone saying that it was absurd :( I think it's comforting for some people to think that bereaved parents (& mothers in particular) go mad with grief. Wouldn't it be interesting to see a drama depicting the crass response of family/friends?

deemented · 01/01/2011 18:50

Oh it would indeed!

travellingwilbury · 01/01/2011 18:52

Dee me too , fucker !

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CazandBelle · 01/01/2011 19:26

I didn't see what was said, its been deleted. but i get the picture. I've posted now. Forgive me dee for coping over from my blog, but I'm completely out of energy to say it all again, and I'm really struggling with the new year at the moment.

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Minione · 01/01/2011 20:54

Happy New year everyone.

I've just posted on Dee's thread, that Bacchus character is clearly a plank with no idea.

Hope you are all well x

shabbapinkfrog · 02/01/2011 13:55

Hiya girls xxxx

peterpansmum · 02/01/2011 15:30

Afternoon shabs and all you other lovely ladies. We are just back from two lovely days at my parents. I caught up with a few old friends while I was there. (whispers) I actually would go as far as saying I did enjoy it!

I am well aware that each of us will have coped very differently over the last week or so... I remember the despair from last new years day when dh and I had possibly the worst day of our marriage...

I cannot go as far as wishing anyone a happy new year but I know I'm coping better than this time last year... I wish all of us bursts of happiness this year ... For me I would love this year to bring weight loss and a pregnancy... One of these is within my control the other isn't so I guess my starting point is weight loss! Wish me luck ladies !!

shabbapinkfrog · 02/01/2011 15:35

Wishing you all the luck in the world....P.S. If anybody is thinking of sprinkling that pregnancy dust around, please dont throw any my way LOL!!!

peterpansmum · 02/01/2011 15:38

Thanks shabs pmsl at the thought of anyone chucking babydust in your direction lol!!

shabbapinkfrog · 02/01/2011 15:46

I have run out of boys names and haven't had a period for almost 3 years BUT you cant be too careful Grin

If I had a daughter I would have to call her 'Howthehelldidthathappen' Grin

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CazandBelle · 03/01/2011 07:56

Morning ladies. How is everyone? I've not been able to stay away from that EE thread, even though some of the ignorance is astounding.

I am in London, we came down yesterday. Having a lovely time. We have only been together once before, our first Xmas and new year together and it was such a great time we decided to come back this year to relive some happy memories. Already planning to come back again for our birthdays in March and watch a show because we've never done that. Going to Harrods today, dh has never been!

Trying to be positive by going to our happy places to start the year off.

Will be back home tonight.

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shabbapinkfrog · 03/01/2011 08:50

Morning girls xx

Caz I am the same!! I am also, still, a little suspicious of anyone who asks me anything on there Shock - I keep thinking 'I hope this is not a troll.' 'I hope they are not taking the micky out of me.' Then, as usual, I wear my heart on my sleeve and pour out feelings.

The EE storyline has really made me think about Gareth. I brought him into our bed for a few minutes extra sleep. Me and DH lay with him in our arms and we snoozed for an extra 10 minutes. When we woke he had died. I clearly remember running down the stairs and dialling 999 but that is all I can remember Shock My poor DH must have carried him down because the ambulance men worked on him in the living room. BUT what I did for the 10 minutes before they came is a total and utter blank.

I cant ask DH what happened. Without sounding OTT he is very 'fragile' about the loss of his sons. He finds it hard to talk about it and I cant cope with his tears. We are a strange pair!!!!

deemented · 03/01/2011 09:52

Oh Shabbs - i'm sorry that that thread has sparked so much for you - i just felt that it had to be addressed.

I want answers from scriptwriters as to why they thought that this swap storyline could possibly be a good idea.

Much love to all x

shabbapinkfrog · 03/01/2011 10:34

Nooooooooo Dee - dont apologise!!

Its just the weirdest thing ever....I keep trying to remember what happened....how can you pack away all that shock and grief for almost 29 years???? I think the human brain must be an amazing thing! I keep thinking about what happened, and there is NO memory - WTF???

You dont have to say sorry to me...you really, really dont. xxx

deemented · 03/01/2011 11:08

I think it's our natural defences, sheilding ourselves from the hurt.

I remembered, only last year, that i had knitted Ciaran a shawl in which to be buried in. My mother knitted some of it, my friend who was his godmother did some, my sister did some. It was full of holes and completely imperfect, but it was something i'd made for him. I started it a few days after finding out he was likely to die, and finished it a few days before he was buried. Yet i'd completely forgotten about it. For six years. How could i do that? It was only my sister mentioning my mum crying whilst knitting that i remembered it.

I really do think my subconcious hid it away so i wouldn't feel anymore hurt, iyswim?

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