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Flying high enjoying their wings, Remembering our precious much loved children...

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CazandBelle · 21/11/2010 20:35

For my beautiful Anabelle Violet. Born an angel.

Mummy and Daddy miss and love you so much. Always. xxx

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shabbapinkfrog · 17/12/2010 05:00

Morning girls xx

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CazandBelle · 17/12/2010 16:52

Afternoon everyone... Quiet at the moment because I can hardly find the energy to post if that makes sense.

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lottiejenkins · 17/12/2010 17:24

Ladies, i wont be online much for the next two weeks. When Wilf is at home the computer has to be put away,,,,,,,, I will try and sneak on on Jacks birthday!! Sad

shabbapinkfrog · 18/12/2010 09:29

Morning girls xx

lavandes · 18/12/2010 13:33

Hello ladies. If just getting through this Christmas was not enough to put up with I am now at work and my colleague (we are receptionists) has turned up dressed as mother f**ng Christmas!!! I am not amused. Bah humbug xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 18/12/2010 13:56

@ Mother f*ing Christmas Grin

Bah humbug!!

spilttheteaagain · 18/12/2010 14:13

Bah humbug indeed!

I felt similar when I had to put up and decorate the work Christmas tree this week Angry

peterpansmum · 18/12/2010 15:57

Totally agree bah humbug!!

Have had a better day or two... Was out at panto last night with ds1 n his beaver n cub group... Was really good. Supposed to be going out for a meal n drinks with good friends tonight as it's one of their birthdays. Really want to go but feel like I drag my sack of crabbit Christmas with me wherever I go and don't feel like inflicting myself on others if that makes any sense!!

Minione · 18/12/2010 17:36

Hi Ladies

Dragged myself Christmas shopping today, I had no pleasure doing this and found it very stressful.

My colleague bought her new baby in yesterday - I held her! She's gorgous and tiny but I managed to hold her without cracking up. I am pretty proud of myself!

Hope you are all ok, we're supposed to be going out tonight but I feel exhausted.

lavandes · 19/12/2010 00:21

mini you should be proud of yourself xx

Just got back from Christmas do with my workmates. To be honest I was dreading it and wondered why I said yes but we had a nice time. Thankfully the meal took up most of the evening and we did not get involved in the dancing, got an early taxi home. Had a chat with the girl who organised it and she said that she understood why I was apprehensive, and I think they all understood. Sometimes I think I am being unkind about them, they were all so nice to us tonight and I am grateful for their kindness to us over the last 8 months.

Spoke to my eldest son this morning, he realised I was stressed and told me to stop panicking, he would be here on Tuesday and we would have a nice time. That has calmed me down a bit. I can't wait to see him and give him a huge hug. he actually said 'for gods sake mum stop it and calm down I will be there on Tuesday, don#t forget to get me some cornish pasties and turn the heating up!' xx

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CazandBelle · 19/12/2010 08:28

Morning ladies..

Mini you should be proud of yourself. I still couldn't do that.

Lavandes - I went to my works xmas meal on Friday night in the end - feeling the same as you and wondering why on earth I'd said yes when I'm hating the rest of christmas and was feeling so crap all week anyway. But, it was a lovely evening, spent with some good friends and I even enjoyed a bit of dancing. It didn't feel like a christmas party, the place wasn't overly decorated and it just felt like a normal work night out. Felt guilty as anything afterwards, but to be honest I think it was the breather I needed.

Also sniggering at Mother F*** christmas! Haha! Great expression!

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shabbapinkfrog · 19/12/2010 09:44

Morning girls xx

hazygirl · 19/12/2010 18:10

evening girls

shabbapinkfrog · 19/12/2010 18:18

evening Hazy xxxx

shabbapinkfrog · 20/12/2010 08:11

Morning girls. I, OFFICIALLY, HATE WINTER!!!! Confused

Temperature here at the moment is -10 and we are going to reach the dizzy heights of -3 today!

travellingwilbury · 20/12/2010 08:43

Morning x

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CazandBelle · 20/12/2010 12:23

Joining in the hating winter. Snow has just ruined my shopping day to buy myself something pretty and I bet it will ruin our plan to spend some time with Belle in her garden on Saturday too. In a foul mood, today was going to be my only good day this week.

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spilttheteaagain · 20/12/2010 13:36

I hate it too. I have just got home from work after doing nothing all morning apart from staring out the window at the snow and whimpering in fear. Eventally asked to take a half day and legged it at 11.30. Only lost control of the car 3 times.... twice I was expecting it to happen because of the road/slope/angles so was doing about 1mph in first gear so it was far from dramatic thankfully. I hate the snow. Now need to extract my neck from my shoulders!

House is 13 degrees. Vile.

mini well done with your colleague's little girl. I am scared as on Wednesday morning I have to go to the goodbye gathering for a colleague leaving to go on maternity leave (an in work meeting request rather than post work pub session). I have managed to avoid her so far but this I really really should go to, but I get so upset by big bumps. Not sure what to do.

AxisofEvil · 20/12/2010 15:09

Spilt I just wouldn't go to your colleague's do. Presumably she knows about your loss? Then I would email her saying you wish her all the best but you're sure she will understand you don't feel able to attend in person.

travellingwilbury · 20/12/2010 15:12

Spilt , why do you think you need to go ?
I agree with axis I would stay away . I would lay money on her having been avoiding you lately as you have her . Don't put yourself through it , life is hard enough at the min xx

spilttheteaagain · 20/12/2010 15:28

Thanks girls, you talk sense. I still feel rude though. Especially as she won't be coming back (relocating in the spring with her DH). But I suppose if she won't be coming back then if I offend her it won't matter Grin I've written a nice message in her leaving card though (suitably vague, best wishes for the future yadda yadda, couldn't bring myself to write birth or baby)

I'll wait and see. If I'm snowed in on Wednesday anyway then I have no decision to make.

Minione · 20/12/2010 16:21

Spilt It has taken me 6 months to get to the point when I could hold a baby, don't go if you don't want to, I'm sure she wouldn't be offended.

Yes, freezing here too, its the last day of term tomorrow so hoping it will snow and we'll get the day off!

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CazandBelle · 20/12/2010 18:14

Split don't do it to yourself. you don't have to go, I doubt she'll even notice who is there and who is not. and even if she does she should understand. I think Axis is right - just email her.

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lavandes · 20/12/2010 19:02

spilt I agree with everyone else you don't have to go. Just maybe send her a card, don't put yourself through it. xx

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CazandBelle · 20/12/2010 21:34

AF finally arrived. Thank God. I've never been sol pleased to see it!!

Now we can get down to ttc in the new year.

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